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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 5/19/2008 8:58:53 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Thanks, Cinderella. I guess we'll find out. It's just there are not many jobs around here & we'll be moving 2 months after I'm unemployed....so that all figures in as well.....
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/4/2008 9:26:05 AM
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daughter_of_faith
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That's great to hear!! Thanks for the update 
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/4/2008 9:52:24 AM
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yay landabee...i'm so glad things are working out for you..
yippeeee...you have a job! Praise the Lord!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/4/2008 4:54:38 PM
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April75
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What would you do?
My baby has to have surgery in about a month. I don't have enough of vacation days to cover the time I will be off with her. But we can't afford to do without the money either.
I've felt like I should be a SAHM since she was born. I never thought I would feel that way until I had her. I kept working do to we needed the money. Besides I carry the insurance for the family with my job.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/4/2008 4:58:09 PM
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landabee
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ORIGINAL: April75
What would you do?
My baby has to have surgery in about a month. I don't have enough of vacation days to cover the time I will be off with her. But we can't afford to do without the money either.
I've felt like I should be a SAHM since she was born. I never thought I would feel that way until I had her. I kept working do to we needed the money. Besides I carry the insurance for the family with my job.
Talk with your hubby and pray for wisdom.
I will pray that the Lord make the way straight.
Would your church family be able to smooth the gap between the time you need to take off and the return to work??
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/4/2008 5:07:50 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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April,
You might be surprised with how well you can make it without that second income. I'm unemployed right now & we're able to pay our bills, etc. The only struggle we currently have is saving money for our upcoming move. With the cost of gas to get to & from work, clothing for work, lunches for work, childcare....it was eating the great majority of my paychecks. We won't be able to do as much traveling or eating out--but I am currently at home which negates the need to eat out (at least as frequently).
As far as the insurance...that would be tough. Does your husband's employer offer any insurance benefits or is he self-employed?
Hmmmm...as far as what to do....that's a toughie. Does your husband have any vacation time left? Almost immediately before I became unemployed I missed 2 weeks of work. That's right...2 weeks. I had surgery so I had to be out for a week. Then my father in law had a heart attack, followed by my husband's grandfather dying. God really blessed us throughout this time though & our needs were provided for in every way. We were still able to have our son's birthday party which went WAY over budget this last weekend.
You have to come to the conclusion as to what is going to be best for you and your family. Sometime earlier in the year I had went to a website where it assessed whether a family was REALLY better off with two incomes or if they could make it on the one income. I don't think this is the CALCULATOR I used; however, it should work for your family.
I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Let us know how things turn out. I pray your baby's surgery goes smoothly!!
God bless
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/4/2008 9:58:51 PM
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LaurainAL
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Is your company covered by FMLA? If so, you may not be guaranteed payment while you are out, but it could secure you job for when you return.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/5/2008 1:47:35 PM
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April75
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Daughter of faith, I'm not sure about my church because I haven't joined yet. But have been attending for over a year. Not sure if you have to be a member yet. But I'm going to check into it. Thanks that gives some hope.
My husbands job does offer insurance but it's with a really high deductible and I'm not sure about switching since we are using mine for the surgery. In the long run if I decided to be a stay at home mom if we had a lot saved up to help pay the deductible that insurance would probably be ok.
He only has about 2 wks or less. They don't get very many and he is needed there during this season. Thanks your words were really encouraging and I'll look into all you mentioned.
Laurain, Thanks I'm actually in the process of applying now. This gives me some hope that at least I can secure my job. I wonder can you work at another job while on FMLA at another. Maybe I could work a couple hours in the evening while my husband is home with her to supplement some income.
As far as our income it's kind of cut and dry. I pay this and he pays that. We don't have a lot of extra bills but a few things we can cut which wouldn't help a lot. But I hope I can be surprised by not having the income and maybe it will work on the one income while I'm out.
I feel less stressed about it now that I prayed and spoke to someone about it. Thanks guys. I'll keep you posted.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/5/2008 3:28:44 PM
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landabee
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I feel less stressed about it now that I prayed and spoke to someone about it. Thanks guys. I'll keep you posted.
Please do. I want to know how to pray. And please know, I am praying.
Peace, sister.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/5/2008 4:39:09 PM
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That's great that you feel better...have more peace on the issue now. That's how God works.
DH and I purchased this workbook for our family awhile back. It has a lot of good principles & while on the website I noticed that Crown Financial Ministries has a book for Young Married Couples that lays out a pretty good plan (at least it looked like from the table of contents...I haven't read it).
Praying for you & your family!!
God bless
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/18/2008 4:11:24 PM
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Can you believe we'd fallen all the way back to the third page?!? What's wrong with us? You'd think we were busy or something!
Okay, I'm ressurecting our thread to share my experience with cooking ahead and freezing...
I'M LOVING IT!!! This weekend we really got it down. Work with a buddy! It so much less frustrating and boring if you have someone else with you. If you have kids, cook after they go to bed. We did this this past weekend and it literally took half the time. Gladware plastic baking dishes are a godsend. They freeze great, can be cooked in no problem and clean up well. We reuse them until they warp!
We're up to cooking two weeks at a time. Keep an inventory of what you have available in the freezer and plan your menu ahead of time. It's so easy to just look at the menu on the fridge and pull out the appropriate dish to thaw the night before.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/18/2008 4:13:47 PM
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Oh oh! Here is where we talked about that...I couldnt remember where. I made some make ahead meals last night actually! Terkiyaki Chicken (basically a chicken breast frozen in marinade). And Chicken Spaghetti, just the sauce part, it made a lot so I froze it in two portions. I'm really excited!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/19/2008 12:39:08 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Kat, what items do you have on your menu? Just curious because this may be SO much easier for us...then I can cook LOTS and not have to worry about eating leftovers until I get tired of them. They can be frozen....especially once I get a deep-freeze...as space in the fridge freezer is a problem now.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/19/2008 1:01:00 PM
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Well I'm gonna jump on here. I really haven't read much so forgive me if I don't know what is going on with all of you ladies.
I am currently working for an Optometrist and while I enjoy working here (finishing up my third week was on mat leave) I hate having to work. It is super hard to leave my lil miss Mary. I miss her sooooo much.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/19/2008 3:11:21 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Nicole, just jump on in. It's mostly a "chat" thread along with a bit of gripe, etc. So you'll fit right in It's hard working full-time, plus parenting, being a wife, and being the housekeeper. Thankfully my DH pitches in a bit.
I hear you there, Kat, on being afraid your child would like his g-ma more. In my case it was a daycare provider/preschool teachers. Hasn't ever really seemed to happen...although he has had good attachments to them. He *almost* always wants to come home with me (unless he's too busy playing) and I'm not too hurt by that. LOL Now he's at home with me this summer and loving it!! But misses his preschool friends. At least he gets to see kids at church on Sunday! And before long he'll be seeing kids 6 kids a week (mid-August when school starts back up).
Hmmm....those foods sound SO yummy. Does the book include specifics about nutritional values? I'm dieting and so I really need to keep an eye on what I eat. Basically I'm trying to keep good carbs in while eliminating BAD carbs. The food SHOULD be low in sodium (not a requirement, but it may be as DH probably should be watching his intake due to heart problems with both sides of his family). Also, low saturated foods are good as it's the saturated fat that is bad for you.
Trying to think of anything else......and drawing blanks. Hmm....glad we revived the thread ladies.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/19/2008 3:14:48 PM
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Hi Nicole, welcome to our little thread. Sorry you are having a hard time leaving your little one, I'm not there yet, but I am already dreading it. ((hugs))
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 8:54:01 AM
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Hmmm....those foods sound SO yummy. Does the book include specifics about nutritional values?
That book doesn't. But anytime I run into a recipe that doesn't give nutritionals I head over to www.sparkrecipes.com. They have a GREAT recipe builder that's a life saver for me. It also allows me to customize what we cook. Mom and I just can't follow a recipe exactly. We always change up something!
--Kat
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 9:00:09 AM
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daughter_of_faith
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Thanks for the link, Kat. I'll have to check it out 
Oh and that sounds like me that's always wanting to change something. We each have our OWN tastes though so that makes perfect sense to me.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 10:05:33 AM
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Last night I put two more meals in the freezer!! Two pans of cheese and Italian sausage manicotti!! Anyone have any idea how long all these meals will be good in there? I dont want to start using them yet, but probably too early for "after baby comes" meals isnt it? (Baby due Oct 17).
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 2:26:05 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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I would say that's probably too early (at least for a meal that has pasta in it). You could possibly get away with freezing say meatloaf (I think those are good for 3 to 6 months). Hmmm...now you have me wondering food life in the freezer....
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Our church doesn't have a meals ministry and is VERY small, so I'm not planning on any assistance, either.
