Desires and Disappointments: Deep Truths from Two Mentors
By Ellen Dykas, Guest Writer
Today’s Treasure
"Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder, and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider Him who endured from sinners such hostility against Himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted." Hebrews 12:1-3
We need the endurance to finish a race well, and that includes our lifelong journey of faith, obedience, and love. I’m strengthened to know that Jesus is with me and that He eagerly provides running mates along the way. Friends, mentors, and teachers are provided by God to encourage us to love well and to keep our gaze on Jesus when lonely or disappointed.
I’d like to close out this week by sharing wisdom from two mentors who’ve taught me how to love wisely, honestly, and courageously when it’s hard. Amy Carmichael has discipled me for years through her books. As a fellow single woman who faced various disappointments, I’ve felt a unique kinship with her. The poem below is one I’ve had on my heart often when life didn’t flow the way I wanted.
Rose from Briar
Thou hast not that, My child, but thou hast Me,
And am not I alone enough for thee?
I know it all, know how thy heart was set
Upon this joy which is not given yet.
And well I know how through the wistful days
Thou walkest all the dear familiar ways,
As unregarded as a breath of air,
But there in love and longing, always there!
I know it all; but from thy brier shall blow
A rose for others. If it were not so
I would have told thee. Come then, say to Me:
My Lord, my Love, I am content with Thee.
Amy Carmichael, “Mountain Breezes: The Collected Poems of Amy Carmichael” (CLC Publications: Fort Washington, PA), 1999, p. 294.
Bill Smith mentored me while I studied biblical counseling at The Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation. His insights below have kept me on track with Christ’s gospel path regarding relationships.
“Slowly I have come to realize that my calling in every one of my relationships is to live with sinful people the rest of my life. Like me, each person in my life is weak or sinful in some way. But that doesn’t mean I am supposed to manipulate or nag them. Instead, I am to bear patiently with the things that are difficult for me to accept or that annoy me. NOT to condone sin, but to realize frankly that people DO sin and will need help. I am called to create healing relationships and to care for those who damaged...” William Smith, “Loving Well, Even if You Haven’t Been”, (New Growth Press: Greensboro NC), 2012) p. 75.
LIFE-GIVING ENCOURAGEMENT
Jesus faced disappointment in His relationships, and still does! We fail and sin against Him whenever we turn towards the world or people to satisfy our hearts. His response?
"Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in Me. In my Father's house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also." John 14:1-3
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About the Author: Ellen Dykas has been involved in ministry for over 30 years and since 2007 has served as the women’s ministry coordinator at Harvest USA a national ministry dedicated to discipleship and church education regarding sexuality and gender. Ellen focuses on discipling women who struggle with sexual and relational sins in their own lives, as well as women who are impacted by the sexual sins of their spouses or others. She delights to teach God’s Word, disciple others toward intimacy with Christ, and encourage believers to fully engage God’s kingdom mission. She is the author of Toxic Relationships: Taking Refuge in Christ. Her most recent book and accompanying Leader’s Guide is Jesus and Your Unwanted Journey: Wives Finding Comfort After Sexual Betrayal is the fruit of over 14 years of ministry and care to hurting women.
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Originally published Saturday, 17 February 2024.
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