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emotional attachment? infidelity. - 8/27/2008 2:04:22 PM
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everjoyful
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I have been reading a few comments here about forming unhealthy mental bonds with people /or lingering bonds from past relationships with people who are not your spouse.
can anyone point me to relevant scriptures on the subject or to christian websites or threads here that deal with the issue.....ie where to draw the line, what level of caring for a person is ok and how to deal with wandering (non sexual) thoughts. Thanks.
I am talking about emotional attachments here and not sexual or even potentially sexual things.
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john 14 v27...do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 8/27/2008 2:34:49 PM
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Hislittleone
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It might help us if you gave more info about your particular situation. But without knowing anything about you or your situation I can say a few things.
1) When someone is married there should be no close emotional attachments to someone of the opposite sex unless it is a family member.
2) Close bonds form when you spend one on one time together and/or talk about personal issues.
3) If you are struggling with an attachment to a previous boyfriend/girlfriend who is now married or you are now married, I suggest you counter thoughts of them with prayer. Banish the thoughts from your mind and heart with the power of the Holy Spirit. Also, don't stay in contact with them because that will only make it harder to stop the inappropriate feelings.
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 8/28/2008 4:56:11 AM
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everjoyful
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i'm in a needy vulnurable place right now. I have been battling with depression and some issues in my marriage. I have not been happy for a while.
I had a short conversation with someone over the internet that I used to love a great deal. The conversation was innocent but ended with an awkward sort of pause. I felt a bit odd inside about it and realised there were some old feelings there. I know that the feelings are just leftovers from old memories etc and I also know that I have no desire at all to rekindle anything and I am commited to working on my marriage. So I have cut off all contact anyway just to be safe.
But I am finding this hard. I need someone to lean on and know that needs to be God and my husband. I'm really angry because I know that satan has used a weakness to try to damage my life.
I was after some scriptures etc to help me stay rooted in the word and not get all silly about feelings. I haven't caved under temptation(praise God) and I would like to keep it that way.
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john 14 v27...do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 9/1/2008 1:41:13 PM
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tfkeel
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Psalms 91
The one who lives under the protection of the Most High
dwells in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say to the LORD, "My refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust."
He Himself will deliver you from the hunter's net,
from the destructive plague.
He will cover you with His feathers;
you will take refuge under His wings.
His faithfulness will be a protective shield.
You will not fear the terror of the night,
the arrow that flies by day,
the plague that stalks in darkness,
or the pestilence that ravages at noon.
Though a thousand fall at your side
and ten thousand at your right hand,
the pestilence will not reach you.
You will only see it with your eyes
and witness the punishment of the wicked.
Because you have made the LORD— my refuge,
the Most High—your dwelling place,
no harm will come to you;
no plague will come near your tent.
For He will give His angels orders concerning you,
to protect you in all your ways.
They will support you with their hands
so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
You will tread on the lion and the cobra;
you will trample the young lion and the serpent.
Because he is lovingly devoted to Me,
I will deliver him;
I will exalt him because he knows My name.
When he calls out to Me, I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble.
I will rescue him and give him honor.
I will satisfy him with a long life
and show him My salvation.
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 9/1/2008 7:20:35 PM
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padivan
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There is a book by Randy Alcorn, "Purity Principle." It would be helpful in drawing these lines and boundries.
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 9/1/2008 9:45:33 PM
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carl54
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Everjoy - It sounds like God has spoken to your heart already. You know this relationship you have initiated is wrong. You can feel the tug of Satan trying to lead you into a life of darkness and tear you apart.
James 4:7-10, purify your heart and draw near to God (flee from the very appearance of sin)
Mat 5:27-30, adultery of the heart
"Be not be deceived", examine your thoughts and call them what they are. God knows your heart. It's a trick of the devil to convince us that what we do isn't really wrong. Sounds familiar - look at what he told Eve in the Garden of Eden. He told her, when you eat from that fruit you won't die, you would be as wise as God.
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Walk in the Sirit and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Gal 5:16
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 9/2/2008 10:20:42 AM
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nevaehs_gaze
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Question, along another line of emotional attachment... could you say it is infidelity if it was a member of the same sex, with no sexual attachment?
For example, for years, my mother's female friendships, one in particular, has taken her away from my father. She chooses to spend her free time with them rather than at home. My father only sees her a few times a week despite the fact they both have their evenings free and live in the same house, because she is always with her friend. So in this case, I would consider her emotional attachment to this female friend an non-sexual affair; an infidelity to my father. (Her friend seems to be happily married, therefore I do not assume there is any sexual going on in their friendship.)
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RE: emotional attachment? infidelity. - 9/3/2008 6:50:41 PM
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If you never take a drink, you'll never become an alcoholic. If you avoid one on one situations, of any type, with friends of the opposite sex, then you will never have to worry about anything inappropriate being said or done. Flee temptation! Run, don't walk! You will never regret obedience to God's Word. May God bless you with His wisdom.
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