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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 4/26/2008 12:17:40 PM
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lilyofthefield
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That's the weird thing - he says he's fine if I want to spend money on ME, but he doesn't want me giving it away to church or charity (especially church - he distrusts pastors in general when it comes to $). I even asked if he would be okay if I went without something I usually would spend money on and gave that. He said no way. Well, I know with God all things are possible, so I am trusting that He is working in hubby's heart and mind.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 4/26/2008 4:06:37 PM
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Have you ladies ever felt limited in your availability to serve God because of the mismatch? For example, if you wanted to go on a mission work project somewhere, how would your spouse feel? Sometimes I feel like God will never use me.
I can't speak for the other ladies frazzled, but I don't feel that is necessarily true at all for me. Even though my sweet hubby and I are not on the same page, spiritually speaking, he is (and always has been) very supportive of my involvement in church activities or service work. Granted I've never gone on some long-term mission trip (nor have I ever felt led to) but I have participated in service opportunities that took me out of town/state for more than just the day.
I've taught Sunday School, chaperoned youth service trips such as clean-up in the Miss. Gulf Coast area following Katrina, sang in the choir, worked with Habitat, served on committees, helped develop a Code of Conduct for any adults working with children/teens (and attended seminars providing information for such a task) and then conducted training sessions on that code for volunteers...and through it all, my husband has supported me completely.
He has never tried to 'talk me out of' any of it, never complained when it meant that dinner was take-out or that time that could have been spent together was lost to these things, and if I felt a desire or leading to do one of those things and one or both of my children couldn't be included then he willingly stepped up to take care of them. So, at least for me, I don't feel that is an issue. He may not feel that such involvement is what he wants for himself, but he supports me...not so much for what I'm doing but because I'm his wife. Am I a lucky girl or what?
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/1/2008 7:15:31 PM
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Mrs.X
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Great news! My hubby went to see one of his new customers today to treat the property for carpenter ants, and it was a church here in town. He spoke with the pastor who invited us to come to church. And, my hubby asked him if they have child care (LOL, hubby knows me too well) and they do! So, we're going this Sunday by request of my hubby! I can't believe it!
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/1/2008 7:26:01 PM
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nicole6598
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That is so awesome Christina!!!So happy for you both!!
update on hubby, he is reading his bible every morning, I think this is the 4th week and going to church both services on sunday, ,going to men's fellowship too!!
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/1/2008 8:18:55 PM
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BrowneyedAL
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Awesome Christina!! I'm so happy for you...let us know how it goes.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/1/2008 9:41:30 PM
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WooHoo, ladies!!! I had *forgotten* about this thread, whoops!
DH and I have came to some agreements about things...in other words I have done some soul searching/Bible diving and learned some interesting things. We still have one clash, but other than that...we're on the same page 
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/18/2008 8:54:00 PM
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My husband's name is Al and I would appreciate any prayers for him to go to church with me and give his life to the Lord, be baptized and just somehow get somewhat equal to where I am in my journey with God. His fears that the church and people at the church wanting to change him is really God speaking to him but he won't see it that way. He would rather hang out with guys at the race track, search the internet about cars and racing, watch car shows and racing on tv, talk about cars and racing and that's the extent of his interests. Please pray for him. Thank you.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/19/2008 8:51:16 AM
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daughter_of_faith
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Surely will pray for Al....as I do for all of the ladies and their DH's here.
It's an interesting "battle"...but it can be done. We basically have full agreement in our household now about spiritual issues. I can't believe it!
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/20/2008 5:18:29 PM
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Hi Guylar, praying for you and Al. Welcome.
DofF, great news! God is good!
Christina, did hubby like the church you went to? Would love to hear about it if you want to share....
Nicole, Praise the Lord! Overjoyed to hear the Lord is moving in your household.
I have good news, too. Dave is now willing to join a small group, yay! Pray for us!
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/20/2008 6:14:41 PM
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I am new to this site but I am in a spiritual mismatch and really need some advice. I have been saved now for 12yrs and my husband still isn't even interested in attending church or discussing God for that matter. It is really a difficult situation in our home because my 15 yr old daughter is tired of being in a home where he father drinks all the time and isn't interested in her life at all. The only time he really interacts with us is to tell us something he wants us to do or to tell us about something he is angry about. I have tried so hard to be a submissive wife and be loving to him even when I don't think he deserves it sometimes but none the less I know that is what God expects from me. I am at a lose of what else to do at this point. I know with God all things are possible but I could really use some input from some ladies who know .
God bless
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/20/2008 6:33:37 PM
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daughter_of_faith
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Praying for you, hun. I don't know that I personally have any advice for you; however, I know there are several ladies who have btdt so hopefully they will be here to offer suggestions soon.
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DofF, great news! God is good! ALL THE TIME!!!!
I have good news, too. Dave is now willing to join a small group, yay! Pray for us!
Yay!! Praise the Lord! It always amazes me how much God can change a situation over time. Granted my DH and I had "smaller" obstacles to overcome. It just goes to show that God hears our prayers and answers every time! Wow, Jen....so awesome :) I will definitely be praying!!
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/20/2008 11:56:28 PM
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Mrs.X
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Praying for you both Guylar and Milhousemsm.
Jen, church was great last week. Hubby liked it too. I'm just really stoked that he wanted to go. Even this morning he wanted to go, but we had to clean our old apartment. This church is sooooo casual though. I thought I've been to casual churches before, but the pastor sat on a couch on the stage when someone else was talking and took his flip flops off. LOL! That's good for us though because we don't have many church clothes. The kids had a great time in the nursery too, and the folks who work in there are really great, quite a few young teenage girls helping too.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/21/2008 12:21:36 AM
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Christina that's wonderful news!!! My FIL always took his shoes off when he preached, I am not sure if he does it in his new church though, its more "upper class" than our country church 
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/21/2008 1:13:55 AM
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Mrs.X
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Hehehe, yeah I've been a couple churches where the congregation probably would have freaked out if the pastor took off his shoes, LOL! But, everyone was wearing jeans and flip flops pretty much. Hubby said he's looking forward to wearing his next week. We dressed up in Sunday clothes when we went because hubby wasn't sure what the pastor meant by "casual" when Robert went to treat the church for carpenter ants.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/21/2008 2:05:25 AM
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nicole6598
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I have never been to a church where you had to dress up really.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/21/2008 9:58:46 AM
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MamaMilty
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I have tried so hard to be a submissive wife and be loving to him even when I don't think he deserves it sometimes but none the less I know that is what God expects from me.
Hi milhousemsm, and welcome to our little spot of encouragement! I can share with you what our pastor spoke to us about this week and it really opened my eyes.
He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but whoever is kind to the needy honors God. Proverbs 14:31
Your husband is wonderfully created by God. Even in his spiritually poor condition today, he is loved by our Father in heaven. When you look at your husband, see the image in which he was created. See the Saviour you serve and act accordingly. Reflect that image and your husband may begin to see Jesus in your loving acts of service to him. Make sense?
I *know* it can be hard. Especially when we allow ourselves to act in the flesh to our husband's worldly ways. Just start by actively closing your mouth and giving the Spirit time to work in you, He will! Trying on our own to do what God expects just because we know logically that is what He expects is a losing battle. The power of God's Spirit is within you, let it shine!
The next time your beloved snaps at you, stop and see the LORD before you, now how to you want to respond?
I hope this blesses you as much as it has blessed me, I love you, and will be praying for your family. 
Christina! Awesome! I like casual style worship services, too. Do you every see Ed Young on TV? He sits in a chair, wearing jeans and a t-shirt and just teaches the Word in plain talk, I love him!
I can't wait to see what the Lord does with each of us this week, let's keep this thread up on top!
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/21/2008 5:39:18 PM
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I'd like to join this discussion. I was raised in a Christian home with my father being a Pastor of a church. I am a born-again Christian and my walk always hasn't been the best. In fact, I just got right with God again and I want to be that strong Christian woman He wants me to be but I also want my husband to be that strong Christian man I know He can be. He was raised in a Christian home too but his dad fell into drinking and drugs when my husband was 12 and they never went to church again. My husband does go to church with me but we've only been like a handful of times this year and he believes in God but he still drinks like 5 times a week, he plays online poker like everyday, and he has no interest in doing bible studies with me or reading the bible. I don't want to keep arguing with him about it because I know it will only drive him further away. I started praying this past week for changes in our marriage and in us individually. I've seen the change in me and I'm proud to say he didn't drink beer at all during the workweek, just twice on the weekend and he drank so much Friday night he threw up and didn't want to drink anymore after that. I'm still new to this but I want us to be able to go to church together more, pray together, and have him be like King David, a man after God's Own Heart. My husband's name is David also.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 7/21/2008 11:18:40 PM
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milhousemsm
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Thanks for the words of wisdom and yes I understand what you are saying...I am going to do exactly what you said wait for the Holy Spirit to give me what
I need to do and say...Pray for strength for me in this area but I know God says in our weakness HE MAKES US STRONG~~~I want to be able to see what God see's and not what I see. Thanks so much for your prayers too!
Love to you also,
Marie
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 8/5/2008 2:33:14 PM
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I need my prayer warriors out in force! Will and I have continued to butt heads over Marshall's baptism. Last night he agreed to meet with my pastor to discuss it. I know this is a "non-proselytizing" meeting, but I also know that my pastor is a former missionary who has a heart for sharing God's Word and leading people to Christ. I'm hopeful that something deeper will come out of their meeting. I'm also trying not to get my hopes up. But this all just feels like it's going to be the tipping point. Please, Lord! Let my husband come to know You!!!
Once they've got it scheduled, I'll let y'all know the date and time of their meeting. I'd really appreciate having them (Will and Pastor Dave) covered in prayer.
--Kat
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 8/11/2008 4:24:17 PM
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His appointment with the Pastor is this Sunday at 3:30pm. Another prayer request. I'm quitting smoking and struck a deal with him. I told him I needed immediate gratification, something to motivate me. I asked him if he would go with me to a small group sponsered by my church that's geared for seekers. He said that once I'd gone 48 hours without a cigarette, he would go. I'd talked to him about the class yesterday and asked him if he'd be interested and he said that he would think about it.
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 8/11/2008 4:38:26 PM
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I have a praise....WHen I was in labor (12 weeks early)hubby called the church and asked for prayer. And I do believe he himself has been praying for our little man. I am so praying that this miracle will make a difference...and I think it has. One step closer....
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RE: Surviving our Spiritual Mismatch Encouragement Thread - 8/11/2008 4:47:27 PM
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I dont talk about it too often, alot of folks dont "get it". But this has all definitely been a faith building thing for BOTH of us. Isaac is truly a miracle baby...both in conception and now his birth. The teenage years scare me....
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