So, I was scrolling through my old messages looking for some to delete, and then I found this old conversation with my sister.
Here is an extract from that conversation:
"Okay, so, get this! I was killing it on stage and singing my heart out, leading worship. I was SO into it. And then...BAM! I saw her. Sarah. Ugh. Remember Sarah? We used to do everything together! Like all the girls' stuff and church stuff. We were joined at the hip!
But then...the DRAMA. Someone started this stupid, mean rumor about something I didn't even DO! Everyone was talking about it, and it got all blown out of proportion. And Sarah...well, she believed it. We haven't talked in, like, FOREVER. Seriously, months!
Anyway, there she was, sitting in the third row! I almost choked on my high note! I felt like a million things at once. I felt guilty and also super mad about the rumor. And... I don't know... Did I miss her? It was weird.
I quickly looked away, trying to focus on the words on the screen, but I could feel her staring at me! It was so awkward! After the song, all I could think was, Please, please, please don't let her talk to me! Seriously. I know that's not very Christian of me, but that's honestly what I was thinking! I didn't want to deal with it. Ugh! It was such a cringey Sunday!"
At its core, Christianity is about love, grace, and redemption. We sing about it, preach about it, and strive to embody it. Yet, certain harsh realities often get glossed over, uncomfortable truths that many Christians, myself included, sometimes struggle to embrace fully.
These realities aren't meant to discourage us but to refine us, pushing us towards a deeper, more authentic faith. Are you ready to face these truths and allow them to transform your walk with Christ? Well, here are some of these harsh realities we get to deal with as Christians:
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We hear the phrase "forgive and forget" all the time. Sounds simple. The Bible clearly states that we must forgive. Ephesians 4:32 says, "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." But the reality is that forgiveness isn't a switch you can flip, especially when dealing with deep hurt. It's a journey of releasing bitterness, acknowledging pain, and extending grace, even when it feels undeserved.
Consider this: studies have shown that holding onto resentment and unforgiveness can lead to increased stress levels, higher blood pressure, and a weakened immune system. That's the physical toll. The spiritual toll is even higher, hindering our connection with God and clouding judgment. It requires intentionality, prayer, and often, seeking guidance from trusted Christian friends or counselors. It's not excusing the wrong done to you, but instead releasing the power that wrong has over your life. Don't be too hard on yourself if you don't feel like forgiving immediately. Keep praying for that person and asking God to soften your heart.
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Unfortunately, the prosperity gospel, which has gained traction in some circles, suggests that following Christ guarantees a life of ease and abundance. But Scripture tells a different story. Jesus himself said in John 16:33, "These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." Suffering, in its various forms, is an inevitable part of the human experience, and Christians are not exempt.
Whether it's illness, financial hardship, relationship struggles, or persecution for our faith, suffering can feel overwhelming. However, our faith is tested, refined, and deepened through these trials. As 1 Peter 1:6-7 states: "Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations: That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honor and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ." We can learn to lean on God's strength and find purpose amid pain. Embrace your suffering and trust that God will turn it into something beautiful in His time. Remember that even Jesus suffered greatly. Use that fact to inspire you.
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We all want immediate outcomes, a fast solution to our spiritual problems. However, in Christ, progress is a long race, not a sprint. It needs constant work: daily prayer, Bible study, helping others, and actively seeking God's plan for our lives. We frequently depend on our clergy for regular teaching, neglecting personal scripture study. It requires an ongoing effort.
It's like physical fitness. You can't run a marathon without regular training. Likewise, you can't expect spiritual growth without deliberately tending your bond with God.
As believers, we must make it a duty to always engage in activities that will help us grow spiritually. This steady dedication to personal development strengthens our connection with God.
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Jesus cautioned his disciples that they'd encounter opposition. Though open hostility may have now become a rare incident globally, most Christians still frequently experience criticism, scorn, and confusion from non-believers.
It's not sensible to assume universal acceptance of your faith. Some will jeer at your convictions, others will attempt to sway you, and some will ignore you. Rather than pushing your beliefs through arguments or debating your ideals with nonbelievers, show Christ's affection and mercy through Christ-like characters, such as love, understanding, tolerance, patience, kindness, and more.
Let your deeds demonstrate your faith more than your words. Remember, winning converts isn't your duty; that's the Holy Spirit's work. Your part is to be a testament, a living illustration of God's changing influence.
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We often feel shame or guilt when doubt overwhelms us, fearing it means we're less of a believer. But guess what? Doubt is normal. Even the most devout have experienced it. Consider doubt to be a doorway, rather than a source of frustration. A chance to delve deeply into your faith, question your beliefs, and perhaps even find a closer connection with God. It is an invitation to ask difficult questions, seek answers, and allow God to meet you right where you are, even in the uncertainty.
What about Thomas? (John 20:24-29) He doubted the resurrection until he saw the evidence. Jesus didn't condemn him; he offered proof and invited Thomas to believe. That's a powerful example. Instead of sweeping doubt under the carpet, let us confront it head-on.
Admitting our moments of doubt can actually strengthen our faith. Be like that dad in Mark 9:24, the one who cried out, "Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief!" He was real and vulnerable, and he found strength in his honesty. So can we.
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Honestly, churches aren't flawless. Sometimes members make mistakes. These actions, whether deliberate or unintentional, can cause us significant pain. We're discussing criticism, rumors, control struggles, and even mistreatment. Have you ever felt betrayed, disappointed, and doubt your beliefs? You are not the only one.
It's alright to feel the hurt. Don't suppress your emotions. Allow yourself to mourn. Speak with someone you trust—friends or relatives. But remember that forgiveness is essential, and so are limits.
Remember, a church isn't a structure; the individuals worship it. It's a group of flawed individuals striving to follow Christ. Therefore, it's wise to concentrate on your bond with God and find wholesome, encouraging Christian relationships. This path is challenging, but you can find strength and recovery.
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We live in an instant gratification society, where we expect immediate results. But God's timing rarely aligns with our own. We may pray for something fervently, believing it's God's will, only to have our prayers seemingly unanswered.
Waiting on God can be frustrating and discouraging, especially when facing difficult circumstances. But remember that God's ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9). He sees the bigger picture and knows what's best for us, even when we don't understand.
Trust in God's sovereignty, even when you don't see immediate results. Use the waiting period to draw closer to him, seek his guidance, and develop patience and perseverance. Remember the story of Joseph, who endured years of hardship and injustice before finally being elevated to a position of power in Egypt (Genesis 37-50)? His story is a testament to God's faithfulness amid long, arduous journeys. God doesn't tell time like we do. He is not bound by time.
Embracing these harsh realities is not easy. It requires vulnerability, honesty, and a willingness to confront our imperfections. But it's through this process of self-reflection and surrender, we can experience a deeper, more authentic relationship with Christ.
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