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Raptorman -> RE: What really turns you off in women? (8/5/2008 4:52:55 PM)
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One of the biggest turn-offs for me is a girl who is chronically busy. You know the kind: Volunteering for several charities, taking 6-7 classes per semester so she can get her Masters or PhD, working part-time at two jobs, taking lessons for God only knows how many musical instruments ... and that's just on Tuesdays! It's a miracle they can even take enough time to be with friends and family. Or get a breve at Starbucks, for that matter. They get so busy that they speed past all of the genuinely important things in life, and there's not enough room for starting a romance.
Yet, part of my deep-seated frustration at still being single is because I keep getting attracted to girls who have these kinds of lives. I don't know how it happens, but I always seem to fall for them, only to find out that they "haven't got enough time for a relationship." Ladies, please slow down! I really would like a companion, soon! [;)] Besides, I think a lot can be gained if we all just slow things down a bit. Of course, I have the opposite problem of being extremely lazy, but that's another tale.
A couple of secondary things, in no specific order. Not an exhaustive list, but it's a start:
-Smoking is a big signal to me that she isn't taking good care of herself.
- Having a bubbly and perky personality is great. It shows people that you enjoy life and have a sense of humor. But too much of it will turn off a lot of men.
-Personally, I find a deep affection for the natural world to be very attractive. If she appreciates God's creation, then we could both have a deep connection. It's much harder to connect with a girl if she would prefer an inner city apartment[:'(] over a cottage in the forest, with a pond next to it[:D]
-Being too dependent on talking. I'm not a good conversationalist (usually, "how you doing?" is all I can think of saying), and hopefully I can find a girl who can just sit there with you and enjoy your company.
-Being unfit, physically. This includes a lot of things, like weight, acne, etc. I know it sounds superficial, but a girl in good physical condition shows that she is making an effort to look after her body. Part of my own problem is that I am very overweight myself, but hopefully I can soon lose enough fat to say, "I'm taking care of myself, too."
-Women who are too critical or who take life too seriously. They can cripple a man's spirit, and drive every shred of optimism from his life.
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