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Husband and secret - 7/2/2008 1:26:02 PM
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haines607
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I need my Christian friends for Christian advice. It is my goal 99% of the time to react in the way Christ wants me to react and to behave he would expect me to, so I need help!
When my husband and I were first married, after six months of marriage I caught him searching for women on myspace with those nasty sites. And he did a search for some porn but only watched probably 10 seconds of it and then he stopped. He said he stopped because he knew it was wrong and he felt convicted. He never told me about this situation and I found all of this on the history of our computer so I confronted him. He felt so guilty, I could see it, and he promised he would never do it again and even more so he apologized he would never hurt me like that again. I explained to him that I view porn or searching for women or lusting after them as a form of cheating. The Bible does say if you lust after a women then you are committing adultery.
Then about a year later I caught him again and the worst part was that he totally lied to me for a few days and when he did confess he didn't see the big deal about it and said I was over reacting. We found out a few days later that I was pregnant with our first child so he blamed my reactions on my emotional rollercoaster.
Just today, I viewed our cable bill and found that he ordered two porn movies over the past couple of months. Those who would defend him would say, "it was only two" or "every guy does it" so if that is your answer then please stop reading this. Where I come from, a man treasures his wife, promises to be true to her in good times AND in bad, doesn't lie to her, doesn't hide things and has control over his desires God has placed in him.
How would you address this if you were in my situation? I have to be honest with you all, I am so mad, hurt and upset I don't want to react in the Christian way right now but I have control over myself so I won't react in the way the enemy want me to, I won't give him power in that way too in my marriage.
I believe in prayer, so please pray for me, my husband and us. Give me good Christian advice.
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RE: Husband and secret - 7/2/2008 1:49:22 PM
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karlie
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Moderator's Note:
There are already two ongoing threads which discuss pornography in marriage. I am closing this thread and linking to those. Please follow one of the links below to continue this discussion. Thank you!
Husband addicted to pornography
I fount out something about DH
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