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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 2:46:10 PM   
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Yeah, some of them are just for convenience for NOW (since its quiet possibly rougher now than when baby comes since I'll at least be home then). I just dont want to put them in the freezer this week and eat them next. I'm trying to get into a routine of at dinner time when I cook I make two meals. Like last night, one meal we had for supper called for Italian sausage and pasta, so I cooked all the sausage, while I still had the water going added more pasta and viola! in the same time I made one meal (plus just a tad extra prep work) I had three (since most recipes are two meals for us).

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 2:51:45 PM   
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That's how it is for us as well, Erin. DS is 5 and still doesn't eat a whole lot!!! I think most recipes are made to feed 4 to 6 people (or more!!!)

I found this about Freezing and Food Safety. It might help us out (or at least me).
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 3:03:45 PM   
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I'm just more than anything trying to break myself into a routine. Poor hubby, we walked by last night and said "I'd rather have that one." Too bad, its for later!

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 3:31:27 PM   
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Okay, its looks like frozen meals keep, on average, 3 months. But it did say that that was just for quality sake. So...if I wanted meals for say...mid-October....I should start THOSE in August or so.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/20/2008 4:16:50 PM   
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A great food to freeze is vegetable beef soup. It lasts in the freezer about 6 months. It's yummy and you can package it in as small or large quanities as you like. I love the idea that you are thinking ahead, even if it is a ways off. The time will sneak up on you QUICKLY!

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/23/2008 7:24:59 AM   
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It is good to see y'all recommend the Gladware, because I have yet to invest in freezer / oven ware and didn't know where to start. (or, is that microwave stuff) I really wish I had stuff in there the past few weeks. Dad was in the hospital and I was working late and we ate out way too much and it was a time problem that forced us to do that.

So, I made a girl mad at work. No, I will admit that I really feel like she does stupid things. I know I do a poor job of hiding my expressions when she catches me off guard with something dumb. And, over the years, I have become more frustrated with her as a person. To give you perspective, I was a good enough friend to call her vet and tell them to put her cat down and what to do with the remains, but not good enough to know she was getting married. My dad had bypass surgery less than two weeks ago and she didn't ask me how he was doing, but I know about her brother's cancer treatments. She has obviously been under stress and snappy lately, and I have avoided talking to her as much as possible.

This, is coupled with the fact that she acts as thought she is a better person because of the religious choices she has made. I tried to question her about them once and she was unable to defend her position except to say that was what the pastor taught. (ie, if you marry someone who doesn't agree with you financially, you are unequally yoked; she didn't have a problem with her 10yo son telling her that God made women for man's pleasure because he learned that during the Wednesday night program)

A few years ago, she was supposed to order paper, but ordered toner in error. The fellow who had this job before me, told her not to return it, because we'd use it and reordered the paper. We ran out of paper 3 months ago and I asked her to order it. She asked if it was the same stuff she got before and since it was, she ordered the same item number. I'm sure you can guess I got two more toner cartridges. Problem being that the fellow before me lied about needing toner and I haven't used that yet.

Now, these have to be at least $100 items. You'd think she'd return the second set. One day she took them out of my office and put them on the floor in the lobby (by her desk). This week is a safety audit. And, these are over 36 inches long.

So, Friday, I'm on the phone, on hold, and I was miffed at the guy on the other end. She came to the door, carrying something. I waved her in, said I was on hold, and she asked where she should put them. I asked what they were and she said 'dry ink' and I said that I could see they were the toner cartridges but what were they for? She got mad, picked them up, walked out and slammed my door shut.

She didn't speak to me again Friday. She left other deliveries for me outside my door.

Now, I will admit my first thought was she forgot I didn't want them, had never returned them, and was delivering them. My next thought was that she decided not to return them, and expected me to store them until I needed them. Considering one cartridges lasts at least two years, and we want to replace the copier within the next two-three years, I don't need THREE spares. I don't have space to hide them and expect they would draw damp in six years. And, considering I was already miffed at the guy on the phone (it was not work-related) and was being interupted while trying to discuss a personal matter, I'm sure I must have looked terrible to her.

But, it is a new week.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/23/2008 8:21:28 AM   
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It's okay, momma_bee. We all work with people like this...or have in the past. (((hugs)))

You are right...it is a NEW week and YOU can do this!!! Christ will strengthen you. Try not to let this lady get you so down.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/23/2008 10:20:36 AM   
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I am working 12 hour shifts but the good thing is that I get off 3 days one week and 4 days off the next. Which is the only reason why I will work 12 hour shifts. Which leaves my husband at home with at night because I work overnight. So I am thinking that the best thing to do is to cook and freeze food. Any suggestions. Also, my kids usually do chores but last year they was saying and I agree that being at school all day then coming home and doing homework and then doing chores is too much that it didn't leave them anytime for themselves no time to play etc. So I am wanting to take some of the pressure off of my husband. My husband also works. So I was thinking that either I cook before I leave or just have something that just needs to be heated up. I have made a contract with my kids for this next school year and it simply says, As long as you maintain a A and B average you will have no chores except for weekends. However, if your grades fall below A/B then you will be responsible for kitchen duty. I also said, in the contract that I will then contact their teachers and get extra homework in those areas and no tv, computer or video games will be allowed during the week. Any ideas are more than welcome.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/23/2008 11:14:51 AM   
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We always did chores in school. IT wasn't a lot but basic picking up after ourselves, taking care of our pets, and we all had a part in doing the dishes: one would set the table, one would clear, and the other would load the dishwasher.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/24/2008 8:25:34 PM   
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Hey ladies.

I haven't been very good about banking foods in the freezer. My sister and I started off gang busters cooking and baking for two weeks in a day........ and then .............. well........

We'll get back to it.

On the work sitch:

I am still feeling confident that the changes are going to be okay. I keep reminding myself that God can work everything out. And the evidence mounts daily that He is doing just that.

Two weeks ago, I was in an extensive two day training for a computer program/platform that I will need to know inside and out for my new duties. I was taught the user front side as well as the administrator side.

Then last week, I was sent to a national conference in Atlanta for Career Clusters Institute. As I enjoyed the sumptuous hotel room and service... I kept thanking Him. I learned a lot........ and was pampered to boot. I even got to meet someone that used to post at CW!

The last two days have been another rigorous training on a platform that we are adding to our college homepage. It is connected to a national database of jobs for students and does a whole lot of other things. Again: learned the user side and was made an administrator.

My head kinda is swimming from all of the information. But I know I can do all things through Christ.

The day after tomorrow my co-workers are giving me a going away party. I am so touched... and surprised.

So, yeah............ definitely seeing and feeling God move.

Hugs to all of you ladies, especially momma_bee. As my teens would say, "Shake dem haters off!"

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/25/2008 7:42:20 AM   
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Thanks!!!!!

I think I am just very hurt to realize that I don't care if this woman is mad at me. She isn't good for me. Not professionally, not spiritually, not personally. I should not hurt her feelings, but she over-reacts and I can't change that.

OSHA is in to review our VPP application / plant. So, lots of scurrying to prove that we are working safely, but not a lot of work getting done.

You guys are microwaving your food when you cook for a month, aren't you? I'd have to buy a microwave and lie to my hubby (about the cooking) to make that work.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/25/2008 8:37:15 AM   
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No microwaving here! (except the veggies that we serve as sides). Most of the meals we're doing are casseroles that we assemble and freeze. Then they are defrosted and cooked in the oven that day.

I'm getting ready for vacation next week! WOO HOO! It's been about four years since I took my last vacay (I don't count maternity leave... no relaxing there!). We're just staying in town and I'm going to tourist it up here with the kids. We've got several parks and museums that we've never visited and are looking forward to checking out.

Of course, that means this week is crazy. I'm trying to get everything ready for two Sundays in a row and really hoping I don't hurt anyone in the process

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/25/2008 8:47:58 AM   
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What do you freeze you food in?

I need a bigger freezer to go with the better microwave. Poppa really dislikes microwaved meat, but we use it for veggies, water and reheating / defrosting.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/25/2008 10:23:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatMack
Of course, that means this week is crazy. I'm trying to get everything ready for two Sundays in a row and really hoping I don't hurt anyone in the process

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Have fun on vacation this week!!! I hear you on getting everything ready for two Sundays and hoping nobody gets hurt. We're still trying to find a new SS teacher for my class.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/25/2008 10:31:11 AM   
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Landabee, I'm praying for you during this transition. They are so difficult, but can be such a blessing. I know when I transistioned to my current position, I was very grumpy because I had loved my previous duties. Now that I'm here, it's a MUCH better fit for me and I love it. I've also realized that it was an transistion-or-layoff situation. Glad I got the transistion option and you did too!!!

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/26/2008 10:39:03 AM   
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quote:

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What do you freeze you food in?

I need a bigger freezer to go with the better microwave. Poppa really dislikes microwaved meat, but we use it for veggies, water and reheating / defrosting.


Some stuff I put in freezer bags, like sauces and stuff like that. Casseroles I either put in a foil lined baking dish, then lift out and wrap it real good. Some I did last week I put in disposable baking pans, then covered in foil.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 6/26/2008 8:55:42 PM   
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quote:

Casseroles I either put in a foil lined baking dish, then lift out and wrap it real good.



That is a good idea!

quote:

Then last week, I was sent to a national conference in Atlanta for Career Clusters Institute. As I enjoyed the sumptuous hotel room and service... I kept thanking Him. I learned a lot........ and was pampered to boot. I even got to meet someone that used to post at CW!


I'm glad you were pampered, you deserve it! and I'm also glad you got to meet an online friend. That's always nice. :)

quote:

The day after tomorrow my co-workers are giving me a going away party. I am so touched... and surprised.


That's great that you are getting a nice send off.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/2/2008 1:34:38 PM   
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Hi ladies!

Do any of you have experience with co-workers using foul language at work? How did you address the issue?

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/2/2008 1:42:02 PM   
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The last two industries where I've worked, profanity was banned. It simply wasn't tolerated: Medical and now Education.


That said: When I worked in the service industry... the conversation became a bit "rich".

I would simply explain once that certain words and phrases offended me, and that I would in the future excuse my self.

All it really took was me sticking to my word and calmly moving away from the gutter language. I think the trick is to not "go off in a huff" or even "demand that they respect you".

Soon, they begin to respect you.

If this isn't a feasible solution, I'd suggest allowing HR to deal with it.

Eithe way it is a sticky situation.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/6/2008 12:00:24 AM   
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Do you ladies every feel like people think you are a bad mom/wife because you work?


I'm new to CrossDaily, so please forgive my late comment on the above quote.

I will never forget being at my local grocery store check-out when my daughter was 5 months old. The clerk struck up a conversation with me (how could she not with my adorable little baby there), and when she learned that I was returning to work in a few weeks after my maternity leave, she made the comment that she could NEVER have possibly entertained the thought of working while her children were under the age of 5. I was crushed. I was not returning to work because I wanted to, but because I had no choice. Some of us mothers have to work in order to provide our children with the daily necessities of life.

I wanted to say to that grocery clerk that it must have been nice for her to have been blessed with a husband who was able to financially support the family so that she could stay at home and enjoy her children, but I didn't. I had a hard enough time holding back the tears! (BTW, I was married but my husband was self-employed and not bringing in any money...more like losing money).

That conversation took place 16 years ago. I have been a working mom for all of those years.

Stay-at-home mothers should be more sensitive towards those who do work. It's not always a preferred choice to leave your child/ren with a babysitter.

Another thing that I have always found to be quite bothersome (at least this has been my experience) ... churches most often hold their ladies' Bible meetings on a weekday morning. To me, that just makes me feel even more horrible. Anyone else experience that?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/6/2008 7:54:42 AM   
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Welcome aboard Beth.

I have learned over the years to take my SIL with a grain of salt. When her son was born, she went back to work for one day, but she couldn't be away from her baby that long and sat and cried so she quit. Her hubby had a GOOD job and it was ok then. When the bottom went out of his industry, the boys were in school, but she stayed home in case they needed her. When the debt was overwhelming she went back to the same place (12 years later?) and still feels guilt. Her babies are grown, one is 8 hours away, the other is married and she plans around them.

I was thinking about her is morning. See, BigBee (my 14yo DS) is leaving for camp. With the cost of gas and the fact he is on staff, we are not going for family night and I told him that and he said he was ok, but I woke up wondering WHY he said it (my vote is so he can spend time with his buddies instead of mom). When I told my sister about 2 weeks ago that I went when he was a camper, she nagged me about going and never letting him do things on his own. I told my SIL later in a conversation about my sister being 'hands-off' with my parents, and my SIL went on about how hard it is to leave the babies for a day and how she wants to cry when her married son leaves to go to his house after an almost daily visit. How she understands I NEEDED to go. Yep, I needed to because someone had to bring dessert and he was the only boy from our troop. She didn't mean to do it, but I felt guilty for about a half a second. I got over that in a hurry.

Money, personallities, circumstances and concerns all weigh into the decision. I have been told that everyone mom WANTS to be a SAHM, but not all can. That would also be bull in my mind. I am a better morther when I work. It keeps me scheduled and lets me talk to adults and not worry about my kids all day.

Language? I hate my potty mouth. I work in a plant and the language can get quite coarse. I'm pretty good, but when you hear it it slips in.

Before this, I worked in a mine. There were 4-5 of us in the office as temps and we were told not to go to the miners lounge, but if we had to, take a friend because the men were terrible. Rough language, mean attitudes, unable to treat anyone with respect. Well, they had the closer bathroom and we started going in. Oh, the things we heard! "Good Morning" "Nice to see a pretty face" "Was that room clean or do we need to send someone in" "Did you find what you need?" Turns out they didn't like that the bosses son was handed a job and they were awful to him. but completely normal too us.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/15/2008 2:31:26 PM   
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Wow, everyone must be some busy working wives/moms. I know I am. I have been splitting my time between work here and work on our house so we can get moved in once.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/15/2008 2:34:58 PM   
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Yeah, I'm preparing for our move to Kansas. I haven't packed any boxes yet today. *sigh*

School starts back soon as well. Wow! Where did the summer go?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/15/2008 2:46:58 PM   
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Now some might think this sounds mean, but I am excited for school to start. The kids are driving me batty!! The schedule and routine are so badly needed. I love when school is in full swing.

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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/15/2008 4:39:33 PM   
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The routine is good. It helps ME do better too. Over the summer I've tried to get a routine going, but I've really struggled and ended up slacking off a LOT over the past couple of weeks. He was sick the week before the 4th of July...so I didn't have him do schoolwork...just babied him. Since then, he's been thinking he needs to be babied. So...our schedule is all out of whack....

Mostly we go off of DH's schedule...in that he's home for lunch at 10 AM...so that's when we have lunch. Supper is at 5 or 6 (so about normal time) but we've eaten it a time or two at 4:30 because everyone was starving!!!
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