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ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/5/2008 4:20:32 AM
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ethnica
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Hi all. I'm new to this forum and I'm just curious about your views on online dating or online search.
Is the world wide web a proper arena to search for or be searched
by God's chosen "One"?
Have you had experiences of this sort? How was it?
Thanks for the reply.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/5/2008 9:18:29 AM
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revbob4God
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Although I have been married so many years I never used the Internet until recently, I think a little old time advice may help.
I think you may have a better go of it if you date in person. The reason? People can say anything online and you may never know who an online person really is. For example they can sound really great online, and then when and if you finally meet them...Ewwww or Ouch!
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/5/2008 1:04:25 PM
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revbob4God
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Amen, and there's always that pig in a poke that you may not be able to see online.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/6/2008 1:29:15 PM
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huskarine
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you should listen to the song "Online" by Brad Paisley...
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/6/2008 3:39:54 PM
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CoachSteve
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I am currently doing it. I actually met my last girlfriend through eharmony. we lasted 14 months, and then in the end we just weren't made for each other. I am back trying again with a lot less luck this time around. my time is almost up and I won't be renewing for now.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/7/2008 1:34:51 AM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: ethnica
Hi all. I'm new to this forum and I'm just curious about your views on online dating or online search.
God will use online dating as a method of meeting for some people, for others, He may not. Not everyone meets the same.
Everyone's experience can either be positive or negative, depending on if those involved seek the will of God for their relationship. That will ultimately determine the success of that experience.
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Is the world wide web a proper arena to search for or be searched by God's chosen "One"?
For some people, yes. For others, no. For me personally, it was the only method that would've worked.
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Have you had experiences of this sort? How was it?
It was the method God seen fit to use for me to find my future wife, and He did, so I am very thankful for it. Above all else, pray about it before you go into something like this, though.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/7/2008 10:53:25 PM
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willfs
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I have tried online dating and here are the pros and cons I saw.
Pros:
Everyone is there for similiar reasons.
You can personalize who you are looking for.
You can search for someone without leaving your home.
Some places over dating advice, matching systems, profile building help...etc...
(For women) There are many more guys than girls, except for eharmony.
Cons:
Costs money to just talk with someone.
There isn't usually that great a selection.
You aren't meeting the people in person and don't really "know" them until you do.
Most of your matches will probably live in other cities/states/regions/countries.
(For women) Very unsafe guys can mask themselves. I have heard some horror stories from girls who met guys online.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/10/2008 9:17:57 AM
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jn1010lf
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Hello ethnica
Okay, lets get real here. One can find anything he wants on the Internet. It's just like all other areas of life; one usually gets what he goes after.
It's hilarious how some treat internet relationships. I consider it just another way to meet people. I met a lady on a web site, we met casually and are now married. That doesn't mean it's going to go that way with everyone.
So, like all other issues of life, it gets down the the hearts of people and what those hearts want.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/11/2008 1:24:48 PM
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iwillfearnoevil
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i see some similiarities between finding a date with finding a job. is anyone hesistant to check monster.com or look in their newspaper's online classified ads? putting together your resume is kinda like working on your profile. i liken improving job skills by taking training classes could make you look more attractive just as losing weight or updating your hairstyle/wardrobe. i have other thoughts that carry this analogy further but have a headache and am done brainstorming for now :)
online dating sites can just help you search - you don't need to search across the country for a LDR, you can search your own town. you are in control - you can dictate when and where you meet and the pace of the relationship.
i agree with jn1010lf when he says "I consider it just another way to meet people." there is also so much misunderstandings of this area - it's not like you are going on virtual dates every night. and as heartfull points out, maybe people should meet who they are talking to like way before 4 years if you are serious about a relationship and not just wanting to chat.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/11/2008 1:38:48 PM
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willfs
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It can be a great way to find someone. I have personally heard of many who found a date, friend, relationship, and spouse on dating web sites. I just have a few cautions/concerns:
Too many people fall in love with someone they havn't met. Its smart to meet ASAP, even if for just a cup of coffee.
Too many put up old pictures and/or pictures that purposely hide important physical traits
Too many crazy guys. Women (and probably men as well) need to be cautious and meet in public places until you really get to know him.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/11/2008 2:04:41 PM
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I just celebrated our first anniversary with my wife, who I met on eHarmony. I had been on eH for over 3 years and was just about to give up, then God brought the perfect woman for me through my computer. The thing I liked about eH was that it cut out all the uncertainty of attraction and starting to date. Their approach was like, here you two are, you're both doing this for the same reason, you're compatible for these reasons, now go find out if you could get married. I'm not sure if I had met my wife at church, or work, or wherever, that I would have asked her out, either for lack of nerve, or maybe someone else beats me to it, or a friend of mine likes her, etc. So I'd say give it a shot, who knows what God can do.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/11/2008 2:12:17 PM
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iwillfearnoevil
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Too many people fall in love with someone they havn't met. Its smart to meet ASAP, even if for just a cup of coffee.
i agree so much with this!!! full blown date isn't even required, coffee or maybe ice cream is public, low pressure, and inexpensive, and should be able to determine if a followup date is something you want. when we don't know something about someone, our mind fills in the blanks. so even something that's not a negative trait, could be perceived as one if you've spent months thinking and expecting this person is like that, and then you might be possibly disappointed.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/16/2008 12:45:31 AM
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ethnica
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quote:
ORIGINAL: willfs
It can be a great way to find someone. I have personally heard of many who found a date, friend, relationship, and spouse on dating web sites. I just have a few cautions/concerns:
Too many people fall in love with someone they havn't met. Its smart to meet ASAP, even if for just a cup of coffee.
Too many put up old pictures and/or pictures that purposely hide important physical traits
Too many crazy guys. Women (and probably men as well) need to be cautious and meet in public places until you really get to know him.
Thanks for the caution, can't agree with you more.
I met an online friend for the first time. I brought another friend with me who was also on a date. Makes me feel comfortable that I have a friend during that time.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/18/2008 4:19:26 PM
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Rockwall
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I actually had great success with online dating. I did it about 9 years ago and don't regret how me and the wife met one bit. We talked for about 2 months before meeting in person, and we didn't have a clue what the other one looked like because there was no pictures. Since we talked for so long there was more than just a physical attraction between us. 8 years and a child later, I still thank God for bringing us together.
It may not be for everybody and keep your options open. One thing I did was just jump in with both feet instead of holding back in case it didn't work out. Of course, you will probably have better luck on a site like Eharmony than Craigslist.
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RE: ONLINE dating, ONLINE search - 8/18/2008 5:23:03 PM
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alley_cat
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My experience with online dating hasn't been great. I interacted for awhile once with a gal in North Carolina, even flew out there to visit, only to find that she was hardly the virtuous lady she presented herself as. Tried to get me into the sack with her. Our relationship effectively ended when I got on the plane back to the west coast. Was not impressed. Since then I have tried E-HARMony but none of the matches ever progressed past the initial getting to know you steps. I just don't feel like I can really know someone unless I have spent some quality time with them in person. Its just way too easy to construct a false picture of yourself for others online.
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