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RE: What's the first thing that comes to mind.... - 5/16/2008 8:15:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: colliefan

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This person was speaking of a widow or widower I can't remember which one. I was married for almost 20 years and I have three young children. Would it be assumed that I am in love with a ghost? Or, that a widow or widower can't move on and have a healthy relationship, because they lost one they loved so dearly?


I think that being in love with a ghost simply comes from a movie. In terms of a relationship, the guy has to know he can't do anything about your past - even though it was good. And you can do nothing about his; all you have is the present and the future. I assume that both of you would be Christians; with the help of the HS all is possible. Doesn't mean that it will be easy but God will help through the rough times.

You don't give the the age of your children. How are they doing with the loss of their father?


I have twins that are 14 and my youngest is almost 9. They are all handling it differently. They are all doing very well actually.
You assume right, he would have to be a Christian. I would be looking for someone with a walk that resembles my own.

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RE: What's the first thing that comes to mind.... - 6/8/2008 6:48:26 AM   
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Too many things come to mind to say them all...but I guess the deepest thought is the pain....and how that pain eventually becomes a bridge.

Losing a spouse is something no words can describe, but then so is God's healing. I would say strength is also one of the main things that comes to mine, because after we go through the grieving process we are a stronger person in ways only someone who has been there can know.

I certainly wish you well in your future relationships. God will absolutely let you know when the time is right for a new beginning.

You may even find someone who has walked through that valley as well and will know how to comfort you in that area. Has that possibility occurred to you?

I think it has deepened our second marriage tremendously to know we both lost our former spouse suddenly and tragically.

A person who reduces a former spouse to a "ghost" is prob. a person who has never experienced deep loss and their words would have little affect on me.
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