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Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 11:58:18 AM
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GAVirtuousWoman
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Hi all-
Is it coveting if you want something for yourself that someone else has? For example, if my friend is happily married, is it coveting for me to desire to be happily married (to my own husband)?
GA VW
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 12:18:27 PM
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That would depend on WHY you want something. If you want HER husband that would be wrong, and not just on the coveting level.
If you want a husband to show her or anyone else you can keep up with her, that would be coveting.
But if you want a husband for your own emotional (and/or sexual) fulfillment, I do not think that would be covetous unless it so consumes you that it impacts the rest of your life.
The 10th commandment about not coveting is closely related to the first: no gods before HIM. If we desire anything so much it starts getting in the way of our serving our Lord, it is both covetous and idolitrous.
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 12:22:16 PM
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^^^ Dave nailed it.
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 1:00:16 PM
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Covetousness(or envy)by definition is usurpation of another's relationship for oneself either for his own fulfillment or to deprive the other from their satisfaction. 'I'm jealous for(pleased)for you(not 'of')'is the appropriate sense.
< Message edited by LCannon -- 10/8/2008 1:15:28 PM >
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 3:04:33 PM
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I too wish to be married - not to keep up with anyone, but because its a deep desire of my heart that was buried until this past year, when I feel like God uncovered it. But I've got to put God before that desire, in any case. If its his will, I will be married. But it takes time, and patience. I'm praying for more patience.
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 3:27:44 PM
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Liveloved
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Is it coveting if you want something for yourself that someone else has? For example, if my friend is happily married, is it coveting for me to desire to be happily married (to my own husband)?
I would say it could be. To covet is the desire to possess something and the opposite of contentment. It is at the root of much sin and unhappiness. Are there good things we can covet? Absolutely. But if your desire is being fueled by discontent or envy, it would be sin.
Many times God has a purpose for us in relationships that we strive against. He is using the relationship as sandpaper to sanctify us. And, although that may not be our desire (to have a sandpaper relationship), we need to accept His plan and purpose and surrender to it.
Hope those thoughts make sense to you.
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 4:31:57 PM
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OneJohn410
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ORIGINAL: GAVirtuousWoman
Hi all-
Is it coveting if you want something for yourself that someone else has? For example, if my friend is happily married, is it coveting for me to desire to be happily married (to my own husband)?
GA VW
A lot of replies have been made on the basis that you are single at the moment. I just looked at your post again, and read it that you'd like to be happily married to the person you are now- as you see how wonderful that might be, like in your friend's marriage.
Please let us know which way you are talking on this. I'm going with my hunch that you are married and just want a happier marriage, because you see how your friend is in one and would like to experience that as well.
That being the case, I'd say NO, that's not coveting at all. I'd say it's desiring change for the better in your own marriage.
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 5:28:48 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: GAVirtuousWoman
Hi all-
Is it coveting if you want something for yourself that someone else has? For example, if my friend is happily married, is it coveting for me to desire to be happily married (to my own husband)?
GA VW
I would say it depends on why you want it. If you want to be happily married because you feel you have to keep up with your friend, then you're not ready to be married imo.
If you want a husband and marriage to feel happy, then again you're not ready to be married imo. Not to mention that a husband, no matter how wonderful he is and how great your marriage is can make you truely happy. Only God can do that.
Wanting to be married because that's the desire of your heart is fine, as long as it doesn't take over your life. I would like to be married to a wonderful man someday, but I know it is much wiser to wait on God's timing and God's will than to go after my own agenda.
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/8/2008 7:30:32 PM
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GA VA,
I see from your profile that you are single.
I will simply quote Dave's post and say ditto to it.
Blessings,
Sharon-Marie
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ORIGINAL: DaveW
That would depend on WHY you want something. If you want HER husband that would be wrong, and not just on the coveting level.
If you want a husband to show her or anyone else you can keep up with her, that would be coveting.
But if you want a husband for your own emotional (and/or sexual) fulfillment, I do not think that would be covetous unless it so consumes you that it impacts the rest of your life.
The 10th commandment about not coveting is closely related to the first: no gods before HIM. If we desire anything so much it starts getting in the way of our serving our Lord, it is both covetous and idolitrous.
Double Ditto!
-charles
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/9/2008 8:43:38 AM
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galadriel2
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GA...it would be coveting if you wanted to be happilly married to your friend's husband, but to want to be happily married to your own husband is terrific! You desire God's will for your life! 
God bless,
Galadriel
< Message edited by galadriel2 -- 10/9/2008 10:38:25 AM >
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RE: Question about coveting - 10/9/2008 9:53:25 AM
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small_creation
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quote:
ORIGINAL: GAVirtuousWoman
Hi all-
Is it coveting if you want something for yourself that someone else has? For example, if my friend is happily married, is it coveting for me to desire to be happily married (to my own husband)?
GA VW
Using the example you gave, I think you have HOPE for a future. This shows a belief in scripture that God wants good things for his people. I am thinking of Jeremiah 29:11 in particular...
11For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Hoping for a bit of domestic happiness for yourself is not a sin.
j
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