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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/12/2008 11:45:57 AM
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fluffmonkey
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I am very happy happy that you decided to keep your baby boy and get married, you have alot support and that is wonderful, your baby is not a mistake, while you may have made the mistake of sining with your boy friend, your baby is pure and blessing from God.
You are in my prayers.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/12/2008 4:18:57 PM
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My baby boy may be a mistake but I love him and am thankful for him. How can something wrong result in something so good?
I dunno, ask my mom.  I was a "mistake", though I prefer the word "unplanned". My mom and dad are pretty happy with me, they tell me so all the time.
They were married, but they were even younger then you are and money was very tight. They often tell me how happy they are that I bust through some pretty impressive birth control to make it into this world.
I'm EXTREMELY happy that you are completing your education. You won't regret it. Hopefully you will be able to work some part-time hours to get a bit of work experience, too.
Congratulations on your wedding. May God bless you and your husband and son. How wonderful that you have your family supporting you as well.
Don't worry about the baby bump. My inlaws were pregnant at their wedding, too, and they've been married for nearly 40 years and have a wonderful marriage to this day.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/12/2008 8:58:57 PM
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My parents have agreed to let us stay with them for a year and a half or so. We will be staying in my room and they will still make the payments for my college education, because they were originally going to do that and they really want me to finish.
Tell your parents I am so with them on this one! 
I have tears in my eyes reading of all the love in this family, and the wonderful welcome your child is receiving as he/she enters this world. You are going to be a great mother. What a gift! Your husband sounds like a "10"! And his family will help too! You are so blessed.
Congratulations!!
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/13/2008 1:37:19 PM
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moonbeam87
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Is it a bad idea for me to go back to the church I've been going to before where they whispered about me being a slut? I mean you would expect slut comments from any church you went to if you were pregnant outside of wedlock, right? Those people were all really nice to me before I got pregnant and maybe when I'm married perhaps the comments will stop.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/13/2008 1:46:34 PM
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Sideways
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Your church has shown it's true character, that they are not loving their neighbor as themselves. They do not show the love of Christ.
True churches stand up in times of trouble. DO NOT GO BACK. Even if you are married.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/13/2008 2:46:12 PM
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I have tears streaming down my face reading your story. You are so blessed to have a baby on the way, a loving husband-to-be, kind helpful parents, and a continuing education. Although you and your boyfriend did wrong, God is full of grace and forgiveness.
I disagree with those telling you to leave the church. If it's only some teens whispering about you, that is not "the church" so to speak. You could find trash-talking kids anywhere. I strongly encourage you to give your home church a chance. Show up next week with your sweet hubby and a smile. You may be surprised at the level of support you will receive. IF they shun you, then you have time to find a new church before your baby is born. Whatever you do, make sure you have a church home soon.
My prayers are with you as you begin an exciting new chapter in your life!
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/13/2008 4:18:43 PM
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moonbeam87
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If it's only some teens whispering about you, that is not "the church" so to speak
It was mostly teenagers and their parents agreeing with them, so no, not the whole church. There are a lot of younger people though. Today there were two teenagers talking to eachother nearby me and one was saying "I'm waiting till marriage, because I'm not a slut." And the other was like "yeah unlike quite a few people who don't have morals nowadays." And both started giggling, all the while glancing at me a little bit...awkward...It's moments like that when the thought of having an abortion crosses my mind ever so slightly for a moment, even though I would never get one.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/13/2008 4:39:16 PM
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Don't let that kind of talk get to you. I think it's either rooted in fear - like the parents encouraging that or talking that way to their teens out of fear or it's rooted in pride and that's kinda scarey - in a way it's more dangerous to let teens develop that kind of holier than thou pride because that's kinda just asking for a fall. Real life eventually hits everyone in the face, eventually everyone makes mistakes, and eventually we all learn the hypocrisy and futility in making such condemning judgements of other people. Sorry you're subject to that right now but focus on the important things right now. Those people aren't important.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/13/2008 5:56:37 PM
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Sideways
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True, those kind of people aren't important, but there's no reason to voluntarily subject yourself to that kind of nonsense. And the character of the teenagers speaks to the character of the adult members.
There are so many better churches out there. I hope you don't put yourself through that again.
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RE: to keep or not to keep that is the question - 4/14/2008 1:54:25 AM
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fluffmonkey
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Well I would pray about it and if you feel this is where you should stay then you just know why you are there in first place, to learn about God and worship. Those teenagers and few who say things about you, have no right to judge you and best thing is to ignore them and just pray for them because they seem to need prayers, because some of those teens who are saying things are probely leading double lifes, and they aren't truely coming to worship God.
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