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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: relientkat

OK... I'll clarify what my parents and I consider to be courtship. And guys, be honest, tell me if this seems workable.

My parents and I believe courting to be this: Lets say "Bob" is a really good friend of mine. We hang out a lot with other friends but we've never been alone together. We've had lots of good talks and know each other well. Bob talks to my dad about pursuing a deeper relationship - hopefully marriage - with me. My dad agrees. I accept. Bob starts coming over to my house more regularly to spend time with me and my family. I do the same with Bob's family. Maybe a couple months, weeks, or even days go by and Bob asks my father's permission to marry me. I accept. We get married.

THERE!!! All the stuff between friends and married is courtship. Guys, would you be willing to find your future wife that way?

And, yes, I try to pursue friendships with guys. Unfortunately, all the guys that were my friends are no longer in my life. The only guys I know right now are my brother, my dad, and a bunch of boys under 16 from my church.

I've found that normally once I become a "really good friend" with a girl, any possibility of a romantic relationship is ended.