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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/15/2008 5:29:30 PM
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FAWIHTT
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I am getting ready to transfer to the east coast I am looking forward to it but at the same time its diffucult. My husband is trying to transfer his job as well but as long as we all work together all will be good and then it's finding a whole new routine.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/16/2008 10:03:30 AM
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daughter_of_faith
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Yes, I hear you there. We're moving in 2 weeks so we'll be in a different time zone...2 hours ahead. It will help to have the structure in place almost immediately....but I'm starting to get a little panicky as we move into our house on Friday the 1st and I go to work on Monday the 4th!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/16/2008 10:19:37 AM
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That was the arrangement we had for a good 7 years Amy. We did manage it, but my hubby is just not the stay at home kind of guy. I am so greatful that we did that though because my kids really needed at least one of us at home.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/16/2008 2:14:05 PM
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FAWIHTT
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that's exactly my schedule I am worried about not having enough time to set things up before starting work. The kids start school on the 19th so it will be a little crazy for a minute.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/16/2008 2:38:01 PM
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My DH will be the SAHD after our move. He'll be working part-time though (our son is school age) and taking college classes...so....it will be interesting to see how things go. We're planning on him doing most of the cooking/cleaning...at least during the week. I'm more than willing to do some on the weekend as I'm sure I'll miss cooking all the time. Can guarantee I will NOT miss the cleaning, LOL. 
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/16/2008 2:40:43 PM
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My hubby works from home most mornings and a few full days, so he will partially be a SAHD. We havent nailed down what we'll do the rest of the time yet, leaning toward family because it will be hard to justify a full time day care when he is home with such a variable schedule.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/16/2008 2:44:07 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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You may consider a day care provider for part-time. I know my previous day care provider would take drop ins. Of course...since the schedule is so variable...that may be hard. The provider we had was ultra flexible...as long as I kept her informed about what was going on. Generally, he ended up being there full-time during the summer (Fridays were a short day...if I worked Fridays)...and during my student teaching, he was there all day. Other than that...it depended on when my college classes were....
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/19/2008 9:16:46 PM
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I am a single mom so I have to work. When married, both of us did work although I did stay home for the first year or so. Looking back, I wish I could have been a SAHM at least until they started school as I feel like I missed so much. I went back to school to get a better job with better hours as I had always worked in retail. Knowing I would be alone, I wanted to be sure I could have a job that I could work around my kids. Thanks to God I do have that. I have all holidays and weekends off, tons of vaca time and holiday time and sick time. Since I HAVE to work, this is the best arrangement possible. I am tired though, working, taking full time classes online, and running around with 2 kids. I do pray that one day I will remarry and be able to be a SAHM and have another child or two. Even though mine our older, both 11 now, I would still like to be able to stay home with them and be involved in their school activities more and such.
I do what I do because I have to. I do like my job, I am in a social work type setting so I do get to help people. But I do feel I would be better served if I could be there for my kids more.
Just my opinion for me.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/20/2008 12:16:59 AM
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my kids are 9 and 10 and I agree I would love to be able to be a stay at home mom also and be more involved. Financally, we need me to work but I am blessed because my job is one that I work 12 hour days which means I get 3 days off one week and 4 off the next so I get to spend alot of time with them. So I make sure we do alot with them when i am out we enjoy doing alot of outside activites Walking, biking etc.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/22/2008 3:07:44 PM
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I'm so frustrated right now. I am 7 months pregnant, work a full time job, then come home and keep all my housework done up, in addition to raising a garden and canning garden stuff. But apparently my family (mom, dad, and brother) feel the need to constantly tell me how I dont do anything. How I am lazy, and dont "really" work (since I am not working on a farm) and they work so much harder than me and I have no reason to ever be tired. Now, anytime we go out there to visit (once a week) we sit for hours on the porch and chat...all the while WE need to be home doing stuff (mowing, laundry, planning next week's meals, etc). When I reminded them how I dont get ANY rest time (as it, I barely sit down and have a coke when I get home at the end of the day) I'm informed its because I dont work hard and dont need rest. UGH....I feel so worthless. I currently go to bed every night in pain with my legs hurting so bad I cant sleep because I WONT sit down and rest. I just want to cry. 
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/22/2008 3:31:16 PM
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I am 7 months pregnant,
Wow! I know it seems like every minute for you but I had no idea it has been that long!
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I currently go to bed every night in pain with my legs hurting so bad I cant sleep because I WONT sit down and rest. I just want to cry.
{{Erin}} you have to take care of you. Listen to your loving husband when he says sit! and don't listen to those people who really do not have your best interest at heart. If they did they would not be saying such things to you. It sounds like they are the ones having a pity party.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/22/2008 4:42:17 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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(((Erin))) You're not lazy!! You're pregnant! When I was pregnant with my DS (5 now), I had so many people telling me how lazy I was, etc. I was tired ALL the time...and I wasn't working except for an occasional sub job. So that meant housekeeping, cooking meals, etc. It is HARD work being pregnant. Like someone else said, when hubby hollers at you...slow down...take a break. My DH is good about getting me in check when I try to overdo things.
Amy, I'm a teacher at a public school as well....and....double shock...my DH will only be working part-time once we get moved. I really do think God has an awesome sense of humor and likes to work "outside the box" so to speak. Too many times we try to box God in with our thoughts of how He is. Our thoughts are NOT His thoughts...they are so much higher and better than ours could EVER be!
Less than 2 weeks of "summer" left....and even this last part I have had has been spent packing like a mad woman. Then next week it is loading and driving....then unloading and unpacking. Wow!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/22/2008 7:41:02 PM
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I have had has been spent packing like a mad woman
I sure wish I could say the same thing. We do have the house clean and ready to go. We have to finish the small bathroom upstairs, but we can still move in without that being finished. I did manage to go through the children's toys. I told them to leave out three toys each and the rest were going to be packed away. I really really need to get things packed. Ryan wants to move this weekend but I'm not sure how we are going to do it. His boss is on vacation this week, so he will have to work till close all week. I myself have to work all the rest of the week. What I could do is load all the small boxes into my van and take over what I can fit in there each evening.
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"I don't know what I just ate, but it was good" -- recent customer (farmer) at our restaurant.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/22/2008 7:46:50 PM
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ORIGINAL: SweetLittleErin
I'm so frustrated right now. I am 7 months pregnant, work a full time job, then come home and keep all my housework done up, in addition to raising a garden and canning garden stuff. But apparently my family (mom, dad, and brother) feel the need to constantly tell me how I dont do anything. How I am lazy, and dont "really" work (since I am not working on a farm) and they work so much harder than me and I have no reason to ever be tired. Now, anytime we go out there to visit (once a week) we sit for hours on the porch and chat...all the while WE need to be home doing stuff (mowing, laundry, planning next week's meals, etc). When I reminded them how I dont get ANY rest time (as it, I barely sit down and have a coke when I get home at the end of the day) I'm informed its because I dont work hard and dont need rest. UGH....I feel so worthless. I currently go to bed every night in pain with my legs hurting so bad I cant sleep because I WONT sit down and rest. I just want to cry.
Some people have the misperception that if you do office or indoor type work that it isn't real "work". They don't have a clue that mental and physical work can be equally tiring.
2nd issue--you need better boundaries with your family. I speak as one who was a wuss for years and allowed parental & family expectations to determine my life for long after I should have been independent of these things. I love my family, but they don't "get" me, and I've come to the conclusion that they probably never will. Hard to accept.
When they start, just get up and pleasant take your leave, then go home and do the things you need to do. Better yet, pick a Sunday and stay home to start with--I, too, suffered for many years from the "expectation" of attendance at every Sunday dinner. Some times you just gotta make a stand!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/23/2008 9:25:55 AM
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daughter_of_faith
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You could just take a few boxes over at a time, Nicole. We did that with this last move as our old apt. was on the way to our new house (from work); however, with this move...it isn't an option. I guess that's why we're being more organized about it! We're making about a 1500 mile move, so if we leave something behind...we won't be returning for it.
Some people just tend to think if you're not in manual labor you don't work. I mean, I've heard it said that teachers don't work. We do....we're with children all day (for 1)....generally we're walking around all day (oh, my feet), we're communicating with other adults, etc.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 7/30/2008 7:20:52 AM
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We officially move tomorrow or friday and we are moving 1100 miles away. I report to work on Tuesday so we don't have a whole lot of time to get things toether and organized and the kids start school on August the 19th..... good days ahead.
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And then after the baby is born in December, I'll be a WOHM and he'll be a SAHD. Not too many of those around here 
