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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/22/2007 10:27:37 AM
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sparkleingsnow
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Father, You know what is best, and I just ask for Your will in all this. Thank You Father. In Jesus name. Amen
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/22/2007 10:59:04 AM
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kyl
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Dear Heavenly Father I ask that you be in the midst of these people.
May you bring healing and hope to all those involved.
Lord I ask that your draw them all to you and that they move to make the changes you desire for them.
May they not be tossed to and fro but be steadied by your mighy truth.
Lord I ask that you give them guidence and direction.
May the strength they find in you and your word give them constant hope.
I pray your will be done Lord
In Jesus Name
Amen
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/24/2007 10:50:24 AM
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HannahElizabeth
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Thank you for your continued prayers.
The other day, I started to post an update about how bad things have gotten, but then I thought better of it and took it back down. Something just didn't feel right, I didn't have peace.
Maybe it's because all the recent details don't matter. What does is that God has to be hurting right now as he watches his children suffer -- all of us. I know He loves my husband, and that it must pain him to see that he's fully unguarded his heart to the adultress. I know He loves that adultress, and wishes she'd run to Him instead of my husband when she faced the loss of her son. I know there's still a place for her and my husband in His kingdom if they will repent. I know He loves her husband, and it pains Him to see him all-consumed with anger and despairing loneliness, when his energies could be used better to serve Him and be a good dad. I know, I know, I know he loves all these children involved. I was just crying a little while ago, thinking of a specific time when my daughter was cuddled up in a chair with her daddy, and he was reading her a bedtime story. This was a routine, that I thought would last for years to come. But I took a picture of it, this particular time, because it was so sweet. Right now, I can't even open my album anymore, it's too painful. I know my tears pain God.
When He looks down on this situation, it must break His heart in a million pieces, over the loss of two families. Right now, I am thinking that it doesn't even matter why it happened, just that it did, and Satan, for now, seems victorious.
So, my prayer request is that you will join me in asking God to send an army of angels to defeat Satan. I read that book, "This Present Darkness" and I fully believe that the spiritual realm is impacted by fervent prayer. I can sense continued plotting and deviousness, sparked by the Satanic realm, continuing to take place, and I would like to ask you to join me in praying against it. Pray with me that God will confuse and divide their tongues, and those of anyone who supports this coupling, and that what made perfect sense to them at one time, will come across now as foolish and reprehensible. Please pray with me that God will put a hedge of protection around the children involved, and give them a sense of peace -- while at the same time using their innocent questions to drive a wedge in this relationship. I pray that their workplace will no longer be a place of comfort for them, that men and women of God will take a stand against their attempts to normalize their affair as dating, and that their employers will question their place there and put pressure on the affair. I pray that my husband's apartment will not afford them with a place of refuge from the world, where they can pretend that what they are doing is justified, but be a place where the very walls ooze the pain and consequences of adultery. And in the midst of all this, I pray that her husband, the cop, will run to God for solace, and not enact the anger he feels in a irrevocable way.
Also, please pray for my daughter and I. I'm looking for a place for us to live now that our house is on the market. I am looking for a little home with a small backyard for her to play, but more important than that is to be right where God wants us to be. In a neighborhood where we can serve Him best, and she can build good friendships that will help sustain her through her losses. I need prayer to be a good mom no matter what lays ahead, to not let painful distractions prevent me from attaching fully to her when she needs me.
And finally, please pray for me to have wisdom as to when and/or how to detach from this man. I know that I have biblical grounds for divorce. I'm just having trouble discerning God's will and plan. Seeing this man every day when I know he's being physically intimate with another woman, very likely even trying to get her pregnant, is almost too much to bear. Please pray for my peace of mind, wisdom and resolve. Also, please pray that I will learn and gain all the wisdom I can from this time of pain and loss, and not let it go to waste. I know that God allows trials for a reason. He can use it to help me help others more effectively, not just turn into myself and dissolve into bitterness.
Thanks in advance for your prayers. I know they always make a difference.
Love, Hannah
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/24/2007 11:14:31 AM
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sparkleingsnow
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Father, hear the cries of Your child. Protect the children in this. Protect, strengthen, and comfort HannahElizabeth. Work Your will the the hearts of her husband, this woman and her husband also. Lord I don't know what to ask for, but I know that You know what is needed and best, so I just ask that You work Your perfect will in and for this situation. Thank You. In jesus name. Amen
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/24/2007 11:56:45 AM
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"If calamity comes upon us, whether the sword of judgment, or plague or famine, we will stand in your presence before this temple that bears your Name and will cry out to you in our distress, and you will hear us and save us." 2 Chronicles 20:9
Oh Jesus, how very much our sister Hannah is hurting. Hear her cries Lord, and bring her comfort. I pray her husband and this woman come back to you Lord and repent. I pray your will be done, In Jesus' name.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/24/2007 12:54:56 PM
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Guilt in our soul or knowing when we do wrong makes us ashamed and even when we want to come back to a loved one it is a hard thing to let go of. The lord has a plan in all things so rejoice and be glad in it. I will pray that the lord take this shame out of your husbands heart but because we are creatures of freewill i can only pray that the lord will open his ears and heart so that he may hear the lords word.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/24/2007 2:57:39 PM
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ORIGINAL: bricole77
"If calamity comes upon us, whether the sword of judgment, or plague or famine, we will stand in your presence before this temple that bears your Name and will cry out to you in our distress, and you will hear us and save us." 2 Chronicles 20:9
Oh Jesus, how very much our sister Hannah is hurting. Hear her cries Lord, and bring her comfort. I pray her husband and this woman come back to you Lord and repent. I pray your will be done, In Jesus' name.
Yes Jesus Yes
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/29/2007 5:29:58 AM
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HannahElizabeth
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Yesterday was not a good day.
I went to yet another new church in the morning, in my constant journeying to find a new faith community for my daughter and I. Going to our old church just feels too painful, at least for right now, since our family has been dismantled. This church today didn't have a children's ministry, so my daughter was crawling all over me. I couldn't concentrate, and I really wanted to since the preaching was focused on one of my favorite verses during trials: Romans 8:28.
The afternoon was horrible. A friend invited my daughter over for a playdate, so I was adrift, literally, to think about everything since our agent was conducting an open house. I spoke with a girlfriend over the phone as I sat at the beach. I realized some things about my husband that served to devastate me further.
We have been attending another church regularly in the evenings. I don't feel a sense of connection there yet, due to the "hip" crowd. But the teaching is spot on and the alternating bands inspire me to praise my Father as He deserves. The teachings the past two weeks have been about finding comfort in difficult times -- I know God has planted me there and I appreciate His care for me, His daughter.
But the last song tonight fairly killed me, and I had to leave in tears. We played it at our daughter's dedication ceremony, and it's been our theme song as a family. I had heard it a few weeks earlier at another church I was attending with friends, for the first time as a single mom. But at that time, the words flowed down all over me like a light. We went out for pizza afterwards, and I felt so strange, particularly since the place they chose was near the area of town where my husband has moved. I was paranoid of running into him at first but got over it, and I sat there in the restaurant in a daze of bewilderment and acceptance of my new life.
However, tonight when I heard that song, I could feel only pain, regret and anger at my husband. I don't want to be that bitter single mom. Things happen in life. People don't always stay together. But nevertheless, I drove home wounded and bawling like a baby, so hard that my head hurt. I didn't know I was able to cry like that. I think it's the particular brand of deception to which I am being subjected that is ripping me from the insides out. He didn't have to go about things this way.
There's the realization, which I didn't have the first time I heard that song, that my husband hasn't truly loved me for a very long time. In his present state of mind, I don't think he truly loves the other woman either. The only emotion prevalent amongst all of us is pain, and we're following our own paths to salve it. Please pray for all of us that we'll seek God's solutions for our pain, and that people can stop hurting each other. Meanwhile, I think to myself: OK, our marriage wasn't perfect. I felt on eggshells over the past few years. But darn it. We have loved each other with a passion. We have had some very, very good times. God did bless us with this amazing little girl, who has always seemed perfectly matched to us.
And it's over? My brain still doesn't know what to do with that trauma.
Please, please, please pray for me because I don't know what to do with all of these feelings, and I am worried that I am close to falling away from my faith, and I have never have felt that way since this whole ordeal started. I need my Jesus. I'm not going to make it without Him. Please pray.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/29/2007 4:44:27 PM
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Praying in agreement with the others. Keep on trusting and believing in God and he will take care of you, your daughter, and husband.
One love.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 10/29/2007 8:19:32 PM
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Frank6535
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with the love and warmth you have shown, EXPECT jesus to do something really soon,the lack of bitterness and the tonnage of tenderness, and caring,believe jesus will do what you ask, forgive him and leave him in the hands of the lord jesus,much will happen, and in jesus name,the lord will heal your heart.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 11/3/2007 1:25:09 PM
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HannahElizabeth
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Dear God,
Last night, You put on my heart to invite my husband to my new church. I didn't even remember what I'd last posted here, about my experience there, so I believe it was a result of a prayer someone here lifted that I mentioned it to him.
You know how I resisted at first, afraid that he would blow me off because he seems angry with me lately, about an unknown something. And this topic, You, is one that is tender to me, because I love You. He and I used to be able to speak so freely about You, before all the interferences in our marriage began. The demanding jobs, the infertility, the adoption process, the other woman. These all served to send us to separate corners, God, to where we'd only talk to You briefly before eating dinner. We lost You. I'm so sorry, God.
When I started talking to him about church last night, I felt the walls come down between us, for the first time in a long while. But our eyes shifted, it was hard to keep them steadied on each other. We've hurt each other so badly, so much has happened. He's clearly done with me, and has moved on. Though that hurts, I will live my life in peace if I know that he has been restored to You.
But I sensed that even as we were talking about various churches, he was thinking about the woman with whom he is committing adultery, and getting her to go with him to make what they are doing somehow OK. You were there years ago when I was talking about how awful sex out of marriage would be, and he brought up the story of David and Bathsheba and how he was restored, as if even then he was justifying something he'd done or planned to do. I know that's not the process of restoration You seek for him, one that's premeditated, and seeks to preserve a sinful relationship. My prayer is that if that is the goal, You will confound that purpose, and restore both of them to You on Your terms and work within each of them individually to follow Your plans, wherever they may lead.
This would be in contrast to our last days at church as a couple, where he sat there checked out, writing to-do lists for work, checking his watch. I never talked deeply to him about this Lord. I didn't probe enough, again, afraid he'd snap at me for minding his business. I figured he'd come around. I thought if I just made little comments here and there about You, he'd gradually snap back into the man of God with whom I fell in love. I tried to be a light in his life, especially as I felt him pulling further and further away from You as he pursued this woman, who says she is angry with You. But as you know, the closer I got to You, the more I prayed and prayed, the more offensive I became to him. I don't know what I did wrong.
Oh powerful God, I know it's not too late for him. I know that if your prodigal son would return home, you would run out, put a beautiful robe on him and tackle him with your embrace. I know that I would do the same.
In light of that, Father, please give me wisdom in interacting with my husband, to be that friend who loves him unconditionally for your sake. It is hard, because I fear him. As You know, he let me do all the work of getting our home remodeled, leading me to believe it was going to be ours, for our future. I was exhausted and overwhelmed, taking care of our daughter, doing my job, managing the dust everywhere, but he showed no concern. Because at some point he knew he was going to leave me, and everything I did was just to help us get a good return on the investment upon selling our home -- for his future with someone else. Even now, Lord, you know they are making plans, as though her husband and I are nonexistent.
Oh Lord, that hurts, and makes me want to run far, far away. I know I haven't been the best witness at times. I've snapped at him, and I've let my pain dictate my attitude. I want to be your sweet daughter, who can see past present circumstances to the ultimate prize of his restoration to You. Protect me, Lord, give me wisdom, help me to know what to do. I never thought the man who vowed to protect me, and love me and honor me and put no other woman before me could make me feel emotionally unsafe, but he does. That's why I need your wisdom -- I don't know what to do.
Take over, Lord. I put all this in your hands. Thank you for these prayer warriors who keep talking to you about this situation. Please let them know You hear their petitions, and remind them that this is a spiritual battle and every soldier is needed. Thank you, Lord, that You take the time to care about everyone, about every need, about every sinner like me. I lift this up to You, Lord, all of it, and I'm getting out of Your way.
In Jesus name...
Amen
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 11/3/2007 8:12:39 PM
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Oh Father, I hear such pain in my sister's "voice". Lord I stand with her in agreement in Your Name - in the name of Jesus. Lord, strengthen her, heal her, comfort her! May she be able to say that "weeping endured for a night, but joy came in the morning!" (Proverbs)
Father we lift her husband to You again, to be convicted of sin, to be called to repentance. Repentance not only from adultery, but also from deceit towards You and his wife. Nothing is hidden from You Lord. I pray Lord that he would truly come to understand and live the meaning of what Jesus said at the well: "The Father is seeking those who will worship Him in spirit and in truth." Father, may Hannah's husband become a man who will worship You in spirit and in truth. I agree with Hannah for this adulterous relationship and its plans to be foiled and confounded Lord - that it would disintegrate before You.
I pray In Jesus Name
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 11/13/2007 1:14:47 PM
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Oh Father, I hear such pain in my sister's "voice". Lord I stand with her in agreement in Your Name - in the name of Jesus. Lord, strengthen her, heal her, comfort her! May she be able to say that "weeping endured for a night, but joy came in the morning!" (Proverbs)
Father we lift her husband to You again, to be convicted of sin, to be called to repentance. Repentance not only from adultery, but also from deceit towards You and his wife. Nothing is hidden from You Lord. I pray Lord that he would truly come to understand and live the meaning of what Jesus said at the well: "The Father is seeking those who will worship Him in spirit and in truth." Father, may Hannah's husband become a man who will worship You in spirit and in truth. I agree with Hannah for this adulterous relationship and its plans to be foiled and confounded Lord - that it would disintegrate before You.
I pray In Jesus Name
amen
This is my prayer too. AMEN!
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 12/11/2007 2:59:22 PM
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HannahElizabeth
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The Lord has brought me back here to post, to ask for prayer. I'm afraid to do so. It seems that the enemy's stronghold over my husband is so all encompassing, prayers that are lifted for him hit the ceiling and fall to the floor. Or just put evil forces on alert to try harder, where they will constantly prevail. I know that's not true...that God is stronger than Satan. But things just keep happening, things just keep falling into place that make the way straighter for my husband to start his life over with this woman. I know that is not God's will ... I'm just bewildered at how things are going, and sometimes I feel like hope exists for other families, not ours.
Like this weekend. I finally generated the nerve to ask my husband to go to church with me -- whereas before I had suggested he go on his own. I had been constrained by unwritten "rules," as though I wouldn't want to upset his affair partner by sitting in a chair next to him. How twisted is that? I'm still his wife. I should be able to ask him to do whatever I want. She should have no place in our relationship. Who the heck is she, anyways?
I talked to a couple of friends about this plan. Of course, my husband ended up showing up at our house to visit our daughter nearly two hours late, obliterating any chance of me asking him to go to church. He offered no excuse -- it was obvious that he'd been late because he'd done something with his affair partner instead. It made me feel that by merely speaking the plan, Satan went into action. I don't want to be covered in fear, immobilized to even pray. But that's where I find myself at times.
And still ... hope remains. A few weeks ago I was on my way to a prayer meeting, and I asked God for a sign regarding my marriage. I'm not one to ask for signs, but I was feeling so at the end of my rope, I did. The next morning I was praying fervently for my husband and my family, and began speaking in a prayer language for the first time in my life. I walked outside, and a butterfly floated right in front of me. I immediately remembered that as my husband was emotionally detaching himself from me, and our marriage was dying, I would pull out my sketch pad and draw colorful butterflies. They gave me peace and hope in the turmoil. When I would show them to my husband, it was one of the few times when he was kind to me.
When this butterfly flew in front of me, I felt that sense of hope again. Friends later told me that in the Christian faith, butterflies symbolize new life and resurrection. I felt hopeful that things won't always be this way. I still keep encountering symbols of butterflies at unexpected moments, usually when my hope is fading -- so much so that I know God is behind it.
My husband and I have become closer "friends" since then. We share our visions for our careers, treat each other with grace when we have disagreements. I think it's because he wants us to be good "co-parents," part of his moving toward divorce. I just want peace, so I go along with it. Last night when I returned from a prayer meeting, he stood on our porch looking at me like he wanted to hug me. He said our daughter had been crying a lot, and I think that had moved him. But he is such a mystery nowadays, I don't know what it was. He just looked broken.
I feel he just needs to be bathed in so much constant prayer, to break the soul tie he has with this woman, to demolish the stronghold that keeps him in this ongoing state of rebellion. Prayer that is fervent and unwavering, because there are some strong forces against him, against us. I want relief from this fear, that makes me wonder sometimes if God is with us. I know He is. I just want to let go and have faith.
Please pray with me, please help cover my unfaithful husband and restore him to the Lord. I just keep hoping....
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 12/12/2007 1:31:59 AM
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I read all these posts and I wanted to say that I will be praying for you also. Don't let fear stop you from praying. Continue to pray more than ever and dwell on God's love for you. You are a strong and kind person.
Work on your relationship with God and pleasing him and walking in God's love. Cast your care concernng your husband over on God.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 12/12/2007 6:29:09 PM
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Hannah, I know in my heart God is with you and He is going to make you really strong through all of this. He is An Awesome God.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 1/5/2008 12:57:51 PM
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Greetings sister Hannah-
May the peace of God rule in your heart and may the abundant grace and love of God surround you in such fulness that you soar as an eagle in holy blessed assurances.
Father, I pray for all who are involved in this situation. They all need you, Lord. Father, please assure Hannah that you are far above all (Ephesians 1:21) and that you "...sitteth upon the throne of your holiness.(Psalm 47:8)
Prove once again to Hannah that you have not forgotten her -"...yet will I not forget thee." (Jeremiah 49:15) Lord, let the miraculous divine love that you provide with your grace be sufficient....
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 1/5/2008 3:08:56 PM
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Hannah,
I pray things are going better with you and your family! I totally understand where you are coming from. I am in a very similar situation in my life. It does seem at times that whenever you feel God is moving, Satan moves faster. But don't give up!!! Like you've said our God is bigger and better! "If God is for us, who can be against us" When there is a strong demonic influence on one's spouse, the battle is long and hard. A friend told me resently that there are times when you have done all you can and you just have to stand knowing that God is God and He is fighting for you!!!! He has already promised you the victory! You are very lucky indeed...I have been praying for the baptism of the Holy Spirit for some time and can only conclude that I am still too self-conscious to allow it to happen...yet God has given you a prayer language of your own and you've accepted it! I am so happy for you! I just want you to know that I will be praying for you and your family throughout these next weeks. Please feel free to email me and let me know anything specific you might want prayers for! We are in this together!!! God gives us friends to help us through our trials! God bless you!
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 1/7/2008 12:09:17 PM
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Hannah I have been reading your posts one after the other as I haven't been on this site for awhile. But as I read each one at a time I can see where you are growing in spirit and in wisdom. I think you are going to get through this ordeal with some heartache and lots of determination and will be a much stronger person beacuse of what you are going through. I am happy for you and I know your daughter will be ok as you don't sound like the type of person that will do anything to change her relationship with her daddy. God will give you a life that is surrounded with good things. Later on he will provide you with a deep love for someone who will not go looking for excitment anywhere outside the marriage. thank God you are a woman who sees the future and will work on improving her life and not sit in depression and let this overtake your mind. Take it one day at a time and time will heal you . Let me say that I am not a young person (74) I have seen many broken marriages where people thought they could not go on without their mates only to find that they were proved wrong and they say were happier than they ever imagined. Keep looking ahead God has something in store for you that will bring you many happy years. I will keep you in my prayers.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 3/13/2008 5:07:58 AM
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HannahElizabeth
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I am wrapping my mind around the fact that my husband is gone. And very soon he will be literally gone as well.
He is looking for an apartment with his affair partner, about an hour away in traffic. I have been numb to this, but today it began to sink in. I know that what they have is counterfeit, a work of Satan, but he's sure it's love. Many times over the years I suggested that we move to a new city, start fresh. But he insisted that he loves our city, and would never ever leave. But now he's picking up and going...to her city. And I'm left wondering, since their affair has been going on so long, whether I've been stuck here because, since they work in this city, he didn't want to be away from her.
Everything is about her. I struggle and fight against hating her. I know that's not of the Lord. I just can't believe some other woman has come into my life and taken it over on every level. Now tonight my husband has announced that he's going to try to get 50-50 custody. Meaning that if he marries her, this woman will have my child half the time. What is that? Am I going to wake up any time soon? I started writing in this forum about my suspicions. Now this reality is in my face that is beyond anything I could have imagined. I have that feeling you have when you wake up from a nightmare, except all day long, and then again around 3 or 4, every sleepless night. There seems to be no end point. It seems this woman will be a leech in my heart, mind and body for the rest of my days. When I first started writing in this forum, I never thought it could go this far.
I've read that when someone is unfaithful to you, it's like experiencing rape, or the death of a child. I can see this, I can actually feel this. I have been hollowed inside out, overpowered, thrashed, and left behind for dead. And now he wants to suck the life out of my child, to take the light out of her eyes by ripping her away from her mother half the time. And he does not care.
In the end, I realize that it's really not about this woman at all. It's about gratifying his need to have something going on outside his marriage, all about the thrill, and she is a willing participant. Though not a Christian when this all started out, she goes to church with him now, and takes her kids. They go about town on Sunday adventures -- just like we used to do -- like they are a family. He's dispatched my daughter and I aside like we're has-beens, no longer of use to him. She has told her husband that he has damaged their kids for years, that she doesn't like his parenting style, and she's tried to cut him out of their lives. She treats my husband like he is the new parent of her children. They think they should have all the kids. It's beyond greedy and egregious.
I pray and pray and pray and pray. And I am asking for your prayers. I don't know about restoring this marriage. I want to think it's salvagable, and I'll still lift those prayers. But right now he's so far gone, they seem to bounce back off the ceiling. What I pray for more now is my child, who is damaged by all this already, and more's on the way if this keeps up unabated. Nothing seems to stop them from doing whatever they want. These two treat kids like animals in their circus, while fooling themselves into believing that they are doing what's best for them. I have to believe that prayer is what is needed to protect these kids. Prayer and more prayer.
Please stop for a moment and pray hard for this situation. Please.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 3/13/2008 8:51:59 AM
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tbrobinson
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Father please be with HannahElizabeth today. Help her feel that she is loved and appreciated. She is a precious daughter of God, please uphold her in this time of trial.
Hannah, will be praying for you. I have seen this exact scenario play out in my immediate family. Also dont be surprised if he suddenly changes his mind again, mid life crisis is a very strange and powerful thing.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 4/28/2008 2:55:39 AM
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singinglibby
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Wow. Praying...
May I offer some advice? I am so perplexed by your situation. I have read your posts, and I can just feel your hurt. My advice to you is have some friends and family come with you to court to your custody hearing. If you tell the judge everyting, I highly doubt he would award 50/50 custody (moms are usually the custodial parent anyway). Maybe you and your daughter could move closer to your family for support?
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He's dispatched my daughter and I aside like we're has-beens, no longer of use to him.
That right there really got me. Please know that you and your daughter are in our prayers.
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 4/29/2008 8:20:27 AM
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tbrobinson
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Dear Hannah,
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Father bless and uphold Hannah, give her Your strength as she navigates through this. Father, I pray for their daughter as well, please give them some measure of peace that You love them, and are with them.
In Jesus Name
Amen
Hannah, you are not alone, we are all praying and lifting you up to the Maker. We know God hates divorce, and will support you and be with you. Please read the verse in my signature, and here are some others:
Romans 8:28 and we know that in all things God work for the good of those who love him.
Psalm 55:23. Cast you cares on the Lord and he will sustain you, he will never let the righteous fail.
Phil 4.13 Cast all your cares on him, for he cares for you.
Gods Best
Tim
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Isaiah 40:31 But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint
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RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband - 5/4/2008 9:43:04 AM
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HannahElizabeth
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Thank you, Tim and Libby, for your prayers and advice. You don't know how much they mean to me. I was feeling lost and alone, and came here to ask for prayer. Thank you, again.
I haven't been in this forum since March, so I think the Lord lead me here, to be encouraged to know that He's leading people to pray, and answering their prayers. Because, you posted that you prayed for my family on April 28-29 and I noticed a change in my husband's behavior toward me and our daughter that Monday, when he dropped her off after taking her to dinner. He was tender and caring, trying to help me with my car, and engage me in conversation about our daughter. It felt like ice melting.
Otherwise, not much has changed since I last asked for prayer. It turned out that he didn't move into a place with the other woman -- but in her neighborhood, within walking distance. So, now they not only work closely together in the same department, they are together after hours as well. He used to be at my house every night visiting our daughter, then go back to his place, an hour away from hers. But now he's in and out, dropping off or picking her up, a couple of days out of the week. We go four full days without seeing each other at all.
It's strange. He used to tell me when I would go out of town for work once a year that three days was his limit, and then he'd need to see me. I could never have imagined this.
Now he's got his place, and I've got mine, and for the most part I am starting to heal. I love my neighborhood, as it is in the arts community, and am returning to hobbies that I put aside when his affair took over my brain. It really hurt about a month ago when he started having our daughter around OW and her kids, but I've come to accept that as well. I can't stop it legally, not unless I want to prevent my daughter from seeing her father, and that's not good for her.
What brought me to tears and to this forum to request prayer was my memory of him before his midlife crisis. He struggled with wanting friendships with other women, it was a weakness, but his commitment was to me. I remember his tenderness, his leadership, having a partner in this life. Now, without skipping a beat, he's found a new partner.
I know he's seeing a new therapist, from looking at our bank records. The previous one "gave him permission" to leave our family. Please pray with me that a) he will find his answers in the Lord, and b) as long as he's trusting so much in psychology, the Lord will work through his current therapist to help him work through his addictions, and find wholeness in mind, body and spirit, and c) that he will finally be held accountable by someone he respects for what he did to our marriage, to have to face the damage he has done and be lead to repent. Right now, he just wants to move forward with his "new life," expects God to forgive him for planning to divorce me and abandoning his family, and bless his new one. He wants to skip repenting, because that would mean that he would have to stop what he is doing and come back to us.
And please pray with me that as he goes off to church this morning, with his "new family" founded on adultery, and as my daughter and I go off by ourselves to our new church, where people see me without a ring on my finger and assume the worst of me, God will meet us all there. I have been doing a lot better, but right now...there's just pain. It's hard to see what i am typing through the tears.
You know...sometimes i feel like there's some force in this world that is assigned specifically to destroy my particular family. Will you please pray with me that God will send his angels to cover us, to fight the spiritual battle on our behalf?
< Message edited by HannahElizabeth -- 5/4/2008 9:50:26 AM >
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