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ChristSeeker007 -> My experience with my girlfriend. (3/17/2008 6:09:04 PM)

Not long ago I was having problems in the area of marriage. I met my girlfriend when she was 13 and now she is about to turn 18. We've had our big ups and downs and when I met her I wasn't christian but she was catholic and then I converted but in that time period me and her had stop talking for a few months due to differences and problems. When things got back together this religion thing was a big problem to both of us and her family. They were hardcore catholics and I'm not talking againts any religion here. My point here is that because of religion we would argue a lot because of the differences in doctrines and beliefs. I wanted her to be become a christian and go to the church I attended, I wanted her to have that close relationship with our Lord Jesus, I wanted her to know him up closer.

Even though she was raised in a religious culture and family she would still go to party's and do a lot of things a believer shouldn't do or be involved in. I would read the bible to her, something she was never really taught to do. There was times when the mom would come outside cursing at me and calling me names. They tryed to take some drastic action, the priest from the catholic church told her mom not to let her out and to keep us away from each other. The priest said that if she didn't want to go to the catholic church than she wasn't going to go anywhere else. He called me a few names behind my back something my girlfriend overheard on the phone while her mom was talking to the priest. It was a crazy period in my life because It hadn't been long since I had converted.

Not long after this little incident the priest called my house trying to tell me to leave her alone and all these other things. My mom was in my room talking to me when he called and she took the phone from me and tryed to talk to him but he ignored her and was somewhat rude to her and hung up on her. I guess the next day she told my step dad (something I didn't know til days after it happened). My step dad called him back to complain about what the priest had done, but the priest ignored the phone and didn't pick up but my step dad left a message saying that if he didn't pick up than he was going to call the cops. The priest called back immediately and apologized for the way he had talked to my mom. There was a lot of opposition going on from everywhere over this religious matter.

I wanted her to see what I had saw, to experience what I had experienced in the presence of the Lord. When I would read the bible to her, her mom would tell me to stop filling up her mind with trash, that really hurt me. It hurt me because I thought what do these people think. They go to church and say they believe in God and this and that, but call his word trash. It hurt me, but no so for me but for them, it was sad. Only God knows why he allowed all this, I learned so much from it. I asked God to please touch her heart so that she can convert and go to church with me because she's the one I wanted to be with and even though it took time, it happened :) . If God hadn't touched her heart and heard my prayer. I guarantee I wouldn't be with her right now. Those type of relationship don't really work and cause many uneccessary arguments. Me and her are still going out and we're doing good thanks to God, now she's planning on going to college and continue her career. We're both young but pretty mature mentally and spiritually and we both know that there's nothing better than to serve the Lord.

Present:We've had many problems lately, regarding the desires of the flesh like wanting to have sex and getting married not to sin. That's are issue now but thanks to our pastors who are two wonderful instruments of the Lord we have been able to get back on track. My pastor gave us this real good book on dating and marriage and gave us a few classes on the matter. My mindset is set on giving God everything and my best no matter what to fulfill my calling. I told my girlfriend and we've talked about it. I told her that these carnal situation is not going to interfere in our relationship with God and that I'd prefer to be alone than to be sinning but that I wasn't going to get married just to calm the desires of the flesh. I don't believe it to be the time, first of all because of the age, financial situation, and all the things we yet have to do for God. I'm young but very Christ-centered and have my goals set and I'm going to do them and do it all for God. If his will is for me not to get married than I know he will give me the strengh I need to go on. I have that fire for God and he comes first in everything and I want to please him first before anyone else. To me it's all about God and our Lord Jesuschrist. My existence is in him, because if he wasn't in my life than I'd be empty and have no reason to live for. Thanks to him I'm alive now and have a purpose in life. I give glory to God in the good times and also in the bad times like Job, because God is God no matter what.

p.s.

I have many more stories or what you could also call testimony's to share, I might post them in the near future so you can see but not under relationships lol.

Honestly I don't know why I posted this. It was initially a response to a post lol but look what it became. I hope this helps and edify's many of you. Either way it was something nice to be shared I guess.

God bless all of you.
Shalom.



GodsSilverRose -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (3/17/2008 6:32:35 PM)

Thank you for your testimony.

You are a strong person in Christ and I am grateful that God has brought you through many temptations. Unfortunately, you and this girl are unevenly yoked. I pray that God will bring the right person into your life with whom you may share the love of Christ.

May God Bless you, always.

Rose



deermousie -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (3/17/2008 10:53:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GodsSilverRose

Thank you for your testimony.

You are a strong person in Christ and I am grateful that God has brought you through many temptations. Unfortunately, you and this girl are unevenly yoked. I pray that God will bring the right person into your life with whom you may share the love of Christ.


I agree with Rose completely. You are a fine young man with excellent prospects in the Lord, and I'm afraid you and this girl are not a match. The hassles can go on for generations, and if you married her, her parents would be the grandparents of your children. Oh, the drama and destruction, year after year after year. Imagine what they would try to teach your kids when you weren't there. I'm sorry, Christseeker007.



ChristSeeker007 -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (3/20/2008 10:20:13 AM)

Thanks for the advise, but actually things are going pretty good. She converted and there is a change in her. We're both christians and my mom also gave her heart to Jesus not so long ago. I had been praying for her over a year and thanks to God and his faithfulness he answered my prayer and now all my family goes to church and I know it's going to take some time before we start seeing changes, but I believe the Lord. My point here is that her family will give their hearts to our saviour too. They our seeing our testimony and the way we live and you can easily see that their thinking "what happened here". Whenever we get the chance we talk to them about Jesus and they listen but at the same time they try to act like they already know or don't care but I know the Holy spirit is doing his job and it's just a matter of time before God fulfills his promise to my girlfriend. I believe it's going to happen and so does she.



captainfraulein -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (3/20/2008 6:13:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ChristSeeker007

Thanks for the advise, but actually things are going pretty good. She converted and there is a change in her. We're both christians and my mom also gave her heart to Jesus not so long ago. I had been praying for her over a year and thanks to God and his faithfulness he answered my prayer and now all my family goes to church and I know it's going to take some time before we start seeing changes, but I believe the Lord. My point here is that her family will give their hearts to our saviour too. They our seeing our testimony and the way we live and you can easily see that their thinking "what happened here". Whenever we get the chance we talk to them about Jesus and they listen but at the same time they try to act like they already know or don't care but I know the Holy spirit is doing his job and it's just a matter of time before God fulfills his promise to my girlfriend. I believe it's going to happen and so does she.



It is hard, my friend, to post things on a public bulletin board, especially a Xtian one since peeps tend to judge your whole life, relationship, your girlfriend's walk with God...based on a few paragraphs you have written in strong emotion.

I praise God you see a change in her...and feel she has converted. I pray you both will be strong and not get into temptations of the flesh before marriage.

I can't believe a man of the cloth would act like her priest did...but everyone's feet are made of clay.

Be strong in the faith of Christ and hold onto God's promises. May both of you be very blessed by God today. +



GodsSilverRose -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (3/20/2008 7:52:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: redwhiterose




It is hard, my friend, to post things on a public bulletin board, especially a Xtian one since peeps tend to judge your whole life, relationship, your girlfriend's walk with God...based on a few paragraphs you have written in strong emotion.




I wasn't judging, I was speaking truth based on what was written. This young man wrote from the heart and having lived as long as I have, I have experienced some of the same. I pray that God has changed this young lady but it is very difficult to lead to a marriage with so much baggage. I hope and pray for both of them that they seek God's will in their lives and follow along the paths set before them. If it is God's will that the paths are joined, wonderful! But the issue should never be forced based on emotional need.

Rose



captainfraulein -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (3/20/2008 11:21:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GodsSilverRose





I wasn't judging, I was speaking truth based on what was written. This young man wrote from the heart and having lived as long as I have, I have experienced some of the same. I pray that God has changed this young lady but it is very difficult to lead to a marriage with so much baggage. I hope and pray for both of them that they seek God's will in their lives and follow along the paths set before them. If it is God's will that the paths are joined, wonderful! But the issue should never be forced based on emotional need.

Rose


Nice name Rose! [;)] My handle is because one day I really admired the beauty of a white and rose rose I found laying on the ground July 2005.

You might be right or you might be wrong. That is all I meant and my post was not directed at any post here in particular.

It is obvious your advise is from your heart. I just wanted to assure the young gentleman of the situation...I myself have written things up as a post and I had a hard time when people felt they knew my situations totally based on a few paragraphs. Not to say I have not done that to people myself.



ChristSeeker007 -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (4/11/2008 1:15:14 PM)

I thank you'll for your advise and Please do understand that everything is under control. I have many people in my life starting with my pastors that are my guides and help me a lot. I kinda feel like I have expressed my self wrong, or that somehow it was misunderstood. I don't believe to be unequally-yoked because we are both christians and are growing strong. We get along great but our focus is not on each other but on God. We are determined and decided we will serve the Lord, and I thank him because he has put me in a great church. Where the leaders are authentic and real, they are humble and love the Lord. I couldn't have gone to a better place. Even though her family goes to another church we are happy and moving forward. I hope that I have explained my self better and please don't agrue over these matters. If someone says something out of place it's ok, I understand and I don't feel like I'm being judged and if I was I would be ok with it because I know that only God is the judge not us. Nothing or no one will interfere with me and my girlfriend serving the Lord, we might have problems and not be perfect but believe me our sight is set on our redeemer without a doubt.

May God bless all.
Shalom.



shadowspring -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (4/11/2008 2:21:07 PM)

I really appreciate your post, ChristSeeker!

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Present:We've had many problems lately, regarding the desires of the flesh like wanting to have sex and getting married not to sin. That's are issue now but thanks to our pastors who are two wonderful instruments of the Lord we have been able to get back on track. My pastor gave us this real good book on dating and marriage and gave us a few classes on the matter. My mindset is set on giving God everything and my best no matter what to fulfill my calling. I told my girlfriend and we've talked about it. I told her that these carnal situation is not going to interfere in our relationship with God and that I'd prefer to be alone than to be sinning but that I wasn't going to get married just to calm the desires of the flesh. I don't believe it to be the time, first of all because of the age, financial situation, and all the things we yet have to do for God. I'm young but very Christ-centered and have my goals set and I'm going to do them and do it all for God. If his will is for me not to get married than I know he will give me the strengh I need to go on. I have that fire for God and he comes first in everything and I want to please him first before anyone else. To me it's all about God and our Lord Jesuschrist. My existence is in him, because if he wasn't in my life than I'd be empty and have no reason to live for. Thanks to him I'm alive now and have a purpose in life. I give glory to God in the good times and also in the bad times like Job, because God is God no matter what.


I am going to have my daughter and her bf read it. They are still young, only 17, and I think it will encourage them to know that they are not the only young couple in the world who were:

a) tempted by the flesh to sin (Successfully resisted, new boundaries in place to minimize this.)

b) tempted to make it right by prematurely marrying (Yay! Glad they faced this decision BEFORE they were eighteen and didn't need parental approval. Just as you received wise counsel from your pastors, these two received wise counsel from their parents.)

c) decided to choose God and purity above each other, and trust in the Lord to help them prepare their lives to be ready for marriage someday.

May the Lord continue to richly bless you and all the young people so committed to Him! SS



NoDumbBlonde -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (4/11/2008 4:48:37 PM)

Sounds like things are working well for you.... now. Glad to hear that your gf has accepted Christ as her savior, and your mom too!

The only problem that I see that can pose a problem is her family, especially if you two do get married. If they are so indoctrinated in the catholic church and not in a true faith in Christ it can lead to problems with the wedding, marriage, future children, etc. Is your gf willing to leave her family behind if need be? Once you are married her priority and commitment must be to you first and to her family second. More than a few parents have disowned their children for marrying against their religion or wishes. If they are as you describe then you may be facing some tough times. While I hope that she will not have to choose between a you and her parents is she willing to take that chance? So I suggest that you begin really praying for a change of heart with her parents. Pray for their salvation too. Marriage is tough enough without having to deal with conflicts with in-laws and will be especially tough on her being in the middle.

Pray and ask God to guide you in His will for your lives. Pray for her family and keep on standing on God's Word.
[:)]



RHardin15 -> RE: My experience with my girlfriend. (4/16/2008 9:16:28 AM)

That is a really interesting situation.

My girlfriend and her entire family is Catholic, where my entire family is Protestant. My girlfriend and her mother both most definately know Christ as their Lord and Savior, and I attend Mass with them sometimes, she attends Church with me sometimes, and other times we do both in the same day. The cool thing about our relationship is that she believes that the Catholic traditions and rituals that she grew up doing were used as tools to help her stay on track, but weren't needed for salvation. I enjoy attending mass with her, because I grew up attending Churches that obviously did things differently, and it's refreshing to experience a change. I do have to say that her Church is not what I expected. I was expecting this uber-traditional atmosphere where I would get dirty looks and stuff like that (which, by the way, I did get very many dirty looks when I walked into a family member's Southern Baptist Church with the way I looked, dressed, and carried myself... alot of judgemental people there that think you need to be dressed in your finest slacks and a tie at Church). Instead, it was very laid back, with comtemporary music, and a Preist who explained the readings and even cracked several jokes. In addition to that, the whole standing, kneeling, sitting thing was kinda like a breath of fresh air because it made me actually focus MORE on Christ while I was there. I LOVE my very laid-back non-denominational Church, don't get me wrong, but I think it is a very good thing for a Protestant to see what Catholic mass is like, and actually use it as a way to change things up. There's nothing worse than getting in a rut at Church, and not feeling touched by the Holy Spirit when you attend.

I know this is complicated because not everyone would feel the same way. However, my girlfriend has said that after our Marriage, she does not plan to continue attending a Catholic Church, rather she would like to attend the Church I currently attend because she feels like she gets much better discipleship there.

I don't at all think it's important what you call yourself, Catholic, Baptist, Methodist, Pentecostal, whatever... What's important is that you know that Church doctrine doesn't get you anywhere, because Christ is the only one who is worthy of our trust, and He's the only one capable of saving.



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