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Needing advice about a friend. - 10/12/2008 9:37:13 PM   
misty35


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Some know about the friend that I have, that really shocked me, after I witnessed to him about Jesus Christ, and the transformation that He has made in my life. This friend and me, only speak through emails, and he told me that he didnt want to speak to me anymore, not until I was ready for the truth. That really hurt me at first, but I respected him, and I havent emailed him anymore. He believes that there were gods before Jesus Christ who did the same things that Christ did, just alot of things that hold No truth to them at all. And that the Bible is a fairytale. But anyway, tonight he has started emailing me again, saying the only way we can be friends, is if we dont discuss my beliefs anymore, and he wont discuss his with me. Im ok with that, but deep down in my heart, I just have no desire to even speak to him anymore. Is that wrong of me? I know Jesus Christ is Love, we are suppose to extend our hand to those in need, but I just have this feeling in me that the best thing to do, is just cut this friendship off, and then on the other hand, I feel guilty for feeling this way.

My life is so consumed with Jesus Christ, spreading His Word, helping those in need, that I just dont feel that I have a place for this friend anymore. Is what Im feeling right? Am I wrong? He is so against God, that I dont even feel like me and him have anything in common. And when I do email him, all I want to do is to tell him to wake up!! All I want to do is tell him how deceived and lied to he is being. I feel so full of anger when I receive emails from him, telling me to keep my beliefs to myself. I have nothing to say to him, but then I feel guilty, and I hate feeling guilty. I need some advice guys.

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RE: Needing advice about a friend. - 10/12/2008 9:47:59 PM   
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Misty35,
This friend is being honest with you. And it is honest people that Jesus can reach. We cannot force Jesus on others. The Holy Spirit must do His work in your friend's heart. Are you willing to be patient and kind to your friend knowing that it is God's forbearance, patience and kindness that led you and continues to lead you to repentance? There was a time when you did not see, did not hear and did not understand. But God bore with you. And He continues to bear with you and me. If you want to be Jesus to your friend, I think you have to bury your need to tell him what to believe and instead just love Him as Jesus loves, accept him as Jesus accepts him, and be there for him. Pray for him and believe that God is going to do a work in his heart and bring him to salvation. If you can't do it 'up close and personal', then pray for him from a distance. But I think the Lord has put this person in your path for you to love. Those are my thoughts. Bless you, LL
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RE: Needing advice about a friend. - 10/12/2008 9:52:01 PM   
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listen to your heart, if you feel he will drag you away from your faith, than don't ifyou feel this friend will be a blessing to you than by all means, pray and ask God
God Bless

Dear Lord, I lift up Misty into your loving hands, your word says if any of us lacks wisdom, let him ask in faith. please give misty wisdom and guidence on this situation in Jesus mighty name AMEN
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RE: Needing advice about a friend. - 10/12/2008 9:53:17 PM   
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2 Cor. 6:14 Tells us not to be yoked together with unbeliever's.

Is your guilt from not being able to bring him to Christ or is from your feeling of not wanting to socialize with him. It seems you did all you could to help save him, not everyone will be saved. I myself would find it really difficult to socialize with someone who is so adamantly against God. Since our faith is expressed through our behavior too, I would find it impossible not to bring God up occasionally. I would still probably send him occasional thought provoking emails. He can always delete them if he doesn't like them.

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RE: Needing advice about a friend. - 10/12/2008 10:04:09 PM   
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misty

You're newly divorced, you're going on with Christ but feeling quite vulnerable. I honestly think you should be surrounding yourself with people who will support you and help you feel encouraged, rather than people who may drain you and feed off you.

Right now I don't know whether you should just not reply, or whether you should reply simply "I am sorry, I can't do that. When you want to talk about coming back to Christ you know where I am".

Commit the situation to prayer, and don't do anything on impulse.

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RE: Needing advice about a friend. - 10/12/2008 10:15:02 PM   
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