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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/29/2008 8:06:02 AM
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I want to wake up and find out this has all been a bad nightmare.
I understand {{{{Maggie}}}}
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/29/2008 10:58:00 AM
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Maggie, the severity of the 'nightmare' will lessen over time, and as you gather knowledge about your son's health. It is very bad at the moment for you. It won't always be so.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/29/2008 11:50:14 AM
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Thanks, Ginny and Stovie.
I intentionally stayed in bed extra long this morning, just to give my mind and body an extra long rest from the stress. I would have stayed longer, but I have my last root canal appointment this afternoon and I want to eat first. I kept waking up, thinking ds3 was at home and that I had to be sure he was okay. Then I'd remember he's back at the hospital and I could go back to sleep without worrying.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/29/2008 11:56:59 AM
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True.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/29/2008 12:13:22 PM
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I'm glad you found the source of the problem and it's so fixable. Dehydrated? Pengie! DRINK!!!
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/29/2008 10:14:39 PM
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As the day went by, I noticed it was getting harder and harder to catch my breath. So around dinner time, back to the DR I go. This time they took a chest x-ray and found I have bronchitis. 3 prescriptions later I'm finallly hoping I'm home for good!
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 12:19:43 AM
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Oh good grief! I hope this takes care of everything. What a pain!
I can't sleep. I ate the wrong things today and too much of them because of all the stress and tension. It's caught up with me and my tummy is roiling.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 1:01:11 AM
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{{{{{{{{{Pengie}}}}}}}}}
I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble sleeping too.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 8:34:56 AM
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((((((Maggie))))) ((((((Pengie)))))))
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 9:13:55 AM
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{{{{{{{{{{MAGGIE}}}}}}}}}}}}}
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{{{{{{{{{{SHARON}}}}}}}}}}}}} (just cuz  )
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 11:23:31 AM
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Checking in. I am glad to see you survived the weekend Maggie and that son is safely back at the hospital for another interval. You must take the time you have to rest both physically and emotionally. This is a big burden to carry and most moms carry the brunt of it.
Pengie, I hope the antibiotics kick in very quickly for you. I am glad your husband took you to the doctor to be checked.
I am slowly coming back up for air after chemo. I've been very weak since Friday and had two sickies here myself: son with an ear infection and daughter with vomiting and fever. Even though I am sleeping at night now again, I wake tired and fatigued due to the chemo. I am anxious that these treatments will give me a few months to get stronger again but am also looking for other opinions for further care.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 4:30:44 PM
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Thanks for the hugs, Sharon and Linda.
Dove, I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you to deal with sick kids when you yourself are so unwell. Make sure you're taking care of yourself and not doing too much!
We had our family meeting with the doctor. There was also a nurse, a social worker and a student nurse. Ds3 has Major Depressive Disorder with Psychosis. What happened Saturday, apparently, was a psychotic episode. We were given a bunch of pamphlets and sheets of paper with information that I hope will clue us in. The nurse has been helping ds3 apply for his employment insurance and social assistance, which has been good because I'm clued out on those things.
The plan now is too gradually ease him back into regular life. There aren't as many stressors in the hospital as at home and other places so he's been given another 2-day pass to come home. He'll be here till Thursday--presumably till bedtime. I asked if we need to be keeping our eyeballs on him all the time and we were told no. He's an adult and is able to make right choices and that's what they're expecting from him so he's enjoying his new freedom by going rosehip picking on the banks of a nearby creek. We'll still stay in close phone contact so if there is a problem he can call me. They're hoping he can be discharged from the hospital next week.
I'm tired. I'm glad I see my own psychiatrist tomorrow.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 7:10:10 PM
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Maggie, I'm glad that your son is getting help with the form filling ~ they're so often a nightmare to even contemplate filling in on your own. Take your time reading all the stuff you've been given, write down words and phrases you don't fully understand. The internet can be an awesome resource, but do take care of the information you read from it ~ so often sites go to extremes of conditions. Many people have many different conditions and function perfectly well in the world.
I'm glad that the medical people said not to watch him 24/7. I suspect they wouldn't have allowed him the pass if they thought he would be at risk. Your son needs to know that he can be and is trusted by them and by his family. You've made sure that he knows how to contact you if necessary.
Maggie, you're an awesom lady who's determined to do everything she can to help her son to the best of her ability.
And I'm glad you're seeing your psychiatrist tomorrow. I'm seeing my social worker tomorrow (and to be honest, I'd rather be seeing your psychiatrist than her!).
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 9/30/2008 9:37:24 PM
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Maggie, you're an awesom lady who's determined to do everything she can to help her son to the best of her ability.
Thanks, Stovie, but if you keep this up, you're going to run out of nice things to say.
Yeah, I'm really glad someone other than me is helping my son with the form filling. It's not just the forms, it's knowing where to get them, who to apply for, understanding all the jargon, etc.
Dh took all the reading we were given to work to copy it so we each have a copy and yeah, I've learned that checking medical stuff online gives an unbalanced picture--making one suppose that things are worse than they really are.
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(and to be honest, I'd rather be seeing your psychiatrist than her!).
Sorry. You can't have my time slot!
Ds3 is an awesome person in the kitchen. He has his own little chest freezer so we are now enjoying the contents thereof. I'm eating some of his homemade bread now and in the morning I'll have some of his homemade bagels---they look really yummy.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 8:39:10 AM
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OH Maggie, I have tried to make homemade bagels and have failed drastically. They just don't taste as good as the local bakery. Your son is talented. I am so sure he has so many qualities to speak well of himself.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 10:06:32 AM
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Dove, I read your post to ds3 just now. He said try the recipe in the most recent edition of The Joy of Cooking. I have an edition that's 30 years old and the recipe is very different, apparently. His bagels look just as good as those from Costco (and as big) and they're very, very yummy. I'm eating one now.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 2:19:56 PM
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Hello again, Maggie, My Joy of Cooking is also a very old edition. I will check the library for a newer edition. Thank you.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 3:00:15 PM
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I saw my psychiatrist today. She was very encouraging and psychosis doesn't sound as scary anymore--scary, but not as bad. I told her how my body seems to shut down under stress and she suggested that it's my mind's way of protecting me from what my mind can't handle.
We spent most of the time talking about ds3 but towards the end I shared an insight into myself I had gained last week--not sure if I wrote it here or not. I was faced with the question, where or how do I find my worth? The answer that came without any conscious input on my part was, "in being best." As we talked about that, I realized that one of my great fears is to become invisible, a nothing and thus of no worth. It's the thing I fear most with dh and why I keep myself so separate from him; because if I bond more closely, I will disappear into who he is and be nothing of me.
I hear all sorts of things running around in my head as I write that last sentence. We're to find our identity in Christ, losing ourselves, becoming nothing so that he is everything in us. Does what I described above interfere with me doing that? Could be. What does it mean to be "one" as a couple? Does it mean losing part of who we are as individuals to become more of what we could be as a couple? That sounds scary.
How much of what I do is out of the fear of becoming nothing? My blogging? My journals? My book? What about the trips I take? What else?
Can I trust Jesus enough that I'm willing and able to put myself in danger of becoming nothing, invisible, lost? I want to trust him, but I'm not sure if I really do.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 3:11:39 PM
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You'll NEVER be a NOTHING, Maggie!
You're SOMETHING...
SOMETHING VERY VERY SPECIAL; that is!
SPECIAL to us, to your family, to friends and even SPECIAL to yourself if you start thinking about it!
But what I like best is knowing how SPECIAL a SOMETHING you are to God!!!
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 3:26:13 PM
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Thank you, Zondie. I know in my brain that it's true. It's getting the message to the inner parts of me that's hard.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 5:28:34 PM
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Maggie, We are to surrender ourselves to Christ. He calls us to die to self for HIM. In the marriage relationship I see in scripture, we would become even more of what we are and what He designed us to be. We would be lovingly nourished to bring forth more of the unique identity we are intended to be, not less. As we in turn would lovingly nurture our spouse to accomplish and bring forth more fruit of his nature. When I became a department head at our old church I was often in the halls and foyur greeting couples coming in, not just my friends but everyone. It always concerned me when I saw husbands come in bright, carrying a child, maybe, greeting his friends, while his wife follows behind with baby and atleast a toddler if not more in tow, atleast one goodie bag of activties for the children for service time slung over her shoulder, maybe a lesson packet to teach including craft items, her personal bible and her eyes already tired and drained at 9 in the morning. If she didn't teach a class, the hour of SS would be the only hour to herself to sit with a cup of coffee and take a moment to think about the discussion, if her husband wasn't in the same class. If he was, she was still on duty to serve.
I'm going to interject a political comment as well here because of its parrallel. Mr. McCain has stepped out of the box to select a woman running mate in his campaign. Unfortunately he thought only so far as to provide a means to an end: appealing to women voters just and simply because they were of the female persuasion. His intent is to say, " See how forward thinking I am?". When in reality he chose a puppet who in future years may have been qualified for the postiion but now is only being used for his purpose and his control. He doesn't get it. He does't see his male ego in this. He thinks he's intellectually and politically progressive. Husbands are the same. They say, "See what a great husband I am? My wife teaches and runs this department and organizes this program, maybe she takes an evening class or meets to pursue a hobby or interest or works part or full time in a chosen career, etc etc etc I free her to do all these opportunties not realizing that he has only added to her burden because for her to accomplish this she is also still meeting the full needs of the family and himself on top of it all. She is being crushed. And if she needs to let an activity go, he expresses his concern how hard it was and she just wasn't able to do it. SMACK. DOINK. Look in the mirror. Geesh.
Christians should be glowing with the full potential of what God has given them. Not beeming and smiling all the time, that is fake and insincere. We should be creating art and writing music and literature that compells society to evaluate and think of truth. We should be serving and being served, nurturing and being nurtured. The grace should be free flowing. When there is a burden, our spouse should be the first one to pick up the weight and help carry it. This is the example then set for the maturing children as well. Pitch in, encourage and help each other accomplish our hearts desire, because that desire is first placed there by God Himself. I love John Piper when he discusses this. He said, when he would first learn of a dream or desire of his wife Noel, it took it upon himself in any way possible to help make it come about. Her delight was his delight.
I'll be quiet now. I've said enough. Sorry for the rant.
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RE: Magdaleine's Alabaster Atrium - 10/1/2008 5:58:16 PM
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Wonderful post, Dove . . and so on the mark.
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At least it's the last one! I'm glad that you stayed in bed longer this morning. Even though your sleep was broken, you were still resting your body, which it needs and you were able to get back to sleep once you remembered that your son was back in hospital.
