Warren Wiersbe at a Moody Bible’s Pastors Conference on Psalm 78 shared three things about sheep:
Sheep stink.
Sheep need to be led, not driven.
The sheep are not the enemy (Ephesians 6:10-12: “We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against powers in the demonic hierarchy...”).
Paul wrote that the Corinthians were not “unaware of Satan’s devices.” Unfortunately, in my experience, many Christians are quite unaware of Satan’s devices. Fortunately, Paul lists them for us.
He delights in causing division and dissension in the church family.
He encourages tolerating sin.
He delights in harsh discipline which drives people away.
He promotes an unforgiving spirit which leads to bitterness and resentment.
As believers, we must be aware of Satan's schemes.
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Like dysfunctional families, many churches are dysfunctional.
1. Dysfunctional families communicate double messages.
2. In dysfunctional families love has to be earned.
3. Denial and delusion often reign in dysfunctional settings.
Church discipline keeps us from becoming dysfunctional by giving us a method to bring wounds and pain out into the open where they can be properly handled (Matthew 18:15-17; Galatians 6:1-2; and Ephesians 4:15).
Paul tells us in Ephesians 4:15 to “share the truth in love.” Most of us have never seen this. We have seen the truth shared in anger, bitterness, and resentment. We have seen people refuse to share the truth. Functional churches, like functional families, share the truth in love.
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Forgiveness removes the offense as a barrier to future fellowship.
First, forgiving does not mean that we let those who hurt us “off the hook.” They need to pay for what they did. This is what justice is all about. When we forgive we may let them off our “hook,” but they are still on God’s “hook”! Remember the Lord says, “Vengeance is mine.” So, let Him do His work. He dispenses justice in His own time.
Second, forgiving is not a sign of weakness. Forgiveness is a courageous act that integrates the grace, kindness, and compassion of Christ.
Third, forgiving does not mean that we forget what they did to us. The pain of some things is so intense that we will never forget them. Nevertheless, by God’s grace we can forgive them.
Fourth, forgiving doesn’t mean that we restore the relationship with the ones who hurt us as if nothing ever happened. Something did happen. Trust was broken. Circumstances have changed. Abuse occurred. We may choose to establish boundaries, giving the offender the opportunity to regain our trust. We have the freedom to expand the boundary fence if we want to, or to leave it exactly where it is. We can restore the relationship someday if we want—or not restore it at all.
Fifth, you really do want to forgive before deep bitterness and resentment become ingrained.
Sixth, it’s not possible to be at peace with all people (Romans 12:7). As Christians we feel that we are required to fix every broken relationship and live in harmony with all of our brothers and sisters. Unfortunately, some relationships just will not work out. It is okay to leave them behind and go on with others.
Finally, you know that you have forgiven them when you don't want to hurt them anymore.
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We don’t know much about how to bring comfort in American society.
Jesus said, “Blessed are they who mourn for they shall be comforted.”
Your 14-year-old daughter is mercilessly teased on the school bus and comes weeping in the front door. You say to your child, “What did you do to cause them to treat you like that?”
I hope that’s not what you say.
What she needed was comfort. What she got was condemnation.
Comfort is weeping with those who weep: “I am so sorry. I know this really hurts!”
Let me give you some thoughts on what comfort sounds like:
“I have a great pain and sadness that you were hurt by...”
“I feel compassion for you because I love you...”
“My heart is filled with sorrow because of what has happened to you...”
Comfort is filled with feeling words. It brings love, acceptance, security, approval, respect and understanding.
There is a time for encouragement, reasoning and figuring out how to fix it, but we don’t start there. Those things come later. Comfort is what heals the hurt.
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I was shaken by a small news item about a 14-year-old boy who took his own life because, as he wrote in his suicide note, “No one seems to care.”
He felt no love from anyone, except his dog. In that brief suicide note, he left instructions for the care of his dog.
“No one seems to care.” What a sharp rebuke to our lack of love. “Maybe that’s why the local tavern is such a popular place,” writes Charles Swindoll.
Let's stive to love, even the unlovable, with love that never stops loving.
Dr. Roger Barrier retired as senior teaching pastor from Casas Church in Tucson, Arizona. In addition to being an author and sought-after conference speaker, Roger has mentored or taught thousands of pastors, missionaries, and Christian leaders worldwide.
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