wayward1
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I just walked out to the car and said THIS IS RIDICULOUS. You need to come inside. And by the way GIRL ON THE PHONE.........YOU WIN!!!
Instead of hanging up and asked her to hold on...... He came in and said I ruined his chance with her. Because she is such a great person to wait for him and know he has a wife and still be dedicated to him. She cheats on the men she is with..he told me that long ago before I was to know he loved her....... She is not being dedicated to him. She just wants a GOOD MAN as she says because they are hard to find. She knows exactly what she is doing. She is a fornicator and adultress.
I've just come the realization. HE NEEDS JESUS. He is NOT saved. He can't possibly be.
Now he is back outside on the phone with her
Thank him for being honest instead of just cheating and end it. Often times the man makes these decisions but keeps them to himself and puts your life in danger by having an affair. If he's telling the truth he's not as bad as he could be. He's bad, but not the worst. His behavior has no bearing on you as a person, but you don't seem to know it. Him not wanting to be with you doesn't make you less worthy, no matter how much it seems like it.
By fighting for him you indirectly admit you don't deserve better. But you do. We all do. We don't know you. Perhaps he deserves better than you. Perhaps you are the villain. Who knows? Relationships can really wreck you though, and it sounds like this one is just tearing you apart no matter how hard you try. You just can't ever know everything about what's in another person's heart or head and I can't help but insist that you should consider it a blessing that he's at least telling you about it instead of leading you on and using you and placing you at risk for all sorts of horrible stuff.
That may seem a little harsh but people go on for decades in bad marriages that they don't even know are bad. Imagine finding out in 20 years that you'd been living a lie all that time. He's giving you that 20 years back up front. Seriously, thank him, with a smile and say goodbye!
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RE: husband wants to return to gf now available - 
out! Let him know you love him, but you are mad as hell and you would not put up with his childish ****. He is married to you! He should accept that and work to overcome his issues without dishonoring you. God would love to restore your marriage, and I am praying with you for that. That does not mean you simply lay back and take whatever he dishes. Tough love is the way to go.
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