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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 4:04:17 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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'shared togetherness'
That's my biggest issue right now - I want that touch, that connection, that just being there.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 4:09:31 PM
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SaranadeMe
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Someone striving to be someone they would want to marry themselves.
Trap. Same as above. Who wants to marry themselves? <Unknowingly lots of people>
Think about trying to make yourself marriage worthy based on thoughts in your OWN mind? Making yourself marriage worthy for yourself serves what purpose? None.
You totally missed the meaning of this. If I want to marry someone who is fit, I had better be fit. If I want to marry someone who is a non-drinker, then I had best not hang out in the bar all night every night. If I want to marry someone who has a strong walk with God,I had better be working on my walk. Opposites may attact but similars make the best marriages.
I just have to take a moment while perusing to backtrack to this point and say YES! Exactly my point. Thanks, John_O.
I personally want to be the kind of person I would want to marry. I would want to marry someone smart, funny, healthy, walking with the Lord. If they're overweight they're at least trying to lose it like I am. I made it my mission a few years ago, and I still try to renew it periodically to be someone who would be a good wife. Figuring out what would make a me a good wife to someone else is just as important to me as finding the right guy to marry.
What I've discovered is that there is little distinction between what would make me a good wife and what makes me a good friend, a good Christian, and an overall good person. When I'm working on letting God improve me, everyone benefits.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 4:14:46 PM
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iwillfearnoevil
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'shared togetherness'
That's my biggest issue right now - I want that touch, that connection, that just being there.
i definately feel the lack of an emotional and physical bond ...
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 4:17:14 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl
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'shared togetherness'
That's my biggest issue right now - I want that touch, that connection, that just being there.
i definately feel the lack of an emotional and physical bond ...
As I just said to someone else away from here, I cannot begin to imagine!
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When blood and water hit the ground.
Walls we couldn't move came crashing down.
We were free and made alive.
The day true love died. The day true love died.
Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 4:19:45 PM
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joy2give2u
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Right now in my life I truly want the strength of a man in my life.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 4:39:35 PM
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Grace-N-Mercy
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Right now in my life I truly want the strength of a man in my life.
(((((Joy)))))
You're not alone. I have always wanted this in my life.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 10:52:01 PM
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CoeurdeLeon_
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I want to contribute to a relationship which is greater than the sum of it's parts.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/7/2007 11:10:02 PM
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John_O
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Thanks, John_O.
You're most welcome.
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I personally want to be the kind of person I would want to marry. I would want to marry someone smart, funny, healthy, walking with the Lord. If they're overweight they're at least trying to lose it like I am. I made it my mission a few years ago, and I still try to renew it periodically to be someone who would be a good wife. Figuring out what would make a me a good wife to someone else is just as important to me as finding the right guy to marry.
Exactly. What good is it finding the right person if you're not the right person for them. Not saying, mind you, that we have to be perfect. That's impossible. But we do need to be working toward that end.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/8/2007 2:18:44 PM
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jeffnevins
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Truly want?
1)Serve Christ.
2)Food/clothing/shelter.
3)Health.
4)Meaningful work.
5)Human relationships.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 12/8/2007 2:55:42 PM
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I want what the healthy marriages I know have. Mutual respect, understanding, loyalty, attraction and TRUST.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 8/28/2008 7:07:39 AM
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John_O
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I stumbled across this old thread.
I'm bumping it for two reasons.
1. We have a lot of new folks (and older folk who haven't answered it yet)
2.Those of us who have answered it ---- Have your desires changed any since then?
My post 24 still rings true to me. But I put a lot of thought and prayer into what I've wanted for a long time so I didn't really expect it to change too much. The one change would be not as much emphasis on having more kids (still want them but not quite as burningly as before)
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 8/28/2008 9:52:32 AM
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My list of revised list of what I want in a man....LOL! Look under age 42....that's what I want....
What I Want in a Man, Original List (age 22):
1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover.
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32):
1. Nice looking (prefer hair on his head)
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Listens more than talks
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week.
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42):
1. Not too ugly (bald head OK)
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady -- splurges on dinner out
occasionally
4. Nods head when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the
furniture
7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
10. Shaves most weekends.
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52):
1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
5. Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on
weekends
7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
9. Remembers my name on occasion
10. Shaves some weekends.
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62):
1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when asleep
5. Remembers why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers that it's the weekend.
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72):
1. Breathing
2. Doesn't miss the toilet
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Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;
I see the stars, I hear the rolling thunder
Thy power through out the universe displayed
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 8/28/2008 11:14:38 AM
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joy2give2u
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I went back and reread my post before and will say they have not changed but I have changed so much........I understand the words I wrote even more so today then I did when I wrote them.
The second part of the question I don't think I ever clearly answered which is ok because that answer has changed as I have changed so I will answer it for now and today.
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And what kinds of area do you feel growth is necessary?
Last night in prayer group God impressed the following on one of the ladies to share with me.........
"Some part of your heart has a hard time receiving blessings and this needs to be an area of focus for you. As you become more healed it will affect your relationship with your mate. Because it's hard for you to receive, you lean towards accepting second best, but that is not God's heart for you."
I knew what she was saying was from the Lord because this is something God has been working on me for the past two months.
Less then three months ago I would have been willing to accept less then God's best for me.........
The study, some of us did ,on Haggai really spoke powerfully to me and revealed I was willing to settle for a man who was not walking under "open heavens"
Since then I have done a lot of work on building God's temple instead of trying to grasp hold or obtain my desires.
For me to get what I truly want........a man busy building God's temple while allowing God to build his house with an open ceiling I need to continue seeking God's healing and restoration in my life. I need to continue to seek out and walk in "open heavens". I need to take action when I hear God speak and trust the results to him.
Yeap I have a lot of work to do but the really cool thing is God is not waiting till I have finished the work to begin to bless me......Just as he did with his people in Haggia.......as soon as I began to walk in obedience building His temple he torn down what I was trying to build and began building a house so much more suited to me and my desires.........
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What do You truly want I truly want to live in a house, built by the Lord for my husband and myself, which has no roof............I truly want a marriage which was built foundation up with the hands of the Lord.....I truly want God's best for me in a marriage and not to settle for a marriage in which I thought I could just be happy. Before that was enough.......now I want more.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 8/29/2008 11:26:27 AM
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Prairiehiker
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I'm still thinking about this. To sum up what I truly want in life in terms of a romantic relationship is to find someone who I can DO life with without feeling like I'm serving a life sentence, lol. That's the big picture...now to get down to the details of what I truly want...it would take some time for me to write it down.
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O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;
I see the stars, I hear the rolling thunder
Thy power through out the universe displayed
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 8/29/2008 5:41:33 PM
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rgod
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Hmmmm ....
It goes without saying that he should be Christian. But, I guess I've said it.
I want a man who is kind of adventurous - he likes to travel and do new things - try new ways of doing things - even if it is something mundane as finding a new route home from work. I don't know if I could spend the rest of my life watching tv on the couch - you know? Nothing against tv or couches - I just don't want to do that all of the time. I want someone who is affectionate because I've got 36 years of hugs stored up just for him :) I want someone who is organized - I'm not by nature and have to really work at it - but I'll follow a plan if he sets it up. I need someone who will treat me with a lot of tenderness. I would love someone who has a good business mind. I am a talker, so I would like someone who talks at least sometimes - and likes to talk about issues - like how to solve the energy crisis or about what is happening in Pakistan as opposed to "what are the neighbors doing with their grass." It would be great to be with someone who is a bit more outgoing - but if he weren't, I'd take up the slack. I also want someone who likes children and thinks being a father is important.
But you know ... God might bring someone to me that is not all of those things, but is right for me. I'm open. Only the Lord truly knows.
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RE: What do YOU truly want - 8/29/2008 8:28:17 PM
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WaitingforBoaz
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I had what I wanted for 20 years.
Now, I don't know what I want. Good thing God knows what I need. 
Okay so I have thought about this, and even though I realize that God could see it in my best interest to give me the very opposite of what I think I want, the OP does say,
"What do YOU want?"
So, Here goes;
I want to wake up to my husband’s smiling face.
I want to create a home for him and our family that would be like an oasis, a place they all want to come home to, be refreshed and to be loved and accepted.
I desire to create goals and dreams with my husband and look forward to us working and praying together to make them come to pass.
I look forward to studying, discussing and applying scripture to our lives.
I want someone to live this day to day life with. Solve problems together, do projects together, do yard work and gardening together.
I desire for us to be of one mind when it comes to raising and nurturing our children.
I want to, together with him, make memories for our children by taking vacations and day trips and just doing things together as a family.
I would like our lives to be focused on our home and church, and all the people that involves.
I would like for us to love nothing more than to just be together, doing nothing, or something, it does not matter.
I would like for him to want to entertain friends and family regularly, this is what I love to do.
I look forward to growing old together and taking care of him if necessary.
I want to hold him in my arms when he leaves this world to be with Jesus, because I never want him to ever have to go through what I have since losing my husband.
Okay, thats a start.
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