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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/20/2008 7:24:57 AM
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BibleL7
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Scriptures do speak to the situation marriage is a covenant no bad luck just a situation that needs to be dealt with. Seems more you are trying to guess what your husband would do instead of trusting the Lord to help. Have you been praying for your husband and witnessing to him? If he is such a type A person would not it be better to tell him than to keep it from him and have him get angry for withholding it from him. In marriage there must be trust and love and it must start somewhere. Withholding information about your health is not a good thing. Does not the marriage vow say in sickness and in health? Trust has to start in a relationship somewhere.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/20/2008 11:48:45 AM
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dianetavegia
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Bad teeth CAN ruin your health much later in life. However, I do understand the problem with the cost of having major work done even with dental insurance.
Research your problem and find what might be done and what has to be done so you can offer more than one option. I chose to have a molar pulled a few years ago because attempting to save it meant a root canal, a crown and since it was cracked and more than 75% mercury filings, it probably would not work. My cost, with dental insurance, was much too steep. I paid $5.00 instead of $2,000. My husband did the same thing a year later, tho his cracked (molar) tooth had no filling.
Pray and trust God, then tell your husband what needs to be done. You might also look for a dental college in your area where work is done at a much, much lower cost or even based on income and need.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/20/2008 3:50:18 PM
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I once heard a faithful older christian confessed that God did not speak to Him as much as He did when he was a young man, and although one would have assumed that God had abandoned him, he saw it as being about his having grown up. So like all children who have grown to be like their father, our Father no longer needs to tell us what to do as though we were servants or not His children. Hence, I do not ask Him as to what is right or what is the right thing to do. Nevertheless, sometimes we should actually consider doing nothing.
I remember there was a King of Israel who was waiting on a prophet to bless his army before a battle and the prophet was delayed. Eventually, the soldiers became restless and wanted action so the king fearing that God had abandoned them blessed his own troops and as a result they were all killed in battle. In this story, I see great strength and wisdom in waiting upon the Lord and weakness in doing otherwise. In the end faith and love are our motivators and in such their is no condemnation.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/21/2008 9:47:05 AM
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I will think about these points, thank you for the reply's. I am thinking that I need to think about the fact that I am pre-thinking what my husband's reaction will be (though I have good reason to think he will be angry for perhaps years), I am going to think that if we do get divorced over this, is this an acceptable choice compared to loosing my health for the rest of my life, and I have to think that I am selling my worth as a human being short, being as I have the right cherish myself. God still is silent on all this.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/21/2008 5:33:21 PM
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dianetavegia
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I am going to think that if we do get divorced over this, is this an acceptable choice compared to loosing my health for the rest of my life, and I have to think that I am selling my worth as a human being short, being as I have the right cherish myself. God still is silent on all this.
This is way off from your OP but since you brought it up, God is NOT silent on the issue of divorce. God also tells us not to worry about our health or what we'll eat or wear. Scripture says you cannot add a minute to your life by worrying. We are not told to 'cherish' ourselves! In fact, we are to always put others frst!
If God wants your teeth fixed, He'll soften your husband's heart (tho I cannot for the life of me understand why he'd be mad at you for years over needed dental work). God would not withhold treatment of your health to force or cause dvorce! God is not the author of evil and God hates divorce.
I don't want to sound rude, but there seems to be a lot of negative in your mind and heart concerning your husband and his possible reaction. TRUST GOD in this, too!
I do wish we knew more about your dental condition. This is difficult to understand.
Here's a portion of scripture for you.
Malachi 2:13 And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, With weeping and crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. 14 Yet you say, "For what reason?" Because the Lord has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant. 15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously." 17 You have wearied the Lord with your words; Yet you say, "In what way have we wearied Him?" In that you say, "Everyone who does evil Is good in the sight of the Lord, And He delights in them," Or, "Where is the God of justice?"
Luke 12:25 And which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? 26 If you then are not able to do the least, why are you anxious for the rest?
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/21/2008 5:58:32 PM
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I don't know if he would want to leave, but he will be so angry that it will be terrible to live with, and from past experience I know that that anger could go on for years. I don't think I can live with years of anger again, I just can't.
When I think of divorce and God, I don't feel any condemnation, just quiet.
If I don't fix my teeth very quickly, I could have a life threatening abcess (not to mention the pain is beyond terrible).
So my dilemma, live my normal marriage with a life threatening problem over my head, or tell an risk a hellish marriage and fixed teeth, or tell and have it lead to divorce.
If I think about it, I could say that God does not want me to stay married if it leads to my ill health.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/23/2008 4:28:38 PM
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NO NO NO!
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If I think about it, I could say that God does not want me to stay married if it leads to my ill health.
God lists the reasons allowed for divorce and bad health is NOT one of them! You don't even know for sure this will go farther!
Are you searching for a 'good reason' to leave this marriage? You are not hearing what God has said in scipture, nor what we've shared in this thread.
I've had the abscess, root canal and crown done five years ago.
Have you searched for a nearby dental college? Instead of $1600., you might pay 1/4th of that!
I still cannot understand why your husband would blame you for needing dental work.
Again, go to the Bible and do a search for divorce. You CANNOT rely on 'feelings' ! God HAS SPOKEN about this matter and is NOT silent! In fact, He tells us He speaks many times about this issue. He that has ears, let him hear!
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/23/2008 4:44:29 PM
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In a nutshell, my husband is a super type A personality, harsh and unforgiving in some ways. I need medical attention that if I do not receive it will eventually destroy my health.
A tough choice. I can see why you're troubled.
If you have kids, your kids need you, and they need you to be healthy. Even super type A personalities can (occasionally) be understanding - I'll let you figure out how I know this ;)
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PS - keep us posted on your decision & the results
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/23/2008 4:47:01 PM
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I don't know if he would want to leave, but he will be so angry that it will be terrible to live with, and from past experience I know that that anger could go on for years. I don't think I can live with years of anger again, I just can't.
When I think of divorce and God, I don't feel any condemnation, just quiet.
If I don't fix my teeth very quickly, I could have a life threatening abcess (not to mention the pain is beyond terrible).
So my dilemma, live my normal marriage with a life threatening problem over my head, or tell an risk a hellish marriage and fixed teeth, or tell and have it lead to divorce.
If I think about it, I could say that God does not want me to stay married if it leads to my ill health.
I'm a bit lost here. Bad dental condition is no reason for anger. You really shouldn't have to choose between routine (or even non-routine) dental care and your marriage.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/23/2008 4:57:57 PM
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NO NO NO!
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If I think about it, I could say that God does not want me to stay married if it leads to my ill health.
God lists the reasons allowed for divorce and bad health is NOT one of them! You don't even know for sure this will go farther!
Are you searching for a 'good reason' to leave this marriage? You are not hearing what God has said in scipture, nor what we've shared in this thread.
I've had the abscess, root canal and crown done five years ago.
Have you searched for a nearby dental college? Instead of $1600., you might pay 1/4th of that!
I still cannot understand why your husband would blame you for needing dental work.
Again, go to the Bible and do a search for divorce. You CANNOT rely on 'feelings' ! God HAS SPOKEN about this matter and is NOT silent! In fact, He tells us He speaks many times about this issue. He that has ears, let him hear!
I agree, and is it possible that He did answer you, but you just didn't like that answer?
URForgiven has made some good points, and so has dianetavegia. It seems, and I don't want this to come off as judgmental, that you are seeking what you want, and maybe not what God wants for you. The truth may be that God answered you once already, you didn't like the answer He gave you, and are justifying your own choice thinking that He has not answered you, and is remaining silent.
It seems you may have ulterior motives in this case, ie a bad marriage, or an angry husband, (whom may I ask if he shares your faith or not?) and are looking for a way out of your marriage.
Again this is all just speculation on my part, and just my opinion. I don't see how this issue could possibly cause such a problem, but I also do not know your husband. Maybe this whole time you have been focused on yourself and may be missing a bigger problem, that you need to work on in your marriage.
Just some more to ponder, but I would suggest talking to your Pastor.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/23/2008 7:52:27 PM
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I don't think God has answered, if he did then I missed it (and would be happy to hear it again)
I do not want to divorce, but when I think of living with pain and risk of severe medical problems I am so sad. It is not a matter of working on things, it is a matter of I just live with them, though his anger has caused much emotional separation on my part towards him. We are not the same faith, so that is missing.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/23/2008 7:53:31 PM
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I don't know if he would want to leave, but he will be so angry that it will be terrible to live with, and from past experience I know that that anger could go on for years. I don't think I can live with years of anger again, I just can't.
When I think of divorce and God, I don't feel any condemnation, just quiet.
If I don't fix my teeth very quickly, I could have a life threatening abcess (not to mention the pain is beyond terrible).
So my dilemma, live my normal marriage with a life threatening problem over my head, or tell an risk a hellish marriage and fixed teeth, or tell and have it lead to divorce.
If I think about it, I could say that God does not want me to stay married if it leads to my ill health.
I'm a bit lost here. Bad dental condition is no reason for anger. You really shouldn't have to choose between routine (or even non-routine) dental care and your marriage.
In a nutshell, I do have to choose, though he says he loves me, his anger overshadows everything.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 3:06:04 AM
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You say you have faith in God and only go by His leading yet why would you not trust Him to deal with your husband do you really think that God us unable to handle the situation? You are also not obeying God in worrying so much and not giving it over to Him.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 7:44:08 AM
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I don't think God has answered, if he did then I missed it (and would be happy to hear it again)
I do not want to divorce, but when I think of living with pain and risk of severe medical problems I am so sad. It is not a matter of working on things, it is a matter of I just live with them, though his anger has caused much emotional separation on my part towards him. We are not the same faith, so that is missing.
May I strongly suggest that you seek the counsel of a spiritual adviser.There is safety in the multitude of counsel.Biblically speaking I can tell you by reading your post,that you are so far from where God would have you be right now,in terms of understanding basic principles of faith, that you need serious direction.It's a wonder you're not a man,as when we lose our direction,we don't like to stop and ask for help.
We just keep wandering figuring it'll come to us.Be a Woman and stop & ask for help. 
You just need a little direction Sister,this forum can be a good avenue,but ultimately you need to confide in someone you have confidence in.I'm sure God has given you someone in your life that you can turn too.
If you have no one,let me tell you that God has not given us the spirit of fear.God does not want us to live in torment.God can take your mean husband,if indeed he is,and turn his heart into mush.
You have to trust and fear God I.E. reverence him,and he will do as he pleases in this and any situation.Please stop trying to be Nostrodamus and predict what will happen if you do this,or that, and trust God.
Be blessed,I know that God is using this situation to deliver you from your greater problem,which is fear and torment.God has not given you this spirit Sister.That's why I say you are far from where he wants you to be.You are a child of the King,living like a beaten servant.
Now somethings wrong with this picture don't you think 
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 8:45:00 AM
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Your husband is abusive and flies off the handle over most things?
Diane made the same suggestion that I was going to make- the dental college. Hon, I gotta tell ya, if you don't take measures to care for yourself, no one else will. Not to mention that no one can replace you to your children. God is not silent. Your continued worry suggests that you still do not trust Him in this situation. We can not care for others properly and in a healthy manner until we know how to do this for ourselves. In order to do this, we must TRUST the Lord to guide our steps. What you may "hear" will never be contradictory to His Word. How people interpret the word can be contradictory to it's original meaning though. Open His Word, pray as you read and proceed in faith, trusting that He is guiding your steps. I feel pretty confident in saying that God is NOT having you sit in silence, waiting for your abscess to rupture and suffer. He gave you a brain my dear-use it and seek the medical care you need.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 9:35:47 AM
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He really shouldn't get angry about you needing dental work! He really shouldn't! It's not good for him to get angry if you're miserable over this.
A lot of good advice over there!
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 10:18:21 AM
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You need to make a wise decision for your health and your responsibilities.
Let me numerate some of your responsibilities:
* Your walk with God
* Your part in your marriage
* Your children
* Your health
* Your ability to carry out your responsibilities
Let me now numerate some of the things you are not responsible for:
* Your husband's choice to be angry
* Your husband's choice about how long to be angry
* Your husband's choice to make it impossible for you to live with him
God hasn't left you without guidance. Sometimes God is silent because you already know what you need to do. Why should God have to speak in an audible voice about a decision that is obvious? You need to get your teeth fixed. You need to protect your health. You need to get out of pain. You already know this.
Do not let fear of your husband's anger override wisdom.
The bible story that comes to mind is David and Abigail (1 Samuel 25):
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2 A certain man in Maon, who had property there at Carmel, was very wealthy. He had a thousand goats and three thousand sheep, which he was shearing in Carmel. 3 His name was Nabal and his wife's name was Abigail. She was an intelligent and beautiful woman, but her husband, a Calebite, was surly and mean in his dealings.
4 While David was in the desert, he heard that Nabal was shearing sheep. 5 So he sent ten young men and said to them, "Go up to Nabal at Carmel and greet him in my name. 6 Say to him: 'Long life to you! Good health to you and your household! And good health to all that is yours!
7 " 'Now I hear that it is sheep-shearing time. When your shepherds were with us, we did not mistreat them, and the whole time they were at Carmel nothing of theirs was missing. 8 Ask your own servants and they will tell you. Therefore be favorable toward my young men, since we come at a festive time. Please give your servants and your son David whatever you can find for them.' "
9 When David's men arrived, they gave Nabal this message in David's name. Then they waited.
10 Nabal answered David's servants, "Who is this David? Who is this son of Jesse? Many servants are breaking away from their masters these days. 11 Why should I take my bread and water, and the meat I have slaughtered for my shearers, and give it to men coming from who knows where?"
12 David's men turned around and went back. When they arrived, they reported every word. 13 David said to his men, "Put on your swords!" So they put on their swords, and David put on his. About four hundred men went up with David, while two hundred stayed with the supplies.
14 One of the servants told Nabal's wife Abigail: "David sent messengers from the desert to give our master his greetings, but he hurled insults at them. 15 Yet these men were very good to us. They did not mistreat us, and the whole time we were out in the fields near them nothing was missing. 16 Night and day they were a wall around us all the time we were herding our sheep near them. 17 Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him."
18 Abigail lost no time. She took two hundred loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five dressed sheep, five seahs of roasted grain, a hundred cakes of raisins and two hundred cakes of pressed figs, and loaded them on donkeys. 19 Then she told her servants, "Go on ahead; I'll follow you." But she did not tell her husband Nabal.
20 As she came riding her donkey into a mountain ravine, there were David and his men descending toward her, and she met them. 21 David had just said, "It's been useless—all my watching over this fellow's property in the desert so that nothing of his was missing. He has paid me back evil for good. 22 May God deal with David, be it ever so severely, if by morning I leave alive one male of all who belong to him!"
23 When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed down before David with her face to the ground. 24 She fell at his feet and said: "My lord, let the blame be on me alone. Please let your servant speak to you; hear what your servant has to say. 25 May my lord pay no attention to that wicked man Nabal. He is just like his name—his name is Fool, and folly goes with him. But as for me, your servant, I did not see the men my master sent.
26 "Now since the LORD has kept you, my master, from bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hands, as surely as the LORD lives and as you live, may your enemies and all who intend to harm my master be like Nabal. 27 And let this gift, which your servant has brought to my master, be given to the men who follow you. 28 Please forgive your servant's offense, for the LORD will certainly make a lasting dynasty for my master, because he fights the LORD's battles. Let no wrongdoing be found in you as long as you live. 29 Even though someone is pursuing you to take your life, the life of my master will be bound securely in the bundle of the living by the LORD your God. But the lives of your enemies he will hurl away as from the pocket of a sling. 30 When the LORD has done for my master every good thing he promised concerning him and has appointed him leader over Israel, 31 my master will not have on his conscience the staggering burden of needless bloodshed or of having avenged himself. And when the LORD has brought my master success, remember your servant."
32 David said to Abigail, "Praise be to the LORD, the God of Israel, who has sent you today to meet me. 33 May you be blessed for your good judgment and for keeping me from bloodshed this day and from avenging myself with my own hands. 34 Otherwise, as surely as the LORD, the God of Israel, lives, who has kept me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, not one male belonging to Nabal would have been left alive by daybreak."
35 Then David accepted from her hand what she had brought him and said, "Go home in peace. I have heard your words and granted your request."
36 When Abigail went to Nabal, he was in the house holding a banquet like that of a king. He was in high spirits and very drunk. So she told him nothing until daybreak. 37 Then in the morning, when Nabal was sober, his wife told him all these things, and his heart failed him and he became like a stone. 38 About ten days later, the LORD struck Nabal and he died.
Abigail acted in wisdom regardless of what her husband's reaction would likely be.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 3:21:36 PM
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I can go to my Pastor and talk to him, that is not a problem.
My husband is not a Christian, I became one after we married.
So, if I could summarize all this advice (and thank you for giving it, as I am very much in need of it), I should trust God to take care of me irregardless if things go very wrong when I tell my husband. That I can't predict how he will react, so I should trust God to hold and control the outcomes even if it does go as bad as I fear.
That my children need me, and thus I should take care of myself, irregardless if it leads to the end of my marriage.
That all I can do is control my actions, and not my husbands.
Thanks to everyone who is still reading my posts.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 3:26:27 PM
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So, if I could summarize all this advice (and thank you for giving it, as I am very much in need of it), I should trust God to take care of me irregardless if things go very wrong when I tell my husband. That I can't predict how he will react, so I should trust God to hold and control the outcomes even if it does go as bad as I fear.
That my children need me, and thus I should take care of myself, irregardless if it leads to the end of my marriage.
That all I can do is control my actions, and not my husbands.
Excellent summary.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 3:31:04 PM
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I'm a bit lost here. Bad dental condition is no reason for anger. You really shouldn't have to choose between routine (or even non-routine) dental care and your marriage.
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In a nutshell, I do have to choose, though he says he loves me, his anger overshadows everything.
Something's wrong here my dear. There's not enough information for us to really tell what that is, but something's not right. Poor dental care just doesn't cause much anger for most husbands. It's just something that is - and we deal with it. It's sometimes expensive, and we get annoyed over the money. Big deal - real men get over it.
What's the reason for the big dental issue? Is there another underlying medical issue that he could be upset over? Is it the money? Is there a history of anger over other immaterial things? Is there a history of emotional abuse?
I don't think you'll find answers on this forum. As much as I like & respect the folks here, I think this one may be out of our league. Are there people you can talk to?
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 3:32:52 PM
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So, if I could summarize all this advice (and thank you for giving it, as I am very much in need of it), I should trust God to take care of me irregardless if things go very wrong when I tell my husband. That I can't predict how he will react, so I should trust God to hold and control the outcomes even if it does go as bad as I fear.
That my children need me, and thus I should take care of myself, irregardless if it leads to the end of my marriage.
That all I can do is control my actions, and not my husbands.
Excellent summary.
I'd say that summarizes things nicely, though I would add that talking to someone about this situation would seem to be important. There's something odd happening that I think both of you would do well to discuss with someone even after the dental issue is done and put to bed.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 3:34:37 PM
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OK somefineday, plesse tell us what it is that you are wanting an answer to?
I promise you that it has been answered in the Word.
And I also promise you that someone if not everyone on this thread will be able to point you to that answer.
So if you want an answer please state the question.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 4:12:48 PM
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SomeFineDay
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I'm a bit lost here. Bad dental condition is no reason for anger. You really shouldn't have to choose between routine (or even non-routine) dental care and your marriage.
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In a nutshell, I do have to choose, though he says he loves me, his anger overshadows everything.
Something's wrong here my dear. There's not enough information for us to really tell what that is, but something's not right. Poor dental care just doesn't cause much anger for most husbands. It's just something that is - and we deal with it. It's sometimes expensive, and we get annoyed over the money. Big deal - real men get over it.
What's the reason for the big dental issue? Is there another underlying medical issue that he could be upset over? Is it the money? Is there a history of anger over other immaterial things? Is there a history of emotional abuse?
I don't think you'll find answers on this forum. As much as I like & respect the folks here, I think this one may be out of our league. Are there people you can talk to?
I don't know why he is so generically angry, but he is, I estimate that he spends about half his time being angry at various things and people, to me it seems very much out of proportion to any offense suffered. There are no medical issues, money issues, yes though to emotional abuse, though that is his pattern of response to life, not just to me.
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 4:16:19 PM
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SomeFineDay
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OK somefineday, plesse tell us what it is that you are wanting an answer to?
I promise you that it has been answered in the Word.
And I also promise you that someone if not everyone on this thread will be able to point you to that answer.
So if you want an answer please state the question.
Thsnks
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My question would be;
How do I handle my husband's anger over needing medical care? How can I live with what will very likely be years of anger? Does God expect me to live with emotional abuse? Is it wrong to say that I will not live with such anger again in my life?
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RE: What to do when God does not offer guidance? - 6/24/2008 8:55:56 PM
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dianetavegia
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God doesn't change. God doesn't change his 'rules' to fit our situations. You keep putting words in God's mouth by telling us 'God wouldn't want......' Also, you have painted a horrible picture of your husband, not telling us one nice thing about him. Most of your posts are about what YOU would have to deal with. Why did you marry such a horrid person?
About your tooth, open this subject during a pleasant time. Maybe something like 'Hey Roger. Last time I went to the dentist he told me I was going to need a root canal soon. That tooth is starting to bother me. Do you think I ought to make an appointment or even get a second opinion?'
I would guess that the WAY you tell your husband about things might have something to do with the way HE reacts to your news.
You've not told us WHICH tooth, if it's a molar, offer to just have it pulled. Every abscess doesn't kill or ruin your health. Mine didn't even hurt! I found it by accident when a grape sized lump developed in my mouth (up front). You seem to expect the worst in every situation.
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