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Need_Help -> Need Help (4/19/2008 9:56:49 PM)


I need help. Seriously. My life is messing up, and I need God. I prey, and I prey. But it seems as if for the first time in my life, my preyers aren't getting answered.
I've had the same girlfriend for 4 years now, but the last 6-7 months she's went through a phase where she pretty much hates me, she tells other people we're broke up and when I find out about it she gets mad and makes me cry and just want to be dead. I'm honestly on the verge of killing myself.
She moved off to college, and she changed. Completly. She started partying, drinking, and cheating on me. I'm not completly sure she cheated on me, but it's just one of those things common sense tells you that you cannot disagree with.
Please don't say anything like "break up with her", if that was easy I would have already done it. I was given an grant to pay for my college but I'm going to lose it because I can't concentrate on school. I cry, begg God for help. Sometimes I can't breath, I begg him sometimes just to take me out of the world, because I want to live no longer. I ask him to give my life to someone who wants to live, because I don't want to be here anymore.
I'm never happy, and it's all I want to be. I'm a GREAT person, I'm young at only 18 years old. I don't drink, smoke, and have a lot of faith in the Lord. She tells me she hates me sometimes, and she's constantly lying to me about things. It feels like she's holding my head underwater and killing me, then daring me to try to get my head up. Like she wants me to suffer. All I want is to just leave the world, this is cruel..and it's like I'm getting no help.
When I'm happy, I'm a great person. I help anyone who needs help, even if their not a good person. But I can't do right, when I'm not right inside. I always do what I think Jesus would do, and I'm just needing some help. So please, put me in your preyers. I need help, I need strength. Or else maybe the knife going through my heart will feel better than it constantly breaking. Please help.



psalm100 -> RE: Need Help (4/19/2008 10:48:25 PM)

I know this sounds like a cliche but God knows your pain and hears your cries. I know it's a hard concept to want to be with someone who doesn't seem to want to be with you. In those type of situations (especially if you're not married) it maybe time to move on as hard as it maybe.

Is this the person for you? I suppose you need to seek God in prayer. Draw close to Him and He will draw close to You. Ask God to heal your heart from the emotional and mental pain this relationship has caused you.



Carleejoan -> RE: Need Help (4/19/2008 11:12:38 PM)

You sound a like a high quality person who needs to "let go" of relationships that are tearing you down and not building you up. It's not selfish of you to move on and refuse take abuse from people especially this girlfriend is not ready for commitment to you or God. You have to keep yourself strong by attending an alive, on-fire church with lots of young adults who are excited about God. As Christians we need to build each other up. You need to be in an environment that builds you up. A lot of churches have youth and young adult college/careers groups who get together and do worship, bible studies and fellowship. I am sure there is a group for you. When we isolate ourselves the attacks of the enemy on our minds can be overwhelming. Just remember where it's coming and refuse to accept it. You are a child of the Most High God!! You are precious in His sight. God has a destiny for your life that is more fulfilling than you could ever dream or imagine. Yes there are major disappointments in life but when you're in the will of God His peace, joy and major contentment will give you above and beyond whatever you can ask or think. I was saved when I was 19. I was so hungry for God's word that I'd close myself in my room read chapters and chapters of God's word. I remember reading through Revelation in one night and God giving the faith to accept it all by faith and just leave it at that!! Just feed on God's word. Ask God to show you what you need to know and have in your heart right now. He knows.



Keabird -> RE: Need Help (4/19/2008 11:49:33 PM)

God hears every single cry and prayer. He knows your pain.

However, it is clear to me from your post that this girl is an idol in your life. With the Lord's help, you CAN let go. In fact, to keep hanging on is a form of control.

I say this gently but firmly, as someone who has gone through exactly the same struggle - more than once. Sometimes very intense people find it very hard to let go, very hard to stop thinking about the person. I have learned the hard way that one must do it "cold turkey" - no more contact. The first 2-3 weeks are the hardest. Then with no contact, it finally begins to be less painful.

Father God, I lift this young man to You. Father help him to continually make You the focus of his mind and life. Please give him the wisdom and strength to release this relationship to You and leave it with You. Please help him to stand against the idolatry that the enemy would use to draw him away from you and into error. I ask that You would help him Lord, and I thank You that You have heard every cry and seen every tear. Please help him Lord Jesus, as I ask in Your Name
amen



Caseyp57 -> RE: Need Help (4/20/2008 2:35:40 AM)

((((Needhelp)))) Take a deep breath and think about how much Jesus loves you and wants to help you. I can tell you are a good person and you're right, you need help, so don't hesitate to ask for it from the professionals, too. If you feel desperate, please call the suicide helpline or go to the ER, and remember, your life is not your own, it belongs to God and no one has a right to take it but God. Also remember that God cares about what you are going through more than you know and that he has a plan for your life, and that you are precious in His sight. Despite the difficulties with your relationship, I also do think you may be suffering from clinical depression and that you should tell your doctor (and maybe the college nurse) as it is treatable. You should also seek counseling with a professional counselor and possibly your pastor to work through these feelings and this relationship, as you'll need help figuring out how to deal with it. God bless and we'll be praying. Things will get better; I promise, and so does God:

'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.' Jeremiah 29:11



prayearly -> RE: Need Help (4/20/2008 4:56:16 AM)

Father God, thank you for helping us when we ask. I pray that you would help Need_Help now and show him that you Love him dearly and that he is precious. please teach him how to be happy. In Jesus' name. Amen.



conrack50 -> RE: Need Help (4/20/2008 6:05:39 AM)

Our Heavenly Father,
We ask that you wrap your loving arms around this young man and let him see that You are what he needs right now more than ever.
We ask that you rebuke the devourer and keep this young man safe & sound in your arms.
We ask that you show him Father God that there's more to life with You and give him total healing of his broken heart.
We ask that you Father God give him joy, peace, wisdom, and understanding.
We ask that you Father God bring someone into this man's life that is serious about you to help instruct him to be closer to you than ever before.
We ask this in the Mighty Name of Jesus, Amen.



barbi -> RE: Need Help (4/20/2008 8:45:18 AM)

will be praying for you



sparks505 -> RE: Need Help (4/20/2008 9:22:31 AM)

I'm praying for you



sparkleingsnow -> RE: Need Help (4/20/2008 9:36:33 AM)

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Original: Keabird

Father God, I lift this young man to You. Father help him to continually make You the focus of his mind and life. Please give him the wisdom and strength to release this relationship to You and leave it with You. Please help him to stand against the idolatry that the enemy would use to draw him away from you and into error. I ask that You would help him Lord, and I thank You that You have heard every cry and seen every tear. Please help him Lord Jesus, as I ask in Your Name
Amen


Father, please accept this as my prayer, too. In Jesus name. Amen



Caseyp57 -> RE: Need Help (4/21/2008 2:33:46 AM)

Lord please help ((((NeedHelp))) to reach out to receive the help he needs. Thank you that he has come here to ask for help so we can pray for him. Help him to continue to seek your word and your wisdom, strength and grace in this situation, and what you want him to do and to learn through this. I pray you bind the enemy against this young man and put a hedge of protection around him, and I ask you bless him with abundant happiness, peace, joy and stability in his life. Help him to leave His worries in Your hands and trust You for the outcome. Help him to see his life more from your perspective and to know how precious he is, and to feel Your hand upon him blessing and guiding him. Surround him with caring compassionate Christian friends, teachers and counselors and help him to be able to communicate his feelings also to his family and may this draw them closer together. Bring him the guidance and help that he needs. I thank You Lord for what you will do and are doing even now in His life. In Jesus name amen.

Personally I don't know if we can judge this to be an idolatrous relationship, but it doesn't sound too healthy either, and this young woman does sound a bit immature and/or manipulative emotionally.
But it's much better to focus on the Lord, for in Him is life and health. Keep asking the Lord for His wisdom and strength as you read his word. This is one of the verses they read at church tonight:

'But if any man among you is without wisdom, let him make his request to God, who gives freely to all without an unkind word, and it will be given to him.' ~ (James 1:5; Bible in Basic English)

This is a good one to remember too:

Matthew 7:7 "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

I came across this passage tonight and thought it might be a help to you too, from Philippians chapter 4:

6 Have no anxiety at all, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.
7 Then the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

And remember too, "in an abundance of counselors there is safety" (found somewhere in Proverbs) so please do talk to someone who is in a professional capacity about how you've been feeling--make it a point to do today.

"May the love and favor of the Lord Jesus Christ rest upon you."
1 Corinthians 16:23

God bless. Please let us know how you're doing as we're praying for you.



cavalry1st -> RE: Need Help (4/21/2008 6:50:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Caseyp57

If you feel desperate, please call the suicide helpline or go to the ER, and remember, your life is not your own, it belongs to God and no one has a right to take it but God.

You should also seek counseling with a professional counselor and possibly your pastor to work through these feelings and this relationship, as you'll need help figuring out how to deal with it. God bless and we'll be praying. Things will get better; I promise, and so does God:


I agree.

You have much to give back to God. Much to be thankful for, and God is the only one authorized to place a period signifying the end of your earthly life.

God, please surround this young man with your love, guidance and give him hope, self-confidence and strength.



peaceofGod -> RE: Need Help (4/21/2008 9:37:32 AM)

Father,

Please give Need_Help Your solutions. Free him from the pain and shower him with Your goodness so that his future will not be hurt by this situation. We ask that You pick him up, revive him, strengthen him and make the way clear into a wonderful future. Thank You. Of course, as always, we praise You and we ask this in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.



denyvrob -> RE: Need Help (4/21/2008 10:00:56 AM)

Need Help, the Lord knows your pain. I first want to suggest that you read in the Bible, the book of Hosea. In that book, God shows us how the faithlessness of Israel deeply hurt Him. The reason why this is so relevant is because right now you are hurting at the expense of someone else, and you need to know that God has felt the pain of betrayal and the pain of spiritual adultery, just like you. But also in that book, God prescribes strength. Another thing that you should know is that we live in a world with real demonic activity, and sometimes we only focus on what we can see, rather than what is real. I say this because, sometimes we deal with people who can feel the godliness our Lord and Savior wants us to reflect. In those moments, the Enemy uses the person to attack the Light that is within you so that you can hurt and turn away from that which sets you apart. I have lived this with my own husband and know that, with great dependence, God will give you grace to get through the hurt that you feel, as well as the strength to move you beyond these moments.

The second thing I want to suggest is that you call Focus on the Family's free family helpline. There, you can talk to someone or be referred to someone in your area.

Third, I would like to suggest that you share your feelings with your parents if you are able. Hopefully they will rally behind and around you, and help you through this desert moment.

Father, in the precious name of Jesus, I stand in the gap for my brother and ask that you envelope him with Your peace, help him to turn to Your word in times of trouble, help him to not allow these moments to remove His focus from You and the peace that You offer, and Father, teach him how to see all the blessings in his life. Teach him to see that even through this storm, you are still blessing him with others who do love him, and who are willing to go to battle in prayer for his life, and help him not to give the Enemy charge over his life. In Jesus Name, amen.



Caseyp57 -> RE: Need Help (4/23/2008 1:18:46 AM)

quote:

The second thing I want to suggest is that you call Focus on the Family's free family helpline. There, you can talk to someone or be referred to someone in your area.


That is a great idea. A friend of mine really got a lot of help through their counseling line years ago and still recommends it for people who are hurting. Here's the url to Focus on the Family's page with the counseling department phone number:

http://www.listen.family.org/miscdaily/A000000115.cfm

Still praying for you. Please let us know how you are doing.



Caseyp57 -> RE: Need Help (4/24/2008 6:26:53 PM)

Lord we pray that you would be with this young man today and all of his problems and relationships and friendships, his trials and struggles with school. Lord help him to see that this is just a small part of his life and that you have a plan for his life to bless him. Help him to get any help he needs and to know how precious he is in Your sight. Help us to hear that he is doing better. In Jesus name amen.



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