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newland -> adventure......... (6/6/2008 6:38:12 AM)

I just realize myself today, that I m seeking adventure from a man. There r so many good guys , they seek a stable wife and family, but I just soon feel they are boring. and I would rather date another type guy, and receive back heart broken....what's wrong of me? how to change this ?

I m feeling I still live in delusion. I would go with a luxury lifestyle, or a poor but adventurous lifestyle........I maybe need to marry a FBI ?



Konstantinos -> RE: adventure......... (6/6/2008 3:22:27 PM)

i like adventure[;)]

haha and nothings wrong with you.

you should want both. thats what i want



TorchHeart -> RE: adventure......... (6/6/2008 3:36:07 PM)

What kind of adventure are you looking for?

There's nothing wrong with seeking someone out who you find exciting, or have a romance that seems adventurous. As far as I can tell, romance is supposed to be exciting.



jaimestarcross -> RE: adventure......... (6/7/2008 1:30:58 AM)

hmm... could it be you are someone that's suitable for the missions field?



newland -> RE: adventure......... (6/7/2008 4:58:02 AM)

yes.....i really like a missonary man,
but they have no interest in me so far...



Jessalynn -> RE: adventure......... (6/7/2008 7:31:21 AM)

Have you ever prayed for the man you're desiring? It is special that you have the admirable qualities in mind for what is attractive to you. Ofen, in our walk with Christ, we deire His qualities in our future-mate. God wants us to have our desires and longings that are noble and reflective of His genuine spirit.

When I was growing up, a couple of my bestfriends and I were appalled from the high school drama of relationships around us. Lacking authentic, pure and healthy standards (if any) in those relationships, my friends and I decided to pray about what was holy in a man. Those prayers led to our faith of our future husbands. For example, looking in a prayer journal (I recorded those prayers), a passage from when I was 16 states: "I am here at the ocean with Katie and I am thinking of you. You are in my prayers for wherever you may be and whatever trial you are facing..."

I am so glad I had those convictions because God brought about the man I was faithfully waiting for. Also, I have an intimate gift for our wedding day. I hope that you embrace the desires of heart. God will lead you and wants to be actively involved with your life if you ask Him to be.



jaimestarcross -> RE: adventure......... (6/7/2008 3:32:26 PM)

you can go on the missions(full or part time) as a single person - my old church supported two singles who are in missions(one is a female in the UK and the other is a man in India... the female is in her late 20's and the man is in his 50's.) Both of them worked with other single missionaries in their respective countries.



Prairiehiker -> RE: adventure......... (6/8/2008 12:08:02 AM)

I long for adventure too in a relationship. I think there was a time that I thought I could be happy with a man who is content being a homebody and not into wandering much farther than a few miles from home. But as my adventurous side comes out, I know that I won't be able to settle down with someone who isn't open to experiencing new things in life. It's funny though that most men don't think like that. They are happy to try new things while leaving their wives at home.



athleticguy08 -> RE: adventure......... (6/8/2008 1:57:16 PM)

theres nothing wrong with seeking adventure from a man. perhaps when you meet a man you can give him hints of how you enjoy new things and adventuring the world. You should find out pretty quicky if a man likes adventure and enjoys new things and ideas. I hope it works out for you.



nuclear_sidewalk -> RE: adventure......... (6/8/2008 2:02:55 PM)

So 'Adventure' = Instability for you? That's what it sounds like from your initial statement.

Honestly, I wish more women my age were looking for that 'settle down' kind of guy. Too many are into the 'bad boys', who often fall under the 'adventurous' category. (I've never been the rebel/badboy type)

So I guess it depends on what kind of adventure you're really seeking. If you want adventure in serving God through Missions (foreign or otherwise) then pursue someone in that area. If you want a an instable flash-in-the-pan (the song "I need a Hero" comes to mind) rogue of a man, I say you should check priorities.



deermousie -> RE: adventure......... (6/8/2008 3:12:35 PM)

I haven't got any Scripture on this subject, so take my words with a grain of salt. But I have had experience with seeing gals who like the excitement of "bad boys" and the ends are usually bad. Bad boys are those who usually are selfish, flamboyant and rebellious. Dunno about flamboyant, but selfish and rebellious results in a trainwreck eventually, both spiritually and physically.

So ask yourself why you'd be attracted to a man on his way to destruction? Are you bored and need something outside your life to liven it up? I find people doing what they're supposed to be doing are usually too busy and too satisfied with life to be bored. What's in front of you that maybe you're supposed to be doing? You don't have to tell me, but think it through to yourself.

What is in your life that you know is wrong but you're playing with it anyway becauses it amuses you? Maybe nothing, but maybe there is sin that is enticing you. It's death. Turn away.

Have you finished your education? Do you have a job? Are you in good standing with your family, and helping them if they need it? Are you involved at your church and doing ministry of some kind? Are you avoiding any of these for poor or selfish reasons? That may be a key to why you feel nice guys are boring.

Or maybe you know some "nice" guys who *are* boring. Then be happy single and keep on what you're doing. If you want to marry and there is no good match, pray about it and keep preparing yourself. When the right guy comes along, you don't want to say, "Oh, wait, I need two years to finish ____ and then I can marry you. Do the ____ now and get on with it.

God bless you, dear one. I am praying for you today! (((Hugs)))



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