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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/16/2008 6:57:35 PM
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Karaboo2
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WOF - did you buy the books "Managers of their Homes" and "Managers of their Chores"? If so, are they worth it?
I'm not WOF, but I bought both of these books over the past month. Just looking through them, I would say that they are definitely worth it, BUT ... you need to make sure that you can take a good chunk of time to actually sit and do your planning. I have been trying to do it in small spurts (I have 4 young children, with another on the way) and I find I'm *just* starting to get my thoughts together when my small block of available time is up (such as, kids waking from naps). Dh now has Friday and Saturday off, and I have to take our van in for at least an hour on Saturday (lots of repairs) so I'm going to try to use that time to do some planning.
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/17/2008 7:51:49 PM
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MamaPyratekk
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My one and a half year old likes helping me put clothes from the washer to the dryer (we move them one piece at a time lol), loves wiping off ANYTHING I want him to, putting away his toys, and he also likes to "sweep" the porch. He doesn't really sweep, but he tries SO hard that I just let him do it. I have to do it every morning because of the squirrel that gets into the bird feeder (which I wouldn't mind if it didn't make such a mess!!)
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/18/2008 11:07:06 AM
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TammyIsBlessed
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I am right there with you guys!
We had a few basic chores to do but my parents let us get away with far too much laziness. Not knowing how to do stuff and laziness is a struggle for me often. Other than tidy my room I had to clean one bathroom and help with dusting once in awhile, that's it. The excuse that I was scared of bugs worked to get me out of outdoors chores. Though it was true, they should've made me get over that fear. I totally remember sitting inside watching tv while my parents worked outside on our 2.5 acre yard. Not good!
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/21/2008 10:14:59 AM
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W.O.F.
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WOF - did you buy the books "Managers of their Homes" and "Managers of their Chores"? If so, are they worth it?
I didn't buy them...I borrowed them....and YES...they are worth it. I am saving up to buy my own copies since I had to give the borrowed ones back.
I also go to their website frequently as well as am subscribed to their newsletters. The website is (for those who don't know):Titus2.com
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/23/2008 11:34:23 AM
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Yay for little hands to help Mommy. And my son LOVES to help. Great ideas ladies...keep 'em coming!
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/25/2008 5:09:10 PM
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I totally believe in chores for young children - but I am currently facing an issue with my eldest (5 years).
There are some chores he likes - cleaning the car with dad, preparing porridge so its all in the pan for the next morning -oats, cinnamon, raisins etc etc (they take turns as they both like this one). Sometimes he likes mopping the kitchen floor. He is great at these types of chores and maintains a lovely attitude.
Motivating him to do a job that he doesn't like is another thing. I'm talking simple here - put his bag and shoes in the cupboard when he comes home from school, get his school clothes ready for the next day, help lay the table. This is all I ask of him. He is totally distracted, moans, complains, flops over and says he is tired (yet 5 minute later he will be bouncing on the trampoline). He does seem to find it hard to get to sleep at night - he goes down at 8 but is often still singing to himself at 9.30pm (bless).He is up at 7am. I've had real problems getting him to get himself ready for school or when we are going out - he is perfectly capable and a very bright boy (his reading age is 8 years).
On Saturday he missed going strawberry picking with dad and sibling because he just couldn't seem to get upstairs to put his socks on without being distracted every step of the way. My son is easily distracted - is it part of being bright, or what??? He does not have ADD or anything like that - he gets very engrossed and focussed once he is into something.
Its wearing me out because I am constantly having to motivate him and repeat myself. I wonder if this distraction is just part of being a 5 year old or maybe I am expecting too much from him?
I've set this week aside to really pray about the whole situation and ask for wisdom. I have been making sure that when I give a request I pull him aside from any distraction, but it seems that as soon as he is out of sight he has 'forgotten' the request. He says he didn't hear me but I know this is not true because I have even asked him to repeat my request back to me.
Any suggestions?
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/25/2008 9:06:48 PM
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W.O.F.
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I totally believe in chores for young children - but I am currently facing an issue with my eldest (5 years).
There are some chores he likes - cleaning the car with dad, preparing porridge so its all in the pan for the next morning -oats, cinnamon, raisins etc etc (they take turns as they both like this one). Sometimes he likes mopping the kitchen floor. He is great at these types of chores and maintains a lovely attitude.
Motivating him to do a job that he doesn't like is another thing. I'm talking simple here - put his bag and shoes in the cupboard when he comes home from school, get his school clothes ready for the next day, help lay the table. This is all I ask of him. He is totally distracted, moans, complains, flops over and says he is tired (yet 5 minute later he will be bouncing on the trampoline). He does seem to find it hard to get to sleep at night - he goes down at 8 but is often still singing to himself at 9.30pm (bless).He is up at 7am. I've had real problems getting him to get himself ready for school or when we are going out - he is perfectly capable and a very bright boy (his reading age is 8 years).
On Saturday he missed going strawberry picking with dad and sibling because he just couldn't seem to get upstairs to put his socks on without being distracted every step of the way. My son is easily distracted - is it part of being bright, or what??? He does not have ADD or anything like that - he gets very engrossed and focussed once he is into something.
Its wearing me out because I am constantly having to motivate him and repeat myself. I wonder if this distraction is just part of being a 5 year old or maybe I am expecting too much from him?
I've set this week aside to really pray about the whole situation and ask for wisdom. I have been making sure that when I give a request I pull him aside from any distraction, but it seems that as soon as he is out of sight he has 'forgotten' the request. He says he didn't hear me but I know this is not true because I have even asked him to repeat my request back to me.
Any suggestions?
stop trying to motivate him. We have something in our house called THE RULE....
If you whine or fuss about a chore...you have to do two.
As for the dilly dallying...set a timer..with firm non-negotiable consequences if the timer goes off before a chore is done. ...especially for the getting ready in the morning. Kevin Lehman, who is a child psychiatrist, really strongly recommends this for kids...especially those in the 5 to 9 year old bracket because while being distracted is normal...it is something we are responsible for training out of them....while they are still young enough to train.
One thing that worked for our middle daughter is that breakfast is served at 8 am at our house. If you are not at the table at 8 (unless of course you are in the bathroom...HONESTLY using it)...we start without you. Breakfast may be cold....or the juice might be all gone...but that is a natural consequence of NOT being where you know you are to be when you are to be there. I give 5 minute warnings before breakfast for those of my kids who don't tell time yet (or don't tell time well yet)....but I don't nag.
Repeating yourself more than once just teaches them that they can get YOU to put off their doing their chore by them making you nag.
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RE: Chores for small children? - 6/26/2008 8:07:14 AM
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On the rare chance we do eat at the table, we always get our food before sitting down. I do wish we'd eat at the table more often, however. And that reminds me I need to buy a handful of cloth napkins and stuff!
You remind me so much of me!! I also had a 3,2 and 1 yr old. It was several years where I dished up their food, then brought it to the table. It was easier.
I didn't read the 2 pages of posts.... so I won't list much since it has probably already been listed.
My kids usually helped get the clothes out of the dryer, and they folded the wash cloths. (age 3)
cleaned up the living room (age 3)
Cleared off most of the table (age 3)
My 1 yr old loves to play with the dryer, so I throw the wet clothes onto the dryer lid and he pushes them into the dryer and shuts the door.
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