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Godistheanswer -> Question (4/22/2008 2:27:51 PM)

I have a question. How do you know if God is pointing a person (my husband) out to you or not? Now, I dont know this man but I see him in church worshipping and praising God on Sundays. I dont know if he's married, single or what. I saw a ring on his left hand but its not a wedding ring. He's always by himself and he's at all the church functions we have. I dont want to just go up to him and talk to him that would be obvious. I am a firm believer that you need to pray for guidance before you do anything I just feel in my heart that God pointed this man out to me. Help I need some advise.



preserved -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 2:47:11 PM)

If God pointed this man out to you...The man would be the approacher not you...If this is God's Will things will happen. In stead of focusing so much on this man...because you can become so obsessed that he is the one and step out of the Will of God..Just continue to be yourself...

Only you will really beable to answer your question because I do not know your heart nor am I God...



ChoirDJ -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 3:16:02 PM)

If God pointed this man out to you...The man would be the approacher not you...

I disagree...there's nothing wrong with you approaching this man, introducing yourself and taking your cues from there.



preserved -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 3:22:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ChoirDJ

If God pointed this man out to you...The man would be the approacher not you...

I disagree...there's nothing wrong with you approaching this man, introducing yourself and taking your cues from there.


When God created both male and female in that order...Male first as the head and then the female as the help mate...This is why so many woman get into situation because they then become the man... I also do not think God would place his intention in her and not in him as well as the man



MrsOliver -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 3:44:40 PM)

I agree with ChoirDJ,

IF nothing else you could just be making a good friend. Husband material may come later on...just look at him as an opportunity to meet a new friend.



April75 -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 4:18:42 PM)

How long have you been noticing this guy? Is it that you are just attracted to him or you feel it's something deeper? Having on any ring especially on the ring hand/finger would scare me because I wouldn't want to get my hopes up.

Does anyone you know- know him? I say you want to be sure. How would you approach him anyways? Also I say wait a while and see if he approaches you. Just be very sure. Ask the Lord if he's for you to let him approach you first.

My Pastor said that for a few years people would try to introduce to this lady. At that time he hadn't even noticed the lady at church. Actually on both ends people were trying to introduce them. Well they both told those people no. She prayed and told the Lord if it's for them to be together to put it on his heart. Well he did and he began to notice her. He was never told exactly who she was just that they wanted him to meet this lady. They've been married now 7 years. I do believe God will answer your prayer if you ask him.

I'm not exactly saying there is anything wrong with somehow approaching him but I would feel more safe if he approached.



ChoirDJ -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 4:19:17 PM)

I understand what you are saying preserved but there's nothing wrong with a woman acting shrewdly to "put herself on a man's radar" so to speak. Have you not read the story of Ruth and Boaz? Would the relationship have come about had not Ruth taken some initiative?



preserved -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 4:29:26 PM)

ChoirDJ...I know the story...However, Ruth never said a word...Boaz eventually asked for her...

All I am saying is if the OP feels this man in question is for her...Don't you think he would feel the same way?? God is not going to send signals to one and not the other....She should pray and ask the Lord how?



preserved -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 4:31:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HesallIneed

How long have you been noticing this guy? Is it that you are just attracted to him or you feel it's something deeper? Having on any ring especially on the ring hand/finger would scare me because I wouldn't want to get my hopes up.

Does anyone you know- know him? I say you want to be sure. How would you approach him anyways? Also I say wait a while and see if he approaches you. Just be very sure. Ask the Lord if he's for you to let him approach you first.

My Pastor said that for a few years people would try to introduce to this lady. At that time he hadn't even noticed the lady at church. Actually on both ends people were trying to introduce them. Well they both told those people no. She prayed and told the Lord if it's for them to be together to put it on his heart. Well he did and he began to notice her. He was never told exactly who she was just that they wanted him to meet this lady. They've been married now 7 years. I do believe God will answer your prayer if you ask him.

I'm not exactly saying there is anything wrong with somehow approaching him but I would feel more safe if he approached.


Thanks HesallIneed, I agree as well ....I also would wait until he approaches...



Godistheanswer -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 4:50:57 PM)

Thank you all for your responses. I have noticed him a while but the last couple of times I saw him he just stands out from everyone else in the church I happen to look at him on last Sunday and he was looking at me. I just wanted to get some feedback on the situation because I (not letting GOD) have always made the first step and they have all ended up being not of God choices. I will continue to pray and ask God to lead me and if its for me that man will approach me.

Thank you



shadowspring -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 5:44:13 PM)

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Ruth never said a word..
No, she just "happened" to keep gleaning in his fields (per Naomi's advice) and then snuck into the threshing house at night and cuddled up next to him on the floor! Pretty forward if you ask me!

Now I DO think a gal should let the guy propose: the first date, and marriage should definitely be on his shoulders to propose. But to go up and say "hello, I'm ...." and introduce yourself is not wrong. Then it is up to the guy to take it any further. But I urge extreme caution.

Daydreaming about a man possibly being your husband some day when you know nothing about him, that strikes me as dangerous. I don't think God would call anyone to marry a stranger.

A much better gauge of the will of God concerning this man would be to get to know his character, over much time, and compare it to Psalms 1 or Psalms 112. How a man measures up to the Word of God will tell you if he is marriage material or not.

I have known some really bad marriages made based on "signs from God" and "words from the Lord".



Godistheanswer -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 6:06:40 PM)

I was not trying to take this out of character I was just simply asking a question to get some feed back I never said I was going to marry this man tomorrow I was basically asking when/if God gives us visions how are we suppose to handle these situations.



ChoirDJ -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 7:41:38 PM)

I don't believe there's a right or wrong answer in this instance. I think God brings people together sometimes by the man initiating and sometimes by the woman initiating. I'll give you a couple of examples.

I know a female coworker who has been happily married for several years (as far as I can tell). She began to take an interest in the water delivery guy at the time and decided to ask him out for coffee after several friendly chats. He accepted and the rest is history.

Recently, our praise and worship ministry went to serve a sister congregation. I had only visited this ministry once before to take a look at how we would set things up when we came back. I learned through one of the other men I had befriended and asked to serve with me that Sunday that there was a woman in that ministry that wanted to know if I was single and to meet me if so. I didn't get a chance to fellowship too much between loading up our equipment and a congregation meeting right afterwards. This woman put herself on my radar although I haven't the foggiest idea who she is. The only reason why I haven't contacted her directly is because my divorce isn't final yet. However, I do plan to meet her and perhaps hang out casually over coffee at some point. Who knows what will come of it but there would have been no opportunity for her had she not expressed an interest.



shadowspring -> RE: Question (4/22/2008 8:26:08 PM)

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I was basically asking when/if God gives us visions how are we suppose to handle these situations.


I'm sorry if I was unclear. I thought that's what I was answering here:

quote:

I have known some really bad marriages made based on "signs from God" and "words from the Lord".


I have had false visions and dreams, but the Word of God has never steered me wrong. I don't put much stock in feelings, dreams or visions anymore myself, because of my past experiences.

That is what I was trying to convey in my earlier posts. I truly am sorry if it came off offensive in any way. [&o]



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