relationship between two young christians who are from different denominations???
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relationship between two young christians who are from ... - 5/22/2008 3:10:20 PM
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latinaflutechick
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i grew up going to many different churches because God led my family to serve in a bunch of different places...i spent the longest at a united methodist church(about 11 years). God recently moved us to a different church in philadelhpia from new jersey,and its pentecostal....
my boyfriend is still back at the methodist church with his family.his mother loves the idea of my new church,but his father is a "loyal" methodist,and still questions why we go to 'these types of churches".
my boyfriend and i have talked about getting married after we both finish college (im almost sure.lol),but he plans on being a methodist pastor,and i personally have no problem with methodist churches,as long as the pastors are spirit led,anointed,and loving pastors.the congregation is united,and that the whole church is completely holy spirit led.and that nothing gets in the way of worship.and that his church understands that we are one church,with one god,and in the end no denominatin exists.
no offense to any one who is united methodist, but thats really hard to find in my area.
my boyfriend says that usually the methodist pastors wife wouldnt go to another church other than the one hes pastoring in.
i know god has called me to something big,i dont really know all the details,and im waiting on Him to let me know when and how to take action on certain things...
but my boyfriend just htinks hes supposed to be a methodist pastor....i personally think he hasnt really put a lot of prayer into it...his father was/is a methodist pastor,and i htink the whole reason he wants to be one is because of his father putting that into his head...
me on the other hand,i go where God leads me,regardless the church or denomination..i am His servant,and i'll do what im told.
anyone have any feedback for me? ever been in this situation? please to anyone reading this..pray before you post answer,nothing personal but i prefer that you pray that God uses you to help me out=)if you decide not to reply, please keep me in your prayers!
much love,
jojo
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RE: relationship between two young christians who are f... - 5/22/2008 4:27:31 PM
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doinkdom
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IMO, if you two are not unified, you need to make sure you are before you get married.
What might seem ok in the short-term wears very thin in the long haul of marriage.
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RE: relationship between two young christians who are f... - 5/22/2008 5:04:21 PM
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preserved
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Has God called your boyfriend to become a pastor?? If so God will also lead him as to what he doctrine God leads him to preach...
If he is called to pastor...the two of you needs to be on one accord...
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RE: relationship between two young christians who are f... - 5/22/2008 6:04:27 PM
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Under other circumstances, I would say that I know of many couples in which both partners profess membership in different denominations. My husband and I are a good example.
But if your boyfriend has truly been called to the ministry, I believe that you should be in full accord with him. Not only for the sake of harmony between the two of you, but also because he would face a great deal of criticism from the governing church body, the seminary he attended, and the church he eventually was assigned to.
Most pastor's wives find themselves as involved in the church served by the husband as he is himself. It's almost a requirement.
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RE: relationship between two young christians who are f... - 5/22/2008 7:38:51 PM
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ames01
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I don't have a whole lot to add to the advice others have already given, other than to make sure that you and your boyfriend both spend a lot of time in prayer over the issue (which I'm sure you are already doing). As you have probably noticed, there is a great deal of difference between the United Methodist denomination and the Pentecostal denominations. Sitting down together and discussing possible doctrine-related issues that may come up before they happen (for example, whether or not to baptize your children when they are infants) may help to avoid a lot of future conflict. I hope everything works out well for the two of you!
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RE: relationship between two young christians who are f... - 5/23/2008 7:17:28 AM
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latinaflutechick
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thanks a bunch everyone! i read every post,and u were all very helpful...we talked last night for a few hours,and i realized i have to learn to trust my boyfriend and even more,i have to learn to trust God more.
i got to that point when he said"jojo,you know me...you've known me for eight years,and you know i dont agree with the same things u dont agree with.remember,i would be the pastor of this church. you know i wouldnt let anything that is not from God happen,and i would embrace the fact that my church is full of worshipers."
it made me think..a lot...and as i prayed a little over it,and thought about it, and remembered that i said in my own words that i go wherever god leads me to serve,and what you guys said that if we get married we have to be on one accord,i asked myself...so then what am i afraid of? after 8 years,dont i think my boyfriend prays too? lol
dont i trust him to listen when God speaks? even more dont i trust God?
so i will keep praying on this,but this time i'll have more trust in God...
and i'll be praying that whatever both our callings are,that He make it clear to us in His timing.
thnx to everyone who replied,
much love and God bless,
jojo
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gave us God's fire. God gave us music that we might pray without
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RE: relationship between two young christians who are f... - 5/24/2008 8:03:36 PM
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ORIGINAL: ames01
Sitting down together and discussing possible doctrine-related issues that may come up before they happen may help to avoid a lot of future conflict.
I second this.
Before I entered into my relationship, my girl and I both openly discussed the differences in doctrines, which the conversation itself turned out greatly. Make sure you both are on the same level of agreement and are at one accord.
Also, pray until your tongue is blue. Make sure you're absolutely positive he's the one for you, Christ will give you that assurance if it is to be.
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