To parent, or not to parent...that is the question for singles
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question. - 7/1/2008 9:53:36 AM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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When I first became widowed, I would have been able and willing to have more children. But now, biologically my body is simply not in any kind of shape for making babies, though the thing would still be possible.
All I can say is that if God wanted more babies from me He wasted the last 7 or so years. So I guess He wasn't planning on that.
I would be VERY glad to step-parent any number of children of any age at all.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question. - 7/1/2008 10:23:27 AM
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I'm turning 40 this year. There's no way I'd have another child. I have an enormous fear of childbirth. However, I love children, esp little ones. If I marry someone, I really would like him to have children. I have a few reason for this. I'd like a big family. I also would like the man to have the experience of having his own children. My daughter would welcome having children in the house. I just think it would be so much fun to have a house full of laughter of children. They are priceless when they are playing. I recently went camping with some friends with children (there must have been 10 children there) and my kid had a blast. All the kids played all day at the beach. If I were to marry anytime soon, that's how I would want our family to look like, except with less kids.
Maybe 10 years from now when I'm 50, I'll be OK with just grown children. But now, I wouldn't mind having smaller children.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 11:00:34 AM
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So for you single people out there...do you want to have children at an older age?
Nope. I have no desire to have more children at this point in my life. The idea of having children in high school when I'm retired doesn't appeal to me.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 11:09:01 AM
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coinpurse
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I dont have any kids...
Id like to give birth ONLY ONCE! Im guessing if this is to happen, God will need to introduce me to Mr. right sooner than later...the 30s are going by really fast!
Im open to a blended family type deal...Im open to foster care as well and possibly adoption (If I can afford it financially, I know adoption isnt free)...I think I was made to live within a blended family/have kids I didnt give birth to. I still would love to go into labor just once.
Edit to add: I dont think Id be open to any children after 40-41. I have about 6 years:) Miracles need to be happening within those 6 years...After that, Ill get a dog or 2 and sponsor a few more kids through World Vision...
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 12:28:53 PM
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Yes, I still want children. But between pcos and my age, I might have to have them through adoption or the husband having kids, that's ok cause I always wanted to adopt anyways. As far as the biological child it may not seem as likely, but with God, all things are possible.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 12:43:39 PM
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Yes, I still want children. But between pcos and my age, I might have to have them through adoption or the husband having kids, that's ok cause I always wanted to adopt anyways. As far as the biological child it may not seem as likely, but with God, all things are possible.
You are very young still. I have a friend who gave birth to her first child 2 years ago at the age of 47.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 4:08:40 PM
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I've got the Girl who is seven. I pray that God will send me a woman who is willing to have children with me.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 6:18:38 PM
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I am 45 and I would dearly love to have children, particularly daughters, but judging from the posts of all you lady's my age, and if all other women my age feel the same, I guess I'm just out of luck.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 6:32:31 PM
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WaitingforBoaz
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I am 45 and I would dearly love to have children, particularly daughters, but judging from the posts of all you lady's my age, and if all other women my age feel the same, I guess I'm just SOL.
Men don't have a biological clock that ticks down the years for procreation like women do. You have plenty of time. The right woman will want to have children, if that is your desire.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 6:42:16 PM
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what about parenting while being single........is that a different thread????
i mean, right now at this very moment, i dont see marriage at all in the near future......but, i would looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove one day to be a momma.......i talked to my mom the other day, and for the first time she was like, that would be very hard as a single parent.
I've alwayz had a dream of children in my own home........and alwayz thought when i got myself financially stable i would love to foster and adopt some precious little one.
I know we've talked about this before.......but, just was something i was thinking about recently.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/1/2008 11:07:58 PM
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wow! i am definitely in the minority here (at least so far)!!!
no...i DO NOT want any more children...and if i am blessed with another man in my life...i would pray HE does not want any (more) children....AND i pray he doesn't have any young children.
my kids are 21 and 14-1/2. i will be 42 in august....and have no desire whatsoever to go back to the baby/youngster childrearing days. i am oh-so-grateful to be past that time of my life. and i would hope that my man and i could enjoy our time together primarily as a couple.
i have to laugh tho.......God could have a totally different plan for me...He's surprised me before! i got pregnant with my daughter (my oldest) while using not one but TWO forms of birth control!!! tell me God didn't know better what i really needed and when! lol
and at my first OB appt with my son...i MADE the nurse write on my chart that i wanted a tubal before i left the hospital, after delivery! i was almost yelling at her, cuz she kept insisting i was too young to decide that (i was 27....give me a break! lol).
but i'm not worried about it. i absolutely believe God doesn't want me to go there again. but He knows i'll be ready to do the g'ma thing in the not-too-far-off-future. i got no problems with being a young g'ma!! lol
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/2/2008 9:08:29 PM
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Well, I'm not 30 yet (27) but I definitely want more children. My sons are just turned 6 and 4 and I'd love at least three more and adopt a few too. But I'll have to wait a while longer to see if G-d allows that.
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/4/2008 7:36:18 PM
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drmomjoyce
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what about parenting while being single........is that a different thread????
i mean, right now at this very moment, i dont see marriage at all in the near future......but, i would looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove one day to be a momma.......i talked to my mom the other day, and for the first time she was like, that would be very hard as a single parent.
I've alwayz had a dream of children in my own home........and alwayz thought when i got myself financially stable i would love to foster and adopt some precious little one.
I know we've talked about this before.......but, just was something i was thinking about recently.
Hi rosiecotton
i am not sure if i have replied to you before but i recently adopted my son and I too am single. One thing i would encourage is to have a really good support network - as in family or church family although i think i am leaning towards being closer to biological family - it get relief when needed. I have an awful time asking for help with him and getting away for a wee bit is really necessary. I basically have him 24/7 for the first 3 months he was home and i dont regret that as we have bonded like crazy glue  , but a break needs to happen otherwise you break - and i nearly did.
If you want to know more leave me a message and I will try fill you in on what I have experienced so far. All the above aside I would love to adopt again for him to have another kid around but also to share my attention on another child. As a single it has its challenges but i would do it all over again.
Joyce
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RE: To parent, or not to parent...that is the question ... - 7/5/2008 3:54:35 PM
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J3jamie
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I had my daughter at age 32. I would like more children. But don't know if that is in God's plans right now. I do hear the clock a ticking.
I think with people living longer, many are having children older. I know I have more patience than I did when I was younger. But I also do not have the same amount of energy.
For those who would love to have children in their lives now, consider foster care. There is always a need to foster (not adopt) infants and toddlers. It can be very rewarding.
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But I've raised a child... he is now an adult. Having another child at this point in my life would be kinda strange... he's old enough to have children of his own. I'm not at all opposed to being a step-mom to young children and if it's God's will for me to have another child of my own, I will not stand in His way. But I'm not going to pretend to want a quiver-full of children at this point in my life, either.
