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RE: proposals - 7/7/2008 3:51:27 PM
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John_O
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a friend of mine proposed on the fourth of July a few years back.
You know those firework flags that they light up? Well he had one made that said "(hername), will you marry me?, (hisname)"
Went over really well. She said yes. Problem was she was still married to her husband and never told him that the divorce wasn't done yet. He was heartbroken.
I proposed to M during the Christmas season. We opened presents at her house since I had to go back to DC the next morning. (She got me a teddy bear and a bible)
I got her a box (about copier paper sized) wrapped nicely with a card. The card read "My M, I love you so very much. Please..... , Love John"
Inside the box was a slightly smaller box and a card "My M, ...say..., Love John"
Inside was a smaller box yet with a card "My M, ...yes. Love John"
Inside that was the ring box. and as she went to open it I dropped to my knee and and asked her to marry me. I think it worked. She said yes.
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RE: proposals - 7/7/2008 10:53:23 PM
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skreyola
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Ladies, what do you think would be a neat way to be proposed to?
Actually, I think it would be the sweetest thing in the world to be proposed to just out of him not being able to hold back his feelings anymore and his words would just tumble out every which way, sweetly awkward and totally "un-rigged"...to see a man be that tender and real would just touch my soul, better than any elaborate, planned proposal.
But then, I am SUCH a hopeless romantic type, totally silly, like you just DON'T even know. (((( sigh ))))
I thought the same thing when I read the OP. A bottle, or skywriting, or the wait staff singing, or whatever, just doesn't seem to me to be as meaningful as a man speaking to a woman and telling her that he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her.
I think I'd like to say something about how difficult marriage is and how much I would like to tackle those amazing difficulties with my wife at my side and both of us fixing our gazes on Jesus.
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RE: proposals - 7/7/2008 11:12:40 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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I think I'd like to say something about how difficult marriage is and how much I would like to tackle those amazing difficulties with my wife at my side and both of us fixing our gazes on Jesus. [/quote
I don't deny marriage has its difficulties, but that sounds a little pessimistic.
When my best friend got married, her husband kind of had the approach you did..not about saying the difficulty stuff, but in kind of having a very unromantic proposal. He turned out to be a GREAT husband, so it's not a big deal, but she was a little dissapointed to not have a more romantic proposal.
I really think that if a guy has gotten to the point where he is ready to ask a woman to marry her, he should have studied her enough by then to know what kind of proposal would mean a lot to her, and if it is a romantic one than that's what he should endeavor to do.
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RE: proposals - 7/8/2008 12:16:20 AM
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skreyola
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I think I'd like to say something about how difficult marriage is and how much I would like to tackle those amazing difficulties with my wife at my side and both of us fixing our gazes on Jesus.
I don't deny marriage has its difficulties, but that sounds a little pessimistic.
When my best friend got married, her husband kind of had the approach you did..not about saying the difficulty stuff, but in kind of having a very unromantic proposal. He turned out to be a GREAT husband, so it's not a big deal, but she was a little dissapointed to not have a more romantic proposal.
I really think that if a guy has gotten to the point where he is ready to ask a woman to marry her, he should have studied her enough by then to know what kind of proposal would mean a lot to her, and if it is a romantic one than that's what he should endeavor to do.
If we are focused on God, no difficulty is too much for us. I agree that it sounds pessimistic, but I don't feel that it actually is. It's very realistic, and if you get beyond the brushed-metal exterior of the thing, it's actually romantic on a deeper level than the "everything will be roses because we love each other" that people seem to put into what they say about marriage these days. I think having realistic expectations is the foundation for having a truly awesome marriage. I'm all for finding out what my future wife would like in a proposal, and I will do my best to meet her expectations in it, but I'm not likely to talk about how life will be smooth sailing because we've finally found each other. Life is struggle. What makes it a good or a bad struggle is the companions you have on the voyage and the expectations you take along.
I think a lot of why people feel dissatisfied is that they've bought into the Hollywood ideal of non-stop glee. Love is about sacrifice. In the true ideal, the husband lays down his life for his wife; not just taking a bullet for her, but every day, he lays down his life for her, doing what is best for her over what his whims of the day draw him toward.
True romance, like true beauty, is far below the surface. 
Sorry for going off-topic.
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RE: proposals - 7/8/2008 4:02:32 AM
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OneOfHisJewels
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I think I'd like to say something about how difficult marriage is and how much I would like to tackle those amazing difficulties with my wife at my side and both of us fixing our gazes on Jesus.
I don't deny marriage has its difficulties, but that sounds a little pessimistic.
When my best friend got married, her husband kind of had the approach you did..not about saying the difficulty stuff, but in kind of having a very unromantic proposal. He turned out to be a GREAT husband, so it's not a big deal, but she was a little dissapointed to not have a more romantic proposal.
I really think that if a guy has gotten to the point where he is ready to ask a woman to marry her, he should have studied her enough by then to know what kind of proposal would mean a lot to her, and if it is a romantic one than that's what he should endeavor to do.
If we are focused on God, no difficulty is too much for us. I agree that it sounds pessimistic, but I don't feel that it actually is. It's very realistic, and if you get beyond the brushed-metal exterior of the thing, it's actually romantic on a deeper level than the "everything will be roses because we love each other" that people seem to put into what they say about marriage these days. I think having realistic expectations is the foundation for having a truly awesome marriage. I'm all for finding out what my future wife would like in a proposal, and I will do my best to meet her expectations in it, but I'm not likely to talk about how life will be smooth sailing because we've finally found each other. Life is struggle. What makes it a good or a bad struggle is the companions you have on the voyage and the expectations you take along.
I think a lot of why people feel dissatisfied is that they've bought into the Hollywood ideal of non-stop glee. Love is about sacrifice. In the true ideal, the husband lays down his life for his wife; not just taking a bullet for her, but every day, he lays down his life for her, doing what is best for her over what his whims of the day draw him toward.
True romance, like true beauty, is far below the surface.
Sorry for going off-topic.
Oh, well when you put it that way, I completely agree. The first time just sounded to me like you were saying that marriage was going to be hard anyway, so why bother even trying to treat her right. When you put it this way, it's totally different.
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 2:51:53 AM
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Just a private proposal. Not a public one in front of a whole lot of people. Although I like to see public ones on TV. But I'd like a traditional private moment - just between the two of us, where he'd declare his undying love for me, his desire to spend the rest of his life with me and my 'yes' response.
If he wants to do something spectacular that's ok. But still just between the two of us.
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 8:47:45 AM
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Just a private proposal. Not a public one in front of a whole lot of people. Although I like to see public ones on TV. But I'd like a traditional private moment - just between the two of us, where he'd declare his undying love for me, his desire to spend the rest of his life with me and my 'yes' response.
If he wants to do something spectacular that's ok. But still just between the two of us.
My sentiments exactly!
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 11:24:32 AM
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skreyola
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Just a private proposal. Not a public one in front of a whole lot of people. Although I like to see public ones on TV. But I'd like a traditional private moment - just between the two of us, where he'd declare his undying love for me, his desire to spend the rest of his life with me and my 'yes' response.
If he wants to do something spectacular that's ok. But still just between the two of us.
My sentiments exactly!
Mine, too.
By the bye, WaitingforBoaz, you have a wonderful forum name.
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 3:21:00 PM
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skreyola
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ORIGINAL: skreyola
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Just a private proposal. Not a public one in front of a whole lot of people. Although I like to see public ones on TV. But I'd like a traditional private moment - just between the two of us, where he'd declare his undying love for me, his desire to spend the rest of his life with me and my 'yes' response.
If he wants to do something spectacular that's ok. But still just between the two of us.
My sentiments exactly!
Mine, too.
By the bye, WaitingforBoaz, you have a wonderful forum name.
Thank you Skreyola! It's a perfect fit I think. 
You need a kinsman to redeem your property? 
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 3:53:45 PM
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You need a kinsman to redeem your property?
i'd say GYTTFT but you are already there flirting with multiple women, lol!
Thank you for saying what I was thinking! LOLOLOL
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 11:44:48 PM
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I think I'd like to say something about how difficult marriage is and how much I would like to tackle those amazing difficulties with my wife at my side and both of us fixing our gazes on Jesus.
I don't deny marriage has its difficulties, but that sounds a little pessimistic.
When my best friend got married, her husband kind of had the approach you did..not about saying the difficulty stuff, but in kind of having a very unromantic proposal. He turned out to be a GREAT husband, so it's not a big deal, but she was a little dissapointed to not have a more romantic proposal.
I really think that if a guy has gotten to the point where he is ready to ask a woman to marry her, he should have studied her enough by then to know what kind of proposal would mean a lot to her, and if it is a romantic one than that's what he should endeavor to do.
If we are focused on God, no difficulty is too much for us. I agree that it sounds pessimistic, but I don't feel that it actually is. It's very realistic, and if you get beyond the brushed-metal exterior of the thing, it's actually romantic on a deeper level than the "everything will be roses because we love each other" that people seem to put into what they say about marriage these days. I think having realistic expectations is the foundation for having a truly awesome marriage. I'm all for finding out what my future wife would like in a proposal, and I will do my best to meet her expectations in it, but I'm not likely to talk about how life will be smooth sailing because we've finally found each other. Life is struggle. What makes it a good or a bad struggle is the companions you have on the voyage and the expectations you take along.
I think a lot of why people feel dissatisfied is that they've bought into the Hollywood ideal of non-stop glee. Love is about sacrifice. In the true ideal, the husband lays down his life for his wife; not just taking a bullet for her, but every day, he lays down his life for her, doing what is best for her over what his whims of the day draw him toward.True romance, like true beauty, is far below the surface.
Sorry for going off-topic.
That was worth the price of admission, right there.
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RE: proposals - 7/9/2008 11:55:10 PM
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And now back on topic:
I used to live in a town (gee, guess where?) that has a live nightly showing of "Oklahoma" in a beautiful ampitheater all summer long. It's a great production and draws a good audience. One night, when the time came for Curly to propose to Laurie, he said his line, then she said hers (I think it's "I reckon" or something like that...can't remember for sure.) and then Curly made a bow and said something like, "And while we're on the subject, Ma'am...my friend James over there (and he pointed to one of the cowboys in the chorus) is powerful antsy to know if Carrie (the girl who played Laurie) would marry him, as well? He'd be mighty proud if she did." It stopped the show and brought down the house. She cried and said yes, and it took a little while to get back to the show. But it was sweet.
HOWEVER, if you can believe it, this attention-seeking, spot-light-loving, center-of-the-universe diva, me, would much much much prefer just a simple and sweet "Will you?"
Even though I've been married, I've never been proposed to. Somehow he just started saying, "Well, when we get married..." and I sort of got married.
Still puzzled about that, really. 
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RE: proposals - 7/10/2008 12:06:32 AM
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skreyola
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That was worth the price of admission, right there.
Thank you. :)
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